No she called the ex!Her stupid drunk friend I guess called the ex on my girlfriends phone
No she called the ex!Her stupid drunk friend I guess called the ex on my girlfriends phone
You already screwed the pouche. Having the tantrum, grabbing the phone, cussing the guy out, and throwing her stuff out of your apartment was a childish HighSchool kind of reaction. Shows you live in fear. It was all over a simple phone call that she didn't initate, to a guy that she knew 4 years ago,...from a place not in the immediate area. If you were solid in your confidence you would not have been shaken by it and would have just told her it was time to get off the phone (or maybe tell her to give it back to her friend that called the guy in the first place) and that would have been the end of it. From her perspective she could see this as an example of what she has to look forward to more of in the future,...so she will move on.Her stupid drunk friend I guess called the ex on my girlfriends phone. I confronted her and cursed the guy out and threw her **** out of my apartment thinking she was cheating on me.
so you tell me fellas. Should I kick this girl to the curb ? Or should I be pissed but am I overreacting?
It's a shame,...those poor pooches getting screwed every way they turnHe screwed the pooch when she threatened to withhold sex for exclusivity. He fell into her frame due to the transactional sex.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Unless they are 12yo,...they all have Ex's,...heck the 12yo's probably do for that matter. I don't worry about it. Youtube has 100's of "How to get an Ex back" videos. The reason is because most Ex's are obsessed with the chick that dumped them (rejection breeds obsession). But they are Ex's for a reason.Men, this is why we screen for exes before giving her exclusivity. @TheProspect and I discussed methods for this in a previous thread.
I’m hurt honestly. But being an ******* to her isn’t going to change anything. What happened happened. It’s been 3 days sOP is treating this female like she's supposed to have an honor system like men.
Her friend called the ex. They are best friends. She told me this weeks ago (that they are best friends). Part of me thinks her value system is messed up. I don’t like the fact thatNo she called the ex!
I knew what I was doing. I would not have acted like this with a girl I was afraid of losing who I had been dating 6 months. I wanted her to leave which is why I threw her **** out but she refused to leave.You already screwed the pouche. Having the tantrum, grabbing the phone, cussing the guy out, and throwing her stuff out of your apartment was a childish HighSchool kind of reaction. Shows you live in fear. It was all over a simple phone call that she didn't initate, to a guy that she knew 4 years ago,...from a place not in the immediate area. If you were solid in your confidence you would not have been shaken by it and would have just told her it was time to get off the phone (or maybe tell her to give it back to her friend that called the guy in the first place) and that would have been the end of it. From her perspective she could see this as an example of what she has to look forward to more of in the future,...so she will move on.
It's chicks at a bar late at night. That is what drunk chicks at bars late at night do,...they call people,...they have drama,...they say "OMG" a lot. Her friend was supposed to be "BFFs" with the guy. That means he is deep in the Friend Zone. He is a Beta Orbiter. We should feel sorry for him. He should come here for help so we can tell him to stop talking to drunk chicks at a bar late at night when he should be at the bar with them doing something useful.The real question is, why was her friend calling her ex boyfriend that late at night? Did you ever get those details? Seems a little suspect to me....
It’s Boll@&ks, doesn’t add up, she called the Ex!The real question is, why was her friend calling her ex boyfriend that late at night? Did you ever get those details? Seems a little suspect to me...
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I wondered the same thing. Her friend made some comments about me being handsome/cute. Me thinks she was jealous and trying to sabotage the relationship possibly. I did ask my chick “why are you friends with Her if she’s disrespecting us like this and why would she call him”The real question is, why was her friend calling her ex boyfriend that late at night? Did you ever get those details? Seems a little suspect to me....
I wondered the same thing. Her friend made some comments about me being handsome/cute. Me thinks she was jealous and trying to sabotage the relationship possibly. I did ask my chick “why are you friends with Her if she’s disrespecting us like this and why would she call him”The real question is, why was her friend calling her ex boyfriend that late at night? Did you ever get those details? Seems a little suspect to me....
she did say that the guy is a joke to her. I picked up the phone and told him “I’m ****ing your ***** ex balls deep every night you can have her back when I’m done with her”It's chicks at a bar late at night. That is what drunk chicks at bars late at night do,...they call people,...they have drama,...they say "OMG" a lot. Her friend was supposed to be "BFFs" with the guy. That means he is deep in the Friend Zone. He is a Beta Orbiter. We should feel sorry for him. He should come here for help so we can tell him to stop talking to drunk chicks at a bar late at night when he should be at the bar with them doing something useful.
the pathetic **** asked her out for drinks this summer 5 months ago. So the guys smv obviously isn’t high. But that’s irrelevant. The chick is insecure because she sees women hitting on me all the time.It's chicks at a bar late at night. That is what drunk chicks at bars late at night do,...they call people,...they have drama,...they say "OMG" a lot. Her friend was supposed to be "BFFs" with the guy. That means he is deep in the Friend Zone. He is a Beta Orbiter. We should feel sorry for him. He should come here for help so we can tell him to stop talking to drunk chicks at a bar late at night when he should be at the bar with them doing something useful.
Yep. 100%. She fully admitted she entertained it and was wrong for it but that she wants me and to be with me and wants to marry me and have a family with me. I tried to throw her out like I said but she refused to leave and said I’m not cheating on you but what I did was wrong and I’m sorry.So she hasn't been with him in 4 years, but 5 months ago he tried to re establish something. Knowing this she still gets on the phone with him while drunk? It sounds like she had a moment of weakness where she was entertaining his advances.
I’m hurt honestly. ..... Not trying to defend myself but a girl with me for only a month doesn’t deserve a sit down conversation with me in a situation like that.
Brother I never asked her to be exclusive she asked me! I wanted to keep things casual with her, she was chasing me, everything was perfect. I had multiple plates spinning and was happier than hell being a single man banging her a few times a week. I knew eventually she was going to want a title so I kept dodging the question as long as possible. About Two months into this, She caught me on a date with another hot ass chick at a restatement that was hot as **** and told me “I thought we were together. I’m sitting here shutting down guys down left and right because of you. I’m not going to continue to have sex with you if your going to entertain other women“OP, you're all over the place in your posts. There has been great advice and insight provided in the replies thus far, but your confirmation bias towards this situation prevents you from seeing anything that goes against your already made up mind.
First problem is you're already "exclusive" with a girl after one month. That is nothing. You giving in to her exclusivity demands after dating for merely a month already shows your scarcity mindset and potential oneitis for this girl. Then you do all kinds of mental gymnastics to try to convince everyone how unattached you are to her, and merely with her because the sex is so amazing. No level of sex or perceived high interest from a woman would ever win over my exclusivity after merely a month of dating. That's just showing your desparation for a relationship and is probably why you're in this situation in the first place.
Secondly, it doesn't matter who initiated the call, the fact that what you heard was her rationalizing why "this time would be any different" to an ex, indicates she did not immediately shut him down out of respect for your relationship with her. 4 years of no contact, distance, etc, has no relevance on the matter. Again, your confirmation bias of trying to see her as a "good girl" is poisoning your rational and logical male mind from seeing the blatant disrespect of the situation. No woman is a "good girl" completely. You should absolutely want a woman to be "afraid" of disrespecting you. Her fear of losing you should be the utmost factor in weighing her actions to be a "good girl." That is what a healthy interaction between a man a woman is...the woman's fear of losing her high value man.
Thirdly, your reaction to the situation reveals that you are not in your full masculine mindset. As other have said, your over reaction is a direct indicator of your internalized self worth and self confidence. Again, you try to justify and argue with everyone stating you don't regret what happens or how she perceives it. That's not the problem. The problem is you allowed yourself to react that way which truly shows how insecure you are with yourself and with this relationship.
Finally OP, based on your continued replies and justifications, it's quite apparent you aren't ready for a serious relationship, especially not with this girl. This "relationship" is doomed. If these issues are already apparent after merely a month of dating, there is very slim hope it will flourish into a healthy LTR. Distance yourself from the definitely forthcoming heartache with this woman; work on your self growth; and truly look deep down to see why you have the internal self esteem issues you most definitely do. This forum is all for each person's self improvement through their RP journey, however, you must be open to the advice and help provided. Good luck to you OP.
Fawk man, I'm glad you had the time and inclination to type this out. I sure as hell didn't want to.OP, you're all over the place in your posts. There has been great advice and insight provided in the replies thus far, but your confirmation bias towards this situation prevents you from seeing anything that goes against your already made up mind.
First problem is you're already "exclusive" with a girl after one month. That is nothing. You giving in to her exclusivity demands after dating for merely a month already shows your scarcity mindset and potential oneitis for this girl. Then you do all kinds of mental gymnastics to try to convince everyone how unattached you are to her, and merely with her because the sex is so amazing. No level of sex or perceived high interest from a woman would ever win over my exclusivity after merely a month of dating. That's just showing your desparation for a relationship and is probably why you're in this situation in the first place.
Secondly, it doesn't matter who initiated the call, the fact that what you heard was her rationalizing why "this time would be any different" to an ex, indicates she did not immediately shut him down out of respect for your relationship with her. 4 years of no contact, distance, etc, has no relevance on the matter. Again, your confirmation bias of trying to see her as a "good girl" is poisoning your rational and logical male mind from seeing the blatant disrespect of the situation. No woman is a "good girl" completely. You should absolutely want a woman to be "afraid" of disrespecting you. Her fear of losing you should be the utmost factor in weighing her actions to be a "good girl." That is what a healthy interaction between a man a woman is...the woman's fear of losing her high value man.
Thirdly, your reaction to the situation reveals that you are not in your full masculine mindset. As other have said, your over reaction is a direct indicator of your internalized self worth and self confidence. Again, you try to justify and argue with everyone stating you don't regret what happens or how she perceives it. That's not the problem. The problem is you allowed yourself to react that way which truly shows how insecure you are with yourself and with this relationship.
Finally OP, based on your continued replies and justifications, it's quite apparent you aren't ready for a serious relationship, especially not with this girl. This "relationship" is doomed. If these issues are already apparent after merely a month of dating, there is very slim hope it will flourish into a healthy LTR. Distance yourself from the definitely forthcoming heartache with this woman; work on your self growth; and truly look deep down to see why you have the internal self esteem issues you most definitely do. This forum is all for each person's self improvement through their RP journey, however, you must be open to the advice and help provided. Good luck to you OP.