Looking for some help curbing some bad behavior I'm considering engaging in

[Sega Genesis]

So a woman will say "I want a man who is sweet, sensitive, and shares his inner secrets with me."

You post some good stuff @Dr_jitsu but with regard to this^ I do not feel this way and would never advise a man to behave that way.

Course I'm just one woman and agree there are many women who do claim to want that. And then when a man does behave that way, suddenly they lose interest and start chasing the mysterious elusive guy! Lol

I am in a relationship now with an extremely attractive man who posseses both "alpha" and "beta" qualities, it's a healthy balance with maybe a bit more alpha. But at times he can also be incredibly sweet!

Which is perfect for me!

@BeExcellent has been here for years, is very highly regarded and gives great advice!

Which is why I would guess @BPH tagged her and also myself.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

She seduced him with all sorts of wacky tricks.

The part when I knew it was over was when you said your favorite drink is Captain Morgan’s and energy drinks. That’s kid stuff right there. She probably found a guy with more maturity and sophistication.

 

[New_Journey]

I've dated plenty of women with problems.

This proves mi point, why do get attached to women like that? I am telling you what I can see from the outside. This is the root of your problems.

LIKING the women you sleep with

This proves my point agin. The women you most fvck might be hot but more important psychological healthy, that's why you don't CARE for them, cause you love the hot and with psychological problems, therefore you start to care. How can you not see this man?

The third (which was actually the first) was long-distance and ended up cheating on me, lying and claiming that she had been r*ped, blamed it on me for not being there to protect her, and didn't want to continue seeing me as a result

What age with this? I imagine this hurt a lot, you were inexperienced, chose the wrong women and your brain since then think that a woman who behaves like your first is the one you will love.

How was your first girl, the one who cheated on you? I imagine she's a nobody now since she must be physiological damaged.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

My last girl is 18 years younger than me and my ideal body type. She’s super nuts and messed up on booze and drugs. Super addictive sex

but once she crossed the line with me we were finished. I’ve seen her a few times in my neighborhood and I don’t say hi or anything, unfortunately, I’ve seen how things work out for girls like her and it’s not pretty at all

I’ve liked every female I’ve ever had intimate relationships with, meaning I’ve had feelings for them all. You guys are not spiritually well upstairs if you have sex with a female and walk away without any lasting connection whatsoever.

 

[New_Journey]

What I learned is to hold personal information very closely. If I am out on an early date with a woman and buying her a drink, and she asks me "why are you drinking water?"

Men who never drink a beer in a club not even one bottle is out of place, I see those guys all the time, pretending to be different, women friends tell me they look creepy as fvck. They go to a club and don't drink? That's how they think because I hear them saying it.

I say "I am driving home." Or "I have a heavy workout tomorrow."

You are lying because you are afraid of her judging and not liking you, like you've stated before, this is an insecurity of yours. Who gives a fvck what you did in the past? You think everyone's past is rainbows?

All she knows is "wow, this guy is super disciplined...I bet he is a stud in bed."

Source: Trust me, bro

And I was...seducing many women, and getting them to love me was my drug.

So replace a drug for another one according to this.

Women always ask "are you married? Or "have you ever been married?" Every time, always very early on before any sex has happened. I would answer "Only 11 times, but I am sure the next one will work, ha, ha, ha."

This is another lie. Were you married before? Yes I was. Why the fear man? You wanna use Agree and Amply but you're hiding a truth, actually saying 11 times gives the eyebrows of why are you so afraid of saying the real number? Or is it 11 times for real and you're bad with women?

"Oh it didn't work out"

This is the only answer you gotta give, nothing more nothing less. No explanation, its not her problem.

she liked the color blue, I liked red" or "she was a Jehovas; Witness" I am a Mormon."

You see here. You are trying to hard to hide the truth, you didn't know she liked the red before marrying her? You ddidn't know she was a Jehovas before marrying her? The same dumb excuses you give like this one, is a tell that is some red flags on you, like insecurities.

For BPH, a woman does not need to know he is living with his parents...keep that totally out of any early date talk.

Exactly, you said it correctly. Because you can see his problems from the outside, as I can see yours from my view.

 

[Dr_jitsu]

Men who never drink a beer in a club not even one bottle is out of place, I see those guys all the time, pretending to be different, women friends tell me they look creepy as fvck. They go to a club and don't drink? That's how they think because I hear them saying it.


You are lying because you are afraid of her judging and not liking you, like you've stated before, this is an insecurity of yours. Who gives a fvck what you did in the past? You think everyone's past is rainbows?


Source: Trust me, bro



So replace a drug for another one according to this.



This is another lie. Were you married before? Yes I was. Why the fear man? You wanna use Agree and Amply but you're hiding a truth, actually saying 11 times gives the eyebrows of why are you so afraid of saying the real number? Or is it 11 times for real and you're bad with women?


This is the only answer you gotta give, nothing more nothing less. No explanation, its not her problem.


You see here. You are trying to hard to hide the truth, you didn't know she liked the red before marrying her? You ddidn't know she was a Jehovas before marrying her? The same dumb excuses you give like this one, is a tell that is some red flags on you, like insecurities.


Exactly, you said it correctly. Because you can see his problems from the outside, as I can see yours from my view.

I took a look at your past posts. More than 20 and you are just nasty in each one. You seem to have a problem with everything said by anybody on this forum, calling them incels etc. You don't get along with people. I also see absolutely nothing that suggests you have any success with women whatsoever. Talk to me when you have a 20 year plus track record of success with women. Also, to think that a person not consuming alcohol is creepy suggests you have no common sense at all. Lots of people don't drink and do not need need alcohol to prosper with women. No woman I know wants her man to drink more, unless she herself has a problem with alcohol. There are an endless number of women who wish their men drank less.

So please understand why I am putting you on ignore, I have no use for your negativity in my life. Posts like yours illustrate the problem with this forum, say compared to the old MASF forum where everyone was trying to help everyone.

Now I am going to go eat the gourmet meal my wife just cooked for me. Have a nice evening.

 

[Dr_jitsu]

You post some good stuff @Dr_jitsu but with regard to this^ I do not feel this way and would never advise a man to behave that way.

Course I'm just one woman and agree there are many women who do claim to want that. And then when a man does behave that way, suddenly they lose interest and start chasing the mysterious elusive guy! Lol

I am in a relationship now with an extremely attractive man who posseses both "alpha" and "beta" qualities, it's a healthy balance with maybe a bit more alpha. But at times he can also be incredibly sweet!

Which is perfect for me!

@BeExcellent has been here for years, is very highly regarded and gives great advice!

Which is why I would guess @BPH tagged her and also myself.

You seem to be a very lovely person, Sega. Please don't take any thing I say otherwise.

In fact you are probobly the type of gal I would recommend a man have a relationship with.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Good sex. Hot woman. Sweet person.

Simple as that.

And a man who can't allow his ego to "lose".

 

[Dr_jitsu]

@BPH wtf man?... I'm gonna go on a limb here and say that hot women dump you all the time.

This is exactly what I am talking bout. BPH is making mistakes, but also does some things right. The decent thing to do is try and help him, instead you just hurl insults at him. People behave this way because they want to drag others down to their level. You just make things worse.

The Western world is brutal for good men wanting to date decent women. Instead of making things worse, why don't you support men who are struggling?

 

[BPH]

This proves mi point, why do get attached to women like that? I am telling you what I can see from the outside. This is the root of your problems.

I don't. Everybody has problems. By comparison, I have very few; I don't have any diseases, ailments, or disabilities. I was not abused, traumatized, or part of a dysfunctional family. I don't have any addictions or drug habits, and the only medication I take is a multivitamin. My problem is my financial and living situation - hers is her health and mental outlook. I don't expect anyone to be perfect.

This proves my point agin. The women you most fvck might be hot but more important psychological healthy, that's why you don't CARE for them, cause you love the hot and with psychological problems, therefore you start to care. How can you not see this man?

I have a friend who asked me a similar question. He knows I get around a lot and asked me why, instead of going for hot girls, I don't go for girls with great personalities. He's married, so here was my response to him: "If you could have your wife's personality in the body of Jessica Alba or the body of Rosie O'Donnell, which would you choose?" He couldn't answer my question because he didn't want to prove my point. That point is that I meet women I'm attracted to, then keep them around if I like them on the back-end - I'm not hunting for girls I'm not attracted to in the hopes that because they're not attractive they must have a great personality.

What age with this? I imagine this hurt a lot, you were inexperienced, chose the wrong women and your brain since then think that a woman who behaves like your first is the one you will love.

How was your first girl, the one who cheated on you? I imagine she's a nobody now since she must be physiological damaged.

I met this girl my senior year of college while she was a sophomore or junior; I can't remember. We met during the last half of my senior year, so we didn't get a lot of time together in school, but we kept seeing each other afterward because we were having a good time and decided that despite the distance and the fact that she was still in school that we could make it work. For context, she transferred back home to attend a school in New York, so it was a 4-hour drive any time I wanted to see her, so that was usually a once-monthly thing.

The way that ended left a bit of a scar wherein I don't ever fully trust women, further reinforced by my BPD ex. I was feeling depressed for a few months because I didn't know the truth and blamed myself; I should have been there, I should be there now, etc. A mutual friend who followed her on socials found out that was a lie and told me - I didn't know because I was blocked on everything after that. One random night in March at like 3 AM, she texts me to confess, probably assuming I wouldn't be awake. I told her I knew everything, cursed her out, blocked her, and haven't spoken to or seen her since.

Not every woman has all the problems of this girl and my BPD ex. My second serious relationship was quite nice. She was a wonderful girl, super sweet. The only reason that didn't work out was because she wanted to go wherever I went and end up married together. I was maybe 23 or 24 at this point and wasn't nearly ready for that commitment, so when I found out that's where her head was at, I felt like I needed to end it so she could meet somebody who wanted the same things she did. And that's what happened - she's married now and still on good terms with me. Sometimes, she even catches up with my mom over the phone.

And a man who can't allow his ego to "lose".

What ego? Probably half of this thread is me acknowledging and admitting that I'm wrong for wanting to do the things I listed here.

 

[New_Journey]

Talk to me when you have a 20 year plus track record of success with women.

You can't answer if you were married y the past without becoming a mess, wtf are you talking about?

You seem to have a problem with everything said by anybody on this forum, calling them incels etc.

I just state facts. I've been in the other side, I know everyone's ego in this forum, but ego is clever and wanna hold on. We all have egos, but if they become your identity is unhealthy. Only damaged with women with psychological problems will want a man with an ego. You will never get it, you're 62 and it will be very hard for you to be unplugged, all I can tell you is this. When you fail again with women (and you will), remember, its your problem, not hers.

In fact you are probobly the type of gal I would recommend a man have a relationship with

You don't even know who this girl is, or if she's actually a girl and you're recommending her for a relationship? You are 60 and simping like a 15 year old.

The Western world is brutal for good men wanting to date decent women. Instead of making things worse, why don't you support men who are struggling?

I am. I'm telling him his problems, nobody can see their own problems.

I don't. Everybody has problems. By comparison, I have very few; I don't have any diseases, ailments, or disabilities. I was not abused, traumatized, or part of a dysfunctional family. I don't have any addictions or drug habits, and the only medication I take is a multivitamin. My problem is my financial and living situation - hers is her health and mental outlook. I don't expect anyone to be perfect.



I have a friend who asked me a similar question. He knows I get around a lot and asked me why, instead of going for hot girls, I don't go for girls with great personalities. He's married, so here was my response to him: "If you could have your wife's personality in the body of Jessica Alba or the body of Rosie O'Donnell, which would you choose?" He couldn't answer my question because he didn't want to prove my point. That point is that I meet women I'm attracted to, then keep them around if I like them on the back-end - I'm not hunting for girls I'm not attracted to in the hopes that because they're not attractive they must have a great personality.



I met this girl my senior year of college while she was a sophomore or junior; I can't remember. We met during the last half of my senior year, so we didn't get a lot of time together in school, but we kept seeing each other afterward because we were having a good time and decided that despite the distance and the fact that she was still in school that we could make it work. For context, she transferred back home to attend a school in New York, so it was a 4-hour drive any time I wanted to see her, so that was usually a once-monthly thing.

The way that ended left a bit of a scar wherein I don't ever fully trust women, further reinforced by my BPD ex. I was feeling depressed for a few months because I didn't know the truth and blamed myself; I should have been there, I should be there now, etc. A mutual friend who followed her on socials found out that was a lie and told me - I didn't know because I was blocked on everything after that. One random night in March at like 3 AM, she texts me to confess, probably assuming I wouldn't be awake. I told her I knew everything, cursed her out, blocked her, and haven't spoken to or seen her since.

Not every woman has all the problems of this girl and my BPD ex. My second serious relationship was quite nice. She was a wonderful girl, super sweet. The only reason that didn't work out was because she wanted to go wherever I went and end up married together. I was maybe 23 or 24 at this point and wasn't nearly ready for that commitment, so when I found out that's where her head was at, I felt like I needed to end it so she could meet somebody who wanted the same things she did. And that's what happened - she's married now and still on good terms with me. Sometimes, she even catches up with my mom over the phone.



What ego? Probably half of this thread is me acknowledging and admitting that I'm wrong for wanting to do the things I listed here.

Back in the game is right. Listen man, we men tell thing directly. This has nothing to do with you, I know you can't see it, but your mind is lying to you. Years ago I was like that.

We all have problems, but when you can't see the problems in others, you have those same problems.

And a man who can't allow his ego to "lose".

This is fvcking scary man. When your mind makes something totally false and a reality, its like a black hole that consumes you, the mind is crazy.