LTR potential or nah?

[CornbreadFed]

I mean I knew there's gonna be people making claims like you, this doesn't make it less funny tho. As I said - already had tons of sex for my age as well as some good LTRs. I'm not desperate, access to sex is easy and have plenty of experience.

Then why are you trying to get outside assurance to date this girl? You know she’s not LTR material, but scarcity is affecting your brain.

And this thread I see many people trying to tell me I'm hopeless or some $hit lol.
I guess nobody read that I'm simply curious on how you people see these redflags as a pernament no no or something to be fixed by vetting.
Either way - I'm good, thanks for caring about my mindset mate

Because we aren’t blinded by this girl’s pvssy like you, so our input will be more raw.

 

[Fowo]

OP you mentioned something about pills?

Are you telling me you is on anti depressants? Or did you mean "The Pill" as in contraception.

If she is in meds.. Then I suggest you run, that alone is a deal breaker.

Nah ment she's on contraception pills. If she's on them constantly but havent been in a relationship for some time it's pretty clear whats the purpose of those, maybe max 10% chance or less she's just been taking them constantly all this time to not fuk up hormones. I'm not one to believe that is the case, not that naive lol.
Yeah I did plate some bipolar girl for some time and while sex was top notch, even if I get back to casual sex, never again. $hit's not worth it, having to listen about auras and other weird stuff was funny the first time she started talking about it but lost its charm quickly

Then why are you trying to get outside assurance to date this girl? You know she’s not LTR material, but scarcity is affecting your brain.

Wdym, assurance? I stated earlier I worded it poorly, 'english is not my first language and yada yada' card (although to be fair I probably just bit the way I approached writing that post from the wrong direction and can't fully blame language for that). I'm asking pretty much only about what do people think about these redflags, gave all the other stuff for a whole picture.
Also not a scarcity issue, as I literally wrote earlier the reason I like her is because of good vibez and impressively similiar hobbies.

Because we aren’t blinded by this girl’s pvssy like you, so our input will be more raw.

Yeah I'm so blinded, almost like I didn't literally said im meeting other women, as well as with this particular one gonna meet her once or twice and leave it at that. Such a huge oneitis I have, goddamn you got me.

I don't care about you guys going rough on me but constantly trying to tell me I'm going nuts for this girl is pretty bizzare, considering all the additional explaining I'm doing. Agreed though, first post was too messy and that's on me, it didn't get out straight what I expect from you - still, explaining I did should have made my pov clearer.

So to sum up and clear this mess a bit:

• not going crazy for her - liked her but more interested in how much of a dealbreaker these redflags are in your varied opinion (And potentially how many of them I put in the yellow category wrongly). All additional stuff given for context
• no oneitis syndrome, got loads of casual experience (for the age, especially considering I've been in a nearly 4 years long LTR) and meeting other women at the same time
• not planning to jump back into plating girls - done that, got bored, prefer LTRs
• no scarcity mindset - I'm 2 whatsapp messages away from getting laid if I want to, but choose not to. OLD going well too once I put my ass to actually swiping (it's kinda boring though so I'll start doing it maybe once per 2 weeks). Most of the time dgaf about women and just enjoying life instead - sex is cool and all but have you ever had an amazing sparring session?

Hope I straightened out some things about this thread - again, yeah, messy top post which is completly my own fault and didn't exactly translate reason why it exists in the first place, taking full responsibility for that

And with that out of the way I'm going out to enjoy weekend with some drinks and pool, may come back here on Sunday
Cheers everyone

 

[soulforge]

Nah ment she's on contraception pills. If she's on them constantly but havent been in a relationship for some time it's pretty clear whats the purpose of those, maybe max 10% chance or less she's just been taking them constantly all this time to not fuk up hormones. I'm not one to believe that is the case, not that naive lol.
Yeah I did plate some bipolar girl for some time and while sex was top notch, even if I get back to casual sex, never again. $hit's not worth it, having to listen about auras and other weird stuff was funny the first time she started talking about it but lost its charm quickly

Wdym, assurance? I stated earlier I worded it poorly, 'english is not my first language and yada yada' card (although to be fair I probably just bit the way I approached writing that post from the wrong direction and can't fully blame language for that). I'm asking pretty much only about what do people think about these redflags, gave all the other stuff for a whole picture.
Also not a scarcity issue, as I literally wrote earlier the reason I like her is because of good vibez and impressively similiar hobbies.


Yeah I'm so blinded, almost like I didn't literally said im meeting other women, as well as with this particular one gonna meet her once or twice and leave it at that. Such a huge oneitis I have, goddamn you got me.

I don't care about you guys going rough on me but constantly trying to tell me I'm going nuts for this girl is pretty bizzare, considering all the additional explaining I'm doing. Agreed though, first post was too messy and that's on me, it didn't get out straight what I expect from you - still, explaining I did should have made my pov clearer.

So to sum up and clear this mess a bit:

• not going crazy for her - liked her but more interested in how much of a dealbreaker these redflags are in your varied opinion (And potentially how many of them I put in the yellow category wrongly). All additional stuff given for context
• no oneitis syndrome, got loads of casual experience (for the age, especially considering I've been in a nearly 4 years long LTR) and meeting other women at the same time
• not planning to jump back into plating girls - done that, got bored, prefer LTRs
• no scarcity mindset - I'm 2 whatsapp messages away from getting laid if I want to, but choose not to. OLD going well too once I put my ass to actually swiping (it's kinda boring though so I'll start doing it maybe once per 2 weeks). Most of the time dgaf about women and just enjoying life instead - sex is cool and all but have you ever had an amazing sparring session?

Hope I straightened out some things about this thread - again, yeah, messy top post which is completly my own fault and didn't exactly translate reason why it exists in the first place, taking full responsibility for that

And with that out of the way I'm going out to enjoy weekend with some drinks and pool, may come back here on Sunday
Cheers everyone

OP your post was pretty rational and you actually asked a bunch of good questions.

This girl has a mixture of green and red flags, which obviously makes it difficult to decide on wether she is LTR material.

Go with your gut instinct.. One thing I would say is, your still young & your not even in your prime.

Aslong as you work on yourself, money, muscles & status, you will meet way better chicks in years to come.

Those who are complaining about you making a post about this situation, ignore them. Just because you have a few doubts & want some insight from others, doesn't mean that you already lost.

Some jokers on here, always go to the extremes. Personally I don't believe the red flags are too bad, however her being on contraception and pushing hard for sex, suggests that likely she has been around the block a few times.

 

[manfrombelow]

D@mn, Bro. That was deep

My ex had a way of making me feel stupid, inadequate, unheard, unrespected, and useless most of the time I stayed with her. Guess that's why she's an ex.

 

[sevbucmash]

@Fowo That's Feb 1st dating for 7 days, so now it's 40 days in. What happened? How did it work out?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

OP your post was pretty rational and you actually asked a bunch of good questions.

This girl has a mixture of green and red flags, which obviously makes it difficult to decide on wether she is LTR material.

Go with your gut instinct.. One thing I would say is, your still young & your not even in your prime.

Aslong as you work on yourself, money, muscles & status, you will meet way better chicks in years to come.

Those who are complaining about you making a post about this situation, ignore them. Just because you have a few doubts & want some insight from others, doesn't mean that you already lost.

Some jokers on here, always go to the extremes. Personally I don't believe the red flags are too bad, however her being on contraception and pushing hard for sex, suggests that likely she has been around the block a few times.

Green flags should not cancel out Red Flags. Red Flags are a full disqualifier of and by themself.

Like in the NFL draft when a player gets a Medical Red Flag from the doctors due to injury or a condition they don't feel comfortable with long term. They are immediately removed from the draft board no matter how good a player they are.

 

[manfrombelow]

Green flags should not cancel out Red Flags. Red Flags are a full disqualifier of and by themself.

Is there some kind of a ratio to this. I mean for example if a girl has 1 or 2 redflags but 6 or 8 greenflags? You'd still cancel her out then?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Is there some kind of a ratio to this. I mean for example if a girl has 1 or 2 redflags but 6 or 8 greenflags? You'd still cancel her out then?

Maybe it depends on the red flag. If she had a promiscous past she´s not worthy of exclusivity imho.

A different red flag could be tolerated. I guess not all red flags are created equal.

 

[manfrombelow]

Maybe it depends on the red flag. If she had a promiscous past she´s not worthy of exclusivity imho.

A different red flag could be tolerated. I guess not all red flags are created equal.

So we have to make a list of the kinds of redflags that are totally unacceptable (for example she's a porn actress), and the kinds that are less unacceptable.

 

[Desdinova]

Long story short got bored because (potentially controversial opinion coming) I'd rather fap it out in 15 minutes and get back to work or enjoying sports and my hobbies rather than spending countless evenings swiping on apps and meeting women.

I reached this point years ago. Peel one off and get back to life. Not only that, I know how to please myself better than any woman. It's much more convenient and satisfying than putting all this time and effort into fvcking some random bytch for a few weeks.

Was only in a single 2 years long relationship (she said her bf cheated on her - obviously no clue whether it's true)

She's trash according to High Score Theory. Fvck her casually while looking for a younger, more inexperienced woman.

 

[manfrombelow]

No, YOU have to make YOUR list on what is un/acceptable for YOU. There is not universal Green Flag/Red Flag list.

Finally something wise, totally not retarded, from you sir.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Is there some kind of a ratio to this. I mean for example if a girl has 1 or 2 redflags but 6 or 8 greenflags? You'd still cancel her out then?

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