JohnChops
Master Don Juan
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I was actually nervous about posting this for some reason but I feel like positing it will make me stick to it better in the long run. This is organized by 1. My goal and 2. My plan ( or road map) on how to get it done.
Background.
Over the past few months I've lost friends, girls, and my mind. I would study 6-8 hours a day and not do much. I used to be relaxed in any situation and now I am nervous or stressed out about everything. I could honestly say I have hit rock bottom, and I'm not one to let my life slip into a depression because I am a doer. Therefore its time to make a complete overhaul on my mind, body, and outlook. I have decided since it is summer its the perfect time to do this and enough is enough its time to better myself (again). Here are my goals:
1. Lose 25 Pounds
Ill do this by counting calories, hitting the gym hard 5 days a week, eating healthy, and not over eating. My goal weight is 155 and as of now I am 180. In this goal I really want to get ripped abs and definition. I plan to do HIIT cardio 2 times a week, and low intensity cardio for 200-300 calories burned 4 times a week. I will also work out abs 4 times a week while doing cardio. My lifting will stay the same, 5 day split, since it has been gaining me some size, which i like
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2. Return my mind to be relaxed and not a nervous reck.
I always used to be so relaxed, relaxed eyes, never fast or twitchy in my motion, always used to spread out my posture, used to stand up straight with my chest out (all good body language). Somewhere along the line i lost this and i want to pick it up again. Im going to do this by making an effort to take up space, relax my eyes, deepen my voice (hardest one), and slow my motion and thinking. I feel like i over think and then get nervous for some reason so from now on I really want to slow my thinking down as well as my actions.
3. Get rid of my shyness once and for all
I also never used to be shy, always used to talk to everyone, hold great conversation and again i lost this trait about myself. This won't be that hard to fix because i am always in social situations where I can talk to new people. So my plan to fix this is to start a conversation with anyone I see, about anything. I don't care if its a guy, girl, grandma, grandpa, etc I just want to get used to talking to strangers so it won't hinge my cold approaches with women later. And its always fun to learn something about someone new.
4. Seeing girls as objects for sex
This hurts my game because it makes me nervous talking around girls because I only want them for sex right of the bat which makes me come off as a wierdo. I want to talk to a girl to explore her, learn something interesting about her, be interested in her you know? Not just like okay this is going to end in mutual masturbation. This is one of my biggest goals that I want to accomplish and it may be the hardest because it requires me to think completely differently. I need to just listen to conversation and actually be interested in what she has to say. (This obviously doesn't mean to sit there and listen to her every emotion, or that bull**** its about actually listening and actually being interested. ) Another way to do this is to ask the right questions as well. For example : "What is your most embarrassing moment" is one of my favorite ones. I need to get the conversation personal and about her, of course not to fast either. This is a big one.
5. Continue to progress in my hobbies : mountain biking, working on anything motorized, working on html and css, building websites .But I would like to find some friends with the same hobbies. I have a couple friends who work on cars, not many that mountain bike , and none that really know any computer stuff so it'd be nice to find some.
6. Stop masturbaiting as much. This just murders my drive. It like sensitizes you and makes me feel so not outward towards anyone. It also just lowers my test levels so I get more tired at the gym which blows. I only want to do this 1-2 times a week, which is a good cut back from my usual amount.
7. Forget about some of the girls in my past.
This one is pretty easy to do, act civil towards them but don't hangout with them. Upgrade is the key here for me. If they text/call just ignore them unless its work related or important. No need to have negative thoughts or people in my life. If i keep spinning plates this will be an easy goal to fulfill.
8. Stop fearing fun.
This is one I thought of while I was cliff jumping. I was so scared of doing the higher cliffs but I was forgetting how much fun it will be and I let fear take over. My roadmap here is to try things I wouldn't normally do.
Overal I really want to focus on improving myself and meet some new people. Im at the point in my life where it just seems so bland, I haven't met anyone new in so long it really sucks. Time to change that. I want to explore more, learn new things, and to HAVE FUN! Im 19, I'm not going to worry about emotion or what other people think. I only want to care about having a good time .
Also if anyone has any relaxation tips that would be great, I like breathing deeply all the way through your stomach deep. Its all I really use.
If you've read this whole piece you can tell I took major leaps backwards in my mind and it really sucks. Like i have said i lost friends, girls, and my mind. Time to regain my mind, meet new friends and girls. It is time to rebuild myself into my old self but even better. Starting now. GO. :rock: :cheer: :rock: :cheer:
Background.
Over the past few months I've lost friends, girls, and my mind. I would study 6-8 hours a day and not do much. I used to be relaxed in any situation and now I am nervous or stressed out about everything. I could honestly say I have hit rock bottom, and I'm not one to let my life slip into a depression because I am a doer. Therefore its time to make a complete overhaul on my mind, body, and outlook. I have decided since it is summer its the perfect time to do this and enough is enough its time to better myself (again). Here are my goals:
1. Lose 25 Pounds
Ill do this by counting calories, hitting the gym hard 5 days a week, eating healthy, and not over eating. My goal weight is 155 and as of now I am 180. In this goal I really want to get ripped abs and definition. I plan to do HIIT cardio 2 times a week, and low intensity cardio for 200-300 calories burned 4 times a week. I will also work out abs 4 times a week while doing cardio. My lifting will stay the same, 5 day split, since it has been gaining me some size, which i like
. 2. Return my mind to be relaxed and not a nervous reck.
I always used to be so relaxed, relaxed eyes, never fast or twitchy in my motion, always used to spread out my posture, used to stand up straight with my chest out (all good body language). Somewhere along the line i lost this and i want to pick it up again. Im going to do this by making an effort to take up space, relax my eyes, deepen my voice (hardest one), and slow my motion and thinking. I feel like i over think and then get nervous for some reason so from now on I really want to slow my thinking down as well as my actions.
3. Get rid of my shyness once and for all
I also never used to be shy, always used to talk to everyone, hold great conversation and again i lost this trait about myself. This won't be that hard to fix because i am always in social situations where I can talk to new people. So my plan to fix this is to start a conversation with anyone I see, about anything. I don't care if its a guy, girl, grandma, grandpa, etc I just want to get used to talking to strangers so it won't hinge my cold approaches with women later. And its always fun to learn something about someone new.
4. Seeing girls as objects for sex
This hurts my game because it makes me nervous talking around girls because I only want them for sex right of the bat which makes me come off as a wierdo. I want to talk to a girl to explore her, learn something interesting about her, be interested in her you know? Not just like okay this is going to end in mutual masturbation. This is one of my biggest goals that I want to accomplish and it may be the hardest because it requires me to think completely differently. I need to just listen to conversation and actually be interested in what she has to say. (This obviously doesn't mean to sit there and listen to her every emotion, or that bull**** its about actually listening and actually being interested. ) Another way to do this is to ask the right questions as well. For example : "What is your most embarrassing moment" is one of my favorite ones. I need to get the conversation personal and about her, of course not to fast either. This is a big one.
5. Continue to progress in my hobbies : mountain biking, working on anything motorized, working on html and css, building websites .But I would like to find some friends with the same hobbies. I have a couple friends who work on cars, not many that mountain bike , and none that really know any computer stuff so it'd be nice to find some.
6. Stop masturbaiting as much. This just murders my drive. It like sensitizes you and makes me feel so not outward towards anyone. It also just lowers my test levels so I get more tired at the gym which blows. I only want to do this 1-2 times a week, which is a good cut back from my usual amount.
7. Forget about some of the girls in my past.
This one is pretty easy to do, act civil towards them but don't hangout with them. Upgrade is the key here for me. If they text/call just ignore them unless its work related or important. No need to have negative thoughts or people in my life. If i keep spinning plates this will be an easy goal to fulfill.
8. Stop fearing fun.
This is one I thought of while I was cliff jumping. I was so scared of doing the higher cliffs but I was forgetting how much fun it will be and I let fear take over. My roadmap here is to try things I wouldn't normally do.
Overal I really want to focus on improving myself and meet some new people. Im at the point in my life where it just seems so bland, I haven't met anyone new in so long it really sucks. Time to change that. I want to explore more, learn new things, and to HAVE FUN! Im 19, I'm not going to worry about emotion or what other people think. I only want to care about having a good time .
Also if anyone has any relaxation tips that would be great, I like breathing deeply all the way through your stomach deep. Its all I really use.
If you've read this whole piece you can tell I took major leaps backwards in my mind and it really sucks. Like i have said i lost friends, girls, and my mind. Time to regain my mind, meet new friends and girls. It is time to rebuild myself into my old self but even better. Starting now. GO. :rock: :cheer: :rock: :cheer:
