Just found out I got cheated on, how do I deal with it?

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Well if you got proof of it: Tell her u know and dumb that b*tch! She doesn't deserve you.

Then go out and hook up with girls and enjoy single life, that will make her jelaous and feel bad.
 

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Reptile said:
Well if you got proof of it: Tell her u know and dumb that b*tch! She doesn't deserve you.

Then go out and hook up with girls and enjoy single life, that will make her jelaous and feel bad.
she admitted it, though it was 2 months ago she made a fool out of me for 2 months

i dont know how to make of this/what to think

i dont think cheating is forgivable
 

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She made a fool out of you when she is the fool? Blow her off!

Tell her that you have been thinking about this, and you not gonna accept it.
Keep your dignity, dump her AND go No Contact.

If she calls, don't answer. Text you, don't answer. Meet you outside, be polite but short and walk away.
It's over, she did a huge mistake. You can get better!

Btw, is this about sex or just a kiss on the cheek..? It makes difference, but to keep your respect, dump her whatever it is. Still cheating.
 

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Dude you are probably in a state where you love the girl but cannot end it because of your feelings. You dont know how to proceed because you like her a lot!...but realize cheating is a deal breaker.

Look if a girl cheats on you, you better get the FVCK out of a bad situation and move on. This is ENTIRELY unacceptable behavior. You should be happy that she confirmed it. What if she went 1+ year without telling you? Talk about a waste of time. Count it as a blessing (and dodging a bullet).

Look, we all want the ideal woman that respects us and treats us right. It's VERY hard to come by these women, we all know. That's why we search/post on this site. Otherwise what's the point of being here :D.

It is still possible to find these women, it just takes longer than we would all like (multiple years).

Now imagine yourself before you met this girl. You probably had a lot of confidence and were ready to meet new people all the time. It is SO easy to tap into this, yet every guy in a relationship doesn't think so. They are guilty of falling into their comfort zone.

You need to cut your losses and ditch this chick. Honestly, if you stick around you are lowering your value as a "man" and showing this woman that cheating is ok. Us Don Juans don't need more of these women, they already swarm our country/world. Put her in her place, which is the fvcking curb dude.

Just remember you can easily do better. Tell yourself over and over.

Let me know how it goes.
 

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JohnnyStrabler said:
she admitted it, though it was 2 months ago she made a fool out of me for 2 months
If she really cared about you, she'd never have told you and you'd have never found out. What's she's done is get something off her chest, confessed, if you like while at the same time making you feel like sh!t.

How did her confessing benefit you?

I'm a bit more spiteful than the other posters. I'd tell her I love her, beg her never to leave me, treat her like she's the centre of the universe. In the background, I'd go and find me another girl, and when this cheating slag thinks she can't live without me... just leave.

I guess I just have a long term view of revenge.
 

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Also, about 3 months ago I made out with this chick who had a boyfriend. She told him and decided that she might want to break up with him. He BEGGED her to get back with him even though she made out with me.

How fvcking pathetic is that? Don't let a little drug called oxytocin (wikipedia it) cloud your judgement as a MAN.
 

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Cremasta said:
If she really cared about you, she'd never have told you and you'd have never found out. What's she's done is get something off her chest, confessed, if you like while at the same time making you feel like sh!t.

How did her confessing benefit you?

I'm a bit more spiteful than the other posters. I'd tell her I love her, beg her never to leave me, treat her like she's the centre of the universe. In the background, I'd go and find me another girl, and when this cheating slag thinks she can't live without me... just leave.

I guess I just have a long term view of revenge.
we broke up 2 weeks ago over something completely different and now that we got in contact again she mentioned her cheating on me 2 months ago and it seems that I am back to square one, seriously she contacted me everyday right after we broke up

and this revenge thing that you speak of sounds like a GREAT idea as of now, also we are meeting today to hear more of her confessions


sofomore, I dont think a woman like that exists man, this is proof that those days are gone
 

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Nah you are being pessimistic. We all know they exist. It is the lazy man's route to not look for it. This is why almost married man is an AFC...they put up with their wife's BS because they haven't dated enough women.

Do you really want to marry this girl? If you are slightly leaning toward no, you know your answer.
 

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Sofomore said:
Nah you are being pessimistic. We all know they exist. It is the lazy man's route to not look for it. This is why almost married man is an AFC...they put up with their wife's BS because they haven't dated enough women.

Do you really want to marry this girl? If you are slightly leaning toward no, you know your answer.

funny thing is, I thought it over. Why? going to the military after I get my college degree (January 2013), thought it would be nice to exchange letters with someone and be in an LTR for once.

And she got me GOOD, here I was thinking she is wifey material while she was actually doing dirt behind my back, which goes to show, trust no b!tches man.

I am really interested as to what else she did in the past, i dont know I feel like I need to find out to really move on.
 

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LTR should develop because you have a real bond with a woman, not because you "want to have a LTR". Dont set yourself up for disaster dude, you need to get out ASAP. If you don't, take a long hard look at your life and think about what you are doing.
 

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Sofomore said:
LTR should develop because you have a real bond with a woman, not because you "want to have a LTR". Dont set yourself up for disaster dude, you need to get out ASAP. If you don't, take a long hard look at your life and think about what you are doing.
And here I am thinking that in order for an LTR to go good is if I stop talking to other women. I dont know if I should end everything right now, though because Cremasta's idea of revenge sounds good.

At least now.
 

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This whole thing really took a blow to my self confidence BTW...like dude...some other dude stole my chick!
 

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dude i would be pissed off! If your angry don't hold it in. If she tries to belittle you, belittle her. Just don't do anything stupid. She made u a fool, make her into one. Don't hold in your feelings, because eventually it would explode.
 

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Ok let me get this straight, you split up and then she told you she cheated. That's either really cold or she had some justified reason to stick the knife in. if you gave her no reason to be this callous to you then you need to cut this out of your life. 100% no going back, no going forward just nothing, you and her are done.

also if you ate planning on going into the military I don't see ltrs being a possibility. its not fair to make someone wait for you whilst you are away all the time. I think you need to really think about that.

Anyways feel for ya man, keep ya sh!t together. You'll be stronger for it.
 

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seethehoop said:
Ok let me get this straight, you split up and then she told you she cheated. That's either really cold or she had some justified reason to stick the knife in. if you gave her no reason to be this callous to you then you need to cut this out of your life. 100% no going back, no going forward just nothing, you and her are done.

also if you ate planning on going into the military I don't see ltrs being a possibility. its not fair to make someone wait for you whilst you are away all the time. I think you need to really think about that.

Anyways feel for ya man, keep ya sh!t together. You'll be stronger for it.
Especially if she already cheated, what do you think she'll be doing while youre on tour?
Sucking the neighbors d!ck, thats what! Dont believe me?


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Dump her coldly and see what she does.

If she begs for forgiveness and does everything she can to get you back then she obviously values you highly. Perhaps something can be salvaged depending on her (unlikely and only if she's worth it).

If she lets you go without putting up a big fight then she doesn't really value you and you need to move on anyway.
 

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