Buddha_Mind said:
Agree with Eternal -- too much time here gets caught in mental masturbation and there's a lot of hurt men on here looking for fingers to point. Man I'm not saying modern dating is a picnic. I just know if I spent 1/2 of my time actually approaching that I have reading here, I'd know some more lessons. Sometimes though this place helps rekindle my motivation or give me some new perspectives.
It just seems like at the end of the day, being bitter just causes self-decay if nothing else.
I know what people are saying about no living with rose colored glasses. I've been hurt a lot myself and I understand that.
I just know not every woman is so evil as some of these complex theories make them out to be! I think we're giving them a lot more credit for likely them being just as clueless in their own ways as most men!
honeslty, the way i see it, is that i've done some **** that could.. that HAVE made women bitter. maybe wrongfully but still
my first real LTR.. did nothing wrong. at all. i just left lol. i was ready for something else. i knew i wasn't going to marry her so i said ****.. what's the point. i didn't cheat. i just left. she found a man and treated me right and ****ed me and cooked and wasn't a **** and laughed at my jokes, and didn't pressure me about marriage even though i know she wanted it, but i just left. she had the right to call me every name in the book. i mean i dont' care lol, but still she has that right.
i've had girls pop up over my house who have confessed how they can see a future with me only to find another girl's car in the driveway. i'v ehad girls break up with guys or stop seeing guys for me only for me to stop seeing them soon after for no real reason other than i was tired of her and wanted to get another/better plate in.
When i was actually single I was the freaking Mussolini of plate spinning. ruthless. i did not care, or give a **** about anything other than making backbreaker happy. and to me that's the only way this whole DJ **** can work i see DJism and Objectism as one in the same; there's no such thing as an altruistic DJ. And beucase of that, i can't get mad today when women are the same way. they want what they want. i want what i want. the game is the game as Omar would say. the better at the game YOU get, the more you can understand why women do what they do. beucse they want to. that's all you really need to know.