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Phone strategies?
That's a new one.
I call and leave the message and reason for my call. If they're bold enough to ace me, fvck 'em and move on.
This isn't rocket science; at least I hope it's not.
Who deals with people who are shifty on the phone? And if they're that shifty on the phone, what is to come later on on dates? Or in a relationship?
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I'd say numbers have different levels, that's it.
Level 1. Grade : A+
This is from a person you talked at length with, even formed a bond. A person like this, you CAN afford to wait a few days, as they're likely be compassionate about your schedule and life. Not to mention, if you dumped alot of bonding into the initial meeting, it's likely a person get's scared because it went so well. Yes, you're eager, and you want to keep it going, but burn the relationship out so quickly romeo.
Level 2: Grade: B+
This is from someone who may be a third party introduction, or you only talked to briefly, say at a bar. Maybe you had a dance. Whatever the case is, the allure may have been only temporary and as such, you should keep it rolling for as long as it lasts.
Case-in-point...
Last year on my birthday I dropped into the Rack in Boston with my friends and brother. We were already buzzing, bouncing around Boston. We had lined up hotels in Burlington with back plans for girls we'd met the previous weekend. While at the rack running around, my brother was talking with some girls. I walked up to the group with one particularly hot girl (think Meadow Soprano). She was buzzed, but rubbing up and down me. We exchanged numbers after some making out. Mistake made there was not offering to party afterwards with her. The logic behind that was, Burlington is 20 minutes away from Boston, so nobody was driving anywhere. Needless to say we invited the other girls down and all worked out well.
Level 3 Grade: C +
This is a girl you meet publicly, perhaps in the mall, or at a restaurant. The brazen, quick approach. "Hey let's exchange numbers," comes to mind. A call like this is weak to wait on because who's to say you have chemistry at all. Not to mention, if you wait to long, it's likely she totally forgets about you, UNLESS she's totally into you from the get-go. However it maybe, waiting long on a call where you have no basis for anything is a waste of time because you lose the emotional connection created by the quick approach. You want her flying on the opener, so if you met her during the evening, make sure you've called by the next day.
Don't stress when you call, call whenever it benefits you. Why? Because you find out their interest based on their response. Plus, you can be honest about your schedule. If you call during the day time when you're available, you can say...
"Hi Danielle, it's A-unit. How you doin? I was calling because ____ (give some cool reason you want to talk, i saw this on tv, or i was driving by, some piece of conversation that's interesting. I'm in my car, and I'll be around for a bit longer. Catch you later."
For me, I say whatever I want, unscripted, and I hope most people do, too. To me, just add personality, you get a lot of call backs that way and they laugh along with you. Don't get long-winded, otherwise you piss the person off by burning minutes and get agitated with the boring time wasted.
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In a way, I look at dating like sales. Even the calling part. I don't persue NON-QUALIFIED prospects (i.e. women not my type, women who are taken, women who don't show interest), so that right there saves time. Honestly, what the hell are you wasting time on women who don't genuinely like you for anyways???
Next, if she's so callous as to play phone games, move on. The phone is just a tool to set the date. It's not part of the allure that makes the chase fun.
A-Unit
