Just broke up, She cheated 4 times, Need advice to live strong.

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I don't know how to feel right now. I'm glad it's over, I finally had a reason to end this relationship for good. I gave her one last chance and she blew it. She cheated.

She called me drunk at 3am, said we need to talk. I just yelled, "Tell me who you hooked up with so we can end this!" She admitted to it and I was just like not letting her talk and shut her up. She blew up my phone till 5:00AM. Left me a voicemail telling me how amazing I am and all this jazz.

Then she called me this morning more and I just told her off more.

She begged for friendship and to see each other and to hang out because we always had fun together, etc. I denied her and shut the phone.

Now i sit here, emotionally hurt. What's the best thing i can do right now?
 

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Do what i did after breaking up with my ex: shower, put on some nice clean clothes, call up some friends and go grab a bite to eat at the mall, meeting as many beautiful women as possible on the way. By the end of the day, you'll feel right as rain, and it'll only get better with each day! :)
 

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I feel lonely at night, like right now when i'm trying to go to sleep. I can't stop thinking about how bad it ended. I'm even talking with other chicks and i still feel in a bad mood.
 

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Yea i hear you. We're all human, so don't be surprised that you don't have the emotional integrity of a granite boulder :) Gotta give it time.
 

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Dont feel like your losing something

your gaining something that was given and violated

TRUST

Remember you are the one she wants to be with you are denying her

she is only wanting you know because she cant have you
 

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omgwtfm8 said:
I don't know how to feel right now. I'm glad it's over, I finally had a reason to end this relationship for good. I gave her one last chance and she blew it. She cheated.

She called me drunk at 3am, said we need to talk. I just yelled, "Tell me who you hooked up with so we can end this!" She admitted to it and I was just like not letting her talk and shut her up. She blew up my phone till 5:00AM. Left me a voicemail telling me how amazing I am and all this jazz.

Then she called me this morning more and I just told her off more.

She begged for friendship and to see each other and to hang out because we always had fun together, etc. I denied her and shut the phone.

Now i sit here, emotionally hurt. What's the best thing i can do right now?
holy crap dude, be a man about it, you trusted her and she shat on it, what a complete *****, thank god she did it so you can now realise what a pathetic worthless person she is and can now move on to meeting people aren't complete pieces of ****, get some self respect mate, you don't need chicks like that, you are better than that to let some cheating ***** get to you, move on, it's easy if you just remember u are a decent guy and she's not worthy of u because she's a slut
 

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She cheated four times? And you knew about all of them?! Wtf man?!!

You were looking for a reason to end it, you say. I think you had four big ones. Why the hell did you keep giving her chances? She already fukked the relationship, there's no coming back from that. Maybe you can forgive her for the first time, maybe. But when it happened again, you should have definately ended it right then and there. Did you think she would stop cheating? Did you think she would start respecting you? That's just plain stupid. Even the majority of AFC's would have ended the relationship after the second time, if not the first.

I have no sympathy for you, unlike those that have already posted here. You brought this on yourself, by being a wuss and letting her use you. She was screwing other guys, then coming back home to you for ego boosts, food, and money. No wonder she's trying so hard to keep you around.

All I can say is I hope you've learned from this. But you still deserve all the pain and heartbreak you're feeling right now.
 

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omgwtfm8 said:
I don't know how to feel right now. I'm glad it's over, I finally had a reason to end this relationship for good. I gave her one last chance and she blew it. She cheated.

She called me drunk at 3am, said we need to talk. I just yelled, "Tell me who you hooked up with so we can end this!" She admitted to it and I was just like not letting her talk and shut her up. She blew up my phone till 5:00AM. Left me a voicemail telling me how amazing I am and all this jazz.

Then she called me this morning more and I just told her off more.

She begged for friendship and to see each other and to hang out because we always had fun together, etc. I denied her and shut the phone.

Now i sit here, emotionally hurt. What's the best thing i can do right now?
The worst part about all this is that I can sense you feel responsible for her cheating, like it is something you did to drive her to it.

This is total BS thinking if you do believe that and this is why:

A: She is an adult or is she? If she was she would have come to you about relationship problems and not slapped her mouth around another mans DIC* (picture it, this biatch is no good).
B: A responsible person would have ended it before cheating on you, since they do no want to hurt you (this biatch did not give a fu**).
C: To cheat once for attention granted (I would have dumped her along time ago) but to cheat over and over again, is the sign of a LOOSE women, who will fuc* around all the time, HOW the hell can you trust this women and for one thing if you married her how the fu** can you tell if your kids are yours for 1, for 2 do you really want your kids mum kissing your children after sucking another mans di**. I know I would not.
E: Not everyone sees sex as something they must have, especially in a relationship, what I am trying to say is why is she seeking so many other partners? So many ppl she is sleeping with it is not good at all, sounds like she has some problems with liking herself tbh and seeks validation from mans coc*s inside her (yes read it I know it hurts but you need to feel this pain you wimp).

Now I have made this message bold and plain for you to read, you may not like it, the visualization stuff, but visualize it.

Why the HELL did you not dump this waste of space the first time?
MAN you only have yourself to BLAME here.

Why entertain a women who simply lacks the respect YOU deserve, do you think this women represents the whole female population, that is insulting to other finer women, keeping on a loose chick like this is simply meaning that one FINE women you could be with is slipping by and when you marry this type of women YOU better get a blood test on those kids, but what the hell you will still have to pay the maintenance when you divorce her after YOU find her in bed with another man.

The only pain you should be feeling is a sharp slap to the side of your face.

NEVER EVER entertain a women like this again, make it your VOW.
You have been burnt but it will heal thanks yourself you dodged the bullet, imagine if you was married with kids?
No imagine it since this is where every LTR ends up if you stick together.

Also your not the first man a women as cheated on, get this!
WOMEN cheat too, get over it, it happens you have simply found out what type of women you where dating.
Judge by actions not words.

Now do this.
Tell the biacth to NEVER contact you again!
Do it, or just be reminded of the pain she has inflicted on you.
 

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You should always be prepared for a relationship to end, even if it doesnt. No matter how perfect someone seems, that doesnt mean that something wont possibly happen. It also doesnt mean that you wont find someone who is more 'perfect'. Theres always someone better. Im not saying that all relationships end though. So dont go through life thinking that relationships never last forever.
 

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No one likes a relationship that ends on a bad note.....but its very hard to turn that sh!t about....

In this situation...you need to just let it be....Its over.....for the best. Maybe not now....but you will just continued to get fvcked about.....how long for? Until she cheats on you and stays with the other guy leaving you in the cold?

She has been a complete b!tch. Thats not your fault. Its unfortunate that you have to suffer for it.

Take it steady.....one day at a time. Going out and talking to girls will help. Dont talk to anyone about the subject. Going over the same convo on a negative subject will bring you down more...

Sarge when you ready.... Golden Rule.....NEVER go back to her. EVER!


Sarge On!
 

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Tomatoes said:
Sarge when you ready.... Golden Rule.....NEVER go back to her. EVER!
Best quote ever!

Remember this, i did not and two times i was burned and burned again.
This rule is GOLDEN, remember it or pay the price.
 

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She was 17. I was super close to her parents. She lives 5 minutes away. I'll def. see her around town and going out. How should i handle these confrontations and if she called me?
 

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I am very sorry to hear that. To get to the point, you ended up going out with an unfaithful b*tch. She is scum and you are better off without her. You do not owe her friendship you dont even owe it to her to be polite and civil. CUT HER FROM YOUR LIFE!

She has hurt your self esteem and betrayed your trust. You are better without people like this in your life.

Your focus now should be on building your self esteem and trust back up again. Work on yourself and on rebuilding your life, your friendships and like I've read other people say before, use the anger to motivate you into improving yourself!

Just remember, not all women are like this. You picked a bad one and you got burnt. We all make mistakes like this and pay the price, but it makes us wiser and stronger. It has nothing to do with you. She was a cheater and a bad human being. It's in her nature and women (and men) like that will even cheat on the perfect guy. So don't take it personally.

Keep your head high and you WILL meet someone better!
 

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omgwtfm8 said:
She was 17. I was super close to her parents. She lives 5 minutes away. I'll def. see her around town and going out. How should i handle these confrontations and if she called me?

For the time being its best if you avoid all contact. Tell her face to face....You dont want to talk to her. You dont want to see her about and if you do see her you wont achknowledge her. You have to treat her like she doesnt exist. Its the best way.

You have to kill the oneitis. If you know how to do that quick and easy.....let me know :up:

Its not easy but stick to the golden rule but trust me.....its for the best.


Sarge On!
 

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omgwtfm8 said:
She was 17. I was super close to her parents. She lives 5 minutes away. I'll def. see her around town and going out. How should i handle these confrontations and if she called me?
"hi, sorry i can't talk to you, i just can't have any respect for somebody who cheats on me four times, i deserve far more respect than that, so please don't talk to me, and have a good life"
 

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wow she cheated 4 times. thats pretty heavy! want real anger. just when you see her and your heart says go and talk to her. remember that some other man had been sticking his winky where you were probably licking.

say if it was your best friend who tried kill you and you survived. would you want to come in contact with him ever again. if you were smart you wouldn't.
 

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Ace of Flames said:
She cheated four times? And you knew about all of them?! Wtf man?!!

You were looking for a reason to end it, you say. I think you had four big ones. Why the hell did you keep giving her chances? She already fukked the relationship, there's no coming back from that. Maybe you can forgive her for the first time, maybe. But when it happened again, you should have definately ended it right then and there. Did you think she would stop cheating? Did you think she would start respecting you? That's just plain stupid. Even the majority of AFC's would have ended the relationship after the second time, if not the first.

I have no sympathy for you, unlike those that have already posted here. You brought this on yourself, by being a wuss and letting her use you. She was screwing other guys, then coming back home to you for ego boosts, food, and money. No wonder she's trying so hard to keep you around.

All I can say is I hope you've learned from this. But you still deserve all the pain and heartbreak you're feeling right now.

EXACTLY!! Bro, when you let a cheater get away with their ways, you are basically telling her that its ok to **** all over you and you'll still be there for her. Your young, confused and most likely infatuated with what seems like your first serious relationship. As you get older and gain experience you'll learn never to hold on to something so tightly that you suffocate it and lose your breath in the process.




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Dude, that does suck

I agree, try to avoid contact (if at all possible) for a while, but do not DO NOT sit at home and mope. Go do something, watch a movie, build a ship in a bottle, just get your mind off her and realize that you can still have fun. After a while, when you are feeling better, then you can get out and get back to the DJ scene. If you do bump into her, don't dredge up the past and don't get angry, but make sure you learned your lesson. If you can pull this off, it makes you look and feel like you are older, wiser, and in control of your life.

Best of Luck
 
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