Mantis Toboggan said:
A normal, healthy adult can handle stressful times without sh*tting all over their relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
You seem to keep forgetting that. "She's just stressed out. That's why she's acting like an as*hole." Wrong.
Yeah, she sounds like a real keeper, jackass. I hope you find a way to patch things up. Can't let a love like this slip away.
You're absolutely right. There was even more to this girl, on an all-expenses paid vacation my family paid for she developed an eye infection. They asked how her eye was and she went to the room crying. Later, she said my family was "crazy" (even though there was zero reason for her to say that).
My younger brother, 13, said she is "way too fussy", and she wasn't logical at all. There are MANY other stories, too.
We decided to move in together, signed papers and all that, promise to move in. I relocated to her state. A job interview was offered for her 5 hours away, and I told her I was disappointed because she was jumping at the first opportunity she had and is going back on everything we decided. She cried saying I don't support her. Ultimately she didn't get the job.
When calmly discussing why her sex drive went from all the time to practically nothing, the first three weeks of living together she didn't say a word. She literally wouldn't say anything. I asked her if we can figure out ways to spice up our sex life, things she wants to do, ask if we can swtich contraceptives or get hormones tested, nothing. I finally snapped because she was silent on the issue for a long time. After that, a week later she said, "Don't you think it's because you are pressuring me and I am stressed in general?" Well, if you are silent I won't know that, and I am not "pressuring" nor am I "using you" for sex, I wanted to figure out ways we can stay intimate. Later, she said, "We live together now, of course the first two years will be good, I'm okay with once every three weeks or so now." And when I asked her about once every week to help me out she said, "jokingly", I was a 'Monkey".
Another time we were on vacation that I paid for to Disney. My cousin is autistic. I told her we can get a free handicapped pass to access the rides quicker since he is on file with my family. She was aganist it, but said that since she knows it's important to me she'll be okay with it. Midway through the vacation she stopped being willing to ride rides, and I asked her 10x calmly "Why?" She merely said "Because I don't want to". So, after the 10th time of giving me awful answers I said, "This is ****ing ridiculous, I'm wasting money, you promised me you'd be okay with this." So she cried, claimed I was abusing her in public.
Can you help me? How do I let her know, without talking to her, that she became a lunatic?
There were two times in the last six months where I could CLEARLY say I was wrong about things, but mostly she just lost her mind. I would tell her that walking out the door makes problems worse, makes me feel worse about being able to bring up issues to talk about, and she didn't care.
I'll tell you this - her parents don't sleep together, I didn't know about this until the end of our relationship. Apparently they haven't in years saying they "bug each other" when sleeping. That means her mom is not sexual, and would explain why my ex was offended when I asked if she'd be okay with road head. My ex was cuddly as hell, and when horny TOTALLY into it, but she would be offended if I even told her "I want to **** you so hard", she said it was vulgar.
What I did LOVE about her when things were great all was phenomenal. She was an amazingly ideal girlfriend - very kind, sweet, romantic, sexual, driven, extremely intelligent, from our same school, etc.
Though, I remember 3 weeks into dating I told her I questioned man's contribution to global warming. Right on that date she got up from the ground we were laying on looking at the stars and said, "Wow, you're an idiot' not in a directly hurtful way but it came out. I should have noticed it then.
She claimed that only serial killers hunt (as I was developing an interest in hunting) - and, while I carry a pistol, I wanted a rifle. I said that if I got one we would talk about it first to make sure she's comfortable. She went broke, couldn't afford her part of the bills. So, the next day I went out (while with her) and went to ****'s and was about to purchase a rifle. When she came up to me I said, "Are you okay with this?" She begrudgingly said yes, I can do what I want. I asked again, same thing. She seemed upset, but I purchased it as it was MY place at that point. Later, she FLIPPED out, claimed I didn't respect her, etc even though she ACKNOWLEDGED it's my place and my money so I can do what I want.
Then later she threw that as a contributing reason for a breakup - because I had a rifle.
