Logged in to facebook to download all my data -- to see THIS ??!!

[Boilermaker]

I won, and you will too, just give it time and concentrate on you. Self-love is not so great a sin as self-neglect; and that's what you've been doing for the past 6 years, neglecting yourself in the lame hope that it will ever be appreciated by a woman.

"Self-love is not so great a sin as self-neglect" ... Very wise words .. I am going to print this, frame it and give it a loving look every morning I wake up.

Thanks guys

 

[The Inside Man]

Stop expecting people to live up to your character. People are just fuvked up man, especially this day and age. He was pursuing her and now he got her, it's a different life now. I saw the same stuff on myspace about six years ago. I almost married her, and the guy she hooked up with after was a friend of her best friend (which I knew some shivt was going down). The world is a dark and lonesome place is you let these things get to you. Just smile and move on. It's a life that's in the past.

Of course she's gonna say that, she doesn't want to blame herself. Ever heard a woman take the blame for anything? She's not gonna say anything that will hurt her. She doesn't want to seem like a sluvt.

This is gold, especially the first sentence. Seeing reality for the way it is sucks sometimes.

 

[backbreaker]

That's why, I mean make no mistake, I am not looking for someone now, I make it known I'm very happy.. but like, Frank Broyles the arknasas AD , the old one, used to say, at ALL times, regardless if we won 10 games, or won 1 game, he had a " go to" new coach hire list in case **** hit the fan for some reason and he had to bring in a new coach. at all times. he was always prepared.

While i'm not looking, there are women that I know and I keep myself up well enough that i can get dates from, probably even get laid with if I chose. Just from random everyday life. If I texted every person in my phone and said me and mjy girl broke up, i would have dates, play dates, guy dates, "hey some friends and i are going bowling come on!" dates, lined up. enough to where I don't have to sit home and think of it.

too many guys, get in a long relationship and neglect this part of their life. instead they substitute it for the womans. they lose their friends and gain the womans friends, and when the split happens, she moves on and the man is left starting from scratch.

my dad always told me, if you are ****ing a woman, even if you are ****ing her every night until you are married, you better have a place that you know you can go home to (in other words, don't move in her place and if you do, keep your place) and don't leave your friends, you never know when you will need them.

See,I don'tthink she is a loser at all.

****, didn't she do EXACTLY WHAT we preach doing here on this site? what's the first thing we tell you to do when you get out of a relationship lol, lyour GF is spinning plates brah. she's getting over you. It hurts but it's the truth.

that's what YOU should be doing and you aren't. She had guys in her life that she knew she could fallback on, you didn't. Not even per say just to date, I'll be ****ed up if my girl walked out on me and I'm at home on a Friday night thinking about her getting the pipe laid to her. That's just not going to happen.

I don't know why the relationship left, but I don't see what she did wrong? there is no morning period. what is she supposed to morn while you go out dn spin plates? That's the way of the world brah.]

But at least you aren't pinning her or anything and tha'ts a real positive sign. it will be okay man, time heels al l wounds. This is reason 8585 why i have never used and nevfer will use facebook. **** facebook

 

[Boilermaker]

in fact I have been spinning plates, and I even banged a hot 19 year old after I broke up with my ex. I posted here about her, and how I messed it up after so many years of inexperience and comfort ..

I moved on, bro.

And I WANT her to move on. BUT I don't need this sh!t to be rubbed in my face, you see?...

And this is exactly what she was doing... But anyway, this discussion is getting longer than necessary.

Back to work. I have unfinished business in my life ..

 

[backbreaker]

Not everything is fair game, not even in war. That's why you can be tried in the Hague for war crimes.

Glad to see you moved on so well. You won't care so much about this by the time you get another LTR anyway.

see.. why is men default driver setting at "LTR"? I think this is 80% of the problem. The frame you should be in, the proper frame a guy should be in is hey, i got my life **** going, I got my hobbie **** going, look i'm just out trying to have a good time. Now, if one of you gals shows me something that makes me take notice, all bets are off. But too many men go into a relationship expecting it to be a long term one, that's half the battle right there.

girl ****ign another dude? who the **** cares, I am just ****ing her anyway myself. stop getting so butthurt over these broads man.

girl doesn't respond to your text? oh well go out, do something else. it's not like you are married.

 

[grayclif]

I agree BB. There is a lot of this "gotta get in a LTR" talk lately. But what I think it has to do with is that RUSH people feel 2-3 months into a relationship. Where you're ****in all the time, that time when stuff you do and say isn't so overanalyzed. Where everything feels so right and that you are so in love. You know that time just before the big frame grab (and the AFCness overcomes you).

You hear it all the time in recent breakups "but I, I, I just want things to be the way they used to be, when we used to hold hands and tell each other everything". Urghh.

Was watching the Wuss Bowl at my local last night and its kinda slow the bartender starts telling me bout her bf and how he does everything she asks him to do, how he's always home and how he goes through her texts etc. And how her ex-bf used to take charge and plan dates and was never home. So I'm thinking train wreck.

We should be in the process of constantly improving our own worlds and only allowing in the woman that can make that world more interesting. The woman that help improve that world are the ones you keep.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

in fact I have been spinning plates, and I even banged a hot 19 year old after I broke up with my ex. I posted here about her, and how I messed it up after so many years of inexperience and comfort ..

I moved on, bro.

And I WANT her to move on. BUT I don't need this sh!t to be rubbed in my face, you see?...

And this is exactly what she was doing... But anyway, this discussion is getting longer than necessary.

Before you called her you had your facebook deactivated. I'm sure she could clearly see that you weren't on her friend's list anymore. How did she rub anything in your face? You're the one who reactivated your facebook account to see her page. She didn't keep you up on current events in her life personally. You sought it out.


Like the others our saying, I think in this case it was a two way street. You both grew out of each other in more ways than one. Move on. She has.

 

[st_99]

see.. why is men default driver setting at "LTR"? I think this is 80% of the problem. The frame you should be in, the proper frame a guy should be in is hey, i got my life **** going, I got my hobbie **** going, look i'm just out trying to have a good time. Now, if one of you gals shows me something that makes me take notice, all bets are off. But too many men go into a relationship expecting it to be a long term one, that's half the battle right there.

girl ****ign another dude? who the **** cares, I am just ****ing her anyway myself. stop getting so butthurt over these broads man.

girl doesn't respond to your text? oh well go out, do something else. it's not like you are married.

Yeah, but a lot of guys have this LTR mindset because most are not that
good at finding girls left and right, so, they want to hang on to the one they
find that is "good enough" (so they think). They don't feel like waiting another however many months to go by before the next bus comes.

like andre 3000 said "i'm, just being honest"

 

[Boilermaker]

Before you called her you had your facebook deactivated. I'm sure she could clearly see that you weren't on her friend's list anymore. How did she rub anything in your face? You're the one who reactivated your facebook account to see her page. She didn't keep you up on current events in her life personally. You sought it out.


Like the others our saying, I think in this case it was a two way street. You both grew out of each other in more ways than one. Move on. She has.

oh sure! .. I sought it out.

She had every intention to keep it secret, didn't she?...

That's what Facebook is there for anyway, keeping things secret.

 

[Bluntmaster]

oh sure! .. I sought it out.

She had every intention to keep it secret, didn't she?...

That's what Facebook is there for anyway, keeping things secret.

She is not keeping anything secret because basically you never existed.

When a girl leaves it's like when you leave a job. After a few weeks YOU NEVER EXISTED.

I looked up my ex 2 months after we broke up and she had already gotten knocked up and married. I never existed! But screw it she did me a favor. I found someone 20 times better.

But my point is, you never existed. Just accept it.

 

[backbreaker]

I agree BB. There is a lot of this "gotta get in a LTR" talk lately. But what I think it has to do with is that RUSH people feel 2-3 months into a relationship. Where you're ****in all the time, that time when stuff you do and say isn't so overanalyzed. Where everything feels so right and that you are so in love. You know that time just before the big frame grab (and the AFCness overcomes you).

You hear it all the time in recent breakups "but I, I, I just want things to be the way they used to be, when we used to hold hands and tell each other everything". Urghh.

Was watching the Wuss Bowl at my local last night and its kinda slow the bartender starts telling me bout her bf and how he does everything she asks him to do, how he's always home and how he goes through her texts etc. And how her ex-bf used to take charge and plan dates and was never home. So I'm thinking train wreck.

We should be in the process of constantly improving our own worlds and only allowing in the woman that can make that world more interesting. The woman that help improve that world are the ones you keep.

But, that's the thing. IT'S NOT POSSIBLE to be a real DJ while at the same time, keep trying to latch on to the firs thing that looks at you twice.

YOU HAVE TO let go. Rollo is dead on with this, it's about your mission.

you should have so much **** going on in your life, that, even if you did have a woman, one, you would have a hard time finding time for her in your schedule. YOu should not have time to sit there and dream about you and her and all the bliss and all that good stuff. You should be the one, cutting hte date off at 1 hour, and then not calling for 2 days leaving her wondering, not because you are playing games, because you are at the football game or because you are pulling an all nighter at work, or because you are laying it to someone else, something. anything.

Nothing breeds confidence like action. Do some **** lol. make a big ass listf things you want to do and just start doing them, that don't revolve around women.

I remember a girl i ended up dating when i was 21, i knew, hell she told me, she was screwing someone else. not only did I keep messing around with her, i honestly really did not give a damn either way. Not because, I didn't like her, she was pretty cool, I had a life. Even under the best of circumstances i could see her MAYBE 2 times a week. This **** drove her wild. I didn't understand why at the time, I just didn't have time for her.

man I just can't live like that anymore, I refuse to live like that anymore under any circumstances.