Jesse Pinkman's approach/field reports thread.

[Jesse Pinkman]

Oct 28

So after what was a stressful and worrying week based on the DM I sent to @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 and @SW15 I decided to head out to do a bit of nightgame. I met up with a Euro dude who is in town for a couple of weeks from the wingman chat and said why not, after all, I need it. Not really much outlining of approaches here since I didn't even keep track as much as opposed to just straight up chatting with my wing. Our usual venue sucked but wing was opening a ton of sets. The guy came in with a lot of energy but kept using the same pickup line like "hey where are you from?".

I applaud him for approaching but for someone who has been in the game for over a decade as he claimed, his lines were weak and I did not see a set go anywhere for him. Meanwhile, I had one solid long set which ended in an IG close and then a couple more but for the most part, it was a dead venue. I felt exhausted from the week, mentally and physically. Called it a night early and headed home. For some reason, I find Halloween weekend annoying AF.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

Day 10 of NoFap right now as well.

Does not seem like I am walking around horny all the time but I want to give it two weeks plus before I come to a conclusion. Decided against day game today since I was so exhausted but will try to do night game to compensate a bit for the lack of activity today. I am not expecting much since it is Halloween weekend meaning girls out for attention more than anything else.

 

[SW15]

Called it a night early and headed home. For some reason, I find Halloween weekend annoying AF.

You find Halloween weekend annoying AF for reasons Roosh mentioned in 2011.

The Easiest Day Of The Year To Get Laid

Halloween
Common Sense: It’s easier to approach since you have a costume, and girls will be extra slutty since they’re already dressed like a slut.
The Reality: Groups are too large and distractions from other costumers too frequent. She’s in the mood for constant attention reinforcement, not a long conversation that leads to sex.

I plan to go out tonight with an inexpensive costume and to a place within walking distance. I plan to get out of the venue on the earlier side due to the notion that ratios tend to get worse as the night goes on in most nightlife venues.

 

[RickTheToad]

October 22 - OLD match.

Yup, felt like I was cheating here as I matched with a woman on one of the big apps, exchanged numbers, and we met. Decided to have a date at an outdoors bar near where I live. I tell her to Uber out since there is no parking in the area and she will have to pay a fortune to park. I set the vibe straight right away by commenting on one of her pics when we had matched, telling her she looked good and making my intentions clear.

We meet up at the outdoors spot and have a couple of drinks, it is fun banter back and forth. We are talking about her work and how she had a Holiday party where one of her coworkers ended up hooking up with one of her roommates. It was some fun banter and she seemed like a cool girl. I show her the view from the bar and tell her that I can show her an even bigger view of the whole Marina, she should come to my spot as suggested by @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 in terms of making my intentions clear.

She agrees and we go to my spot. I first take her to the rooftop pool and at this point, I have my arm around her the whole time. I show her around a good bit and then tell her that she should see my view. We decided to go to my apartment and I show her around a bit before finally closing the deal

It was a fun Saturday indeed, did not have enough energy to go out after that. At this point I have kept it somewhat vague given @RickTheToad and his story of one of his bootycalls finding out he was posting about her on this site or something, he can give more clarity there.

Eitherways, fun time on a Saturday but not enough energy to go out. @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 is so right, if you want to rack up the lays, get a stellar online dating profile going but I know I have to get really good at aspects of approaching so more coming up about my Sunday.

Just don't stick your d!ck into crazy. Oh, and use protection in any of their orifices. STI's are on the rise again..

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

So I made it 11 days without fapping @Rainman4707 and it was on days 9 and 10 when I really started to feel it. Like I could actually grab my thing and swing it around a bit, felt like doing that because at times I would get as hard as a freaking rock. However, this morning got crazy and bad habits just bring on more bad habits. Yesterday was a trip, I almost had to force myself to go out and when I did, all I could do was sit around and drink while not really doing many approaches. It was like I didn't even want to be out and due to what was a stressful as heck week last week with the amount of fear I had involving a situation I DM'd many people about, including @RickTheToad himself, I drank too much last night.

Maybe I am getting old but man I find nightlife exhausting now and am being very daygame heavy. I feel like I have to force myself to go out for nightgame and deal with the BS I do. Maybe it is because the wings I have had have been woefully bad so I am not as excited to go out and approach at nights compared to having a good wingman. Doing it solo is tough too but sometimes I feel like I do not even have the energy for that BS.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

I thought I was going to post a thread on it and maybe I will but today was far from a productive day. All I did was nap for the most of it recovering from a night of binge drinking. Looking back at it, my wing on Friday was just hilariously bad to the point it even drained my vibe. I could get long sets going while not even being anywhere close to 80% or even 60% of how good I usually am and this dude was just awful. It got me as to how someone can study PUA for that long, he claimed over a decade, and still suck that poorly with game to where girls were legitimately trying to get away from this dude.

Then dude was supposed to meet me yesterday for Halloween as we could street game but he bails on me there. I cannot even believe I wanted to meet up with him again as he was an awful wing for Friday. The week takes its toll on me and I binge drink on the Saturday night, plus it was Halloween so I knew the odds were going to be against me for a pull anyways. Got approached a couple of times but I was so beat, so exhausted, and so worn out from the week that I didn't even want to try.

Did go grocery shopping and did like 2 approaches, one was somewhat receptive and the other was a total b1tch. Man, what happened to me......I also fapped like 5 different times as a relapse (yeah I know, embarrassing but f-ck). It was overall an awful weekend for me and screw Halloween.

Now due to some family developments back in Atlanta, I might need to be spend the next 3 or so months (December onwards) back in the A Town which I am not looking forward to. Do not want to unveil too much but it is news concerning one of my parents, it's not going to be an easy time. However, once I do get my remote job locked up, I am coming right back to Miami.

2022 was a rebuilding year. My guy @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 who follows college football about as much as I do (somewhat but not much) might get the reference, I am like Georgia under Kirby Smart, the first year was painful but then after that the big wins started to come. I see promising things for myself in Miami once I get better logistics with a new spot. Me and Miami are far from done and once I have conquered game in Miami, I am coming right for NYC.

Tough times ahead but your guy has his head up!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Honestly I don't think I could spend the amount of time you spend on this getting almost no results and knowing it will be VERY difficult to ever really improve this.

It's one thing if you are doing something where you can expect some improvement as you continue to do it...quite another where the best you can expect is maybe 1 actual date every 30-40 approaches(if that), and that doesn't even get into getting laid from it.

Which is why I said the only way I would ever do this is when I am out and about already and just take my shots when they are there while going about my day. Anything else seems like an incredible waste of time and energy with no real hope of ever getting results that would make it worthwhile.

To me this is like banging your head into a wall but continuing to do it instead of doing something else.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

Honestly I don't think I could spend the amount of time you spend on this getting almost no results and knowing it will be VERY difficult to ever really improve this.

It's one thing if you are doing something where you can expect some improvement as you continue to do it...quite another where the best you can expect is maybe 1 actual date every 30-40 approaches(if that), and that doesn't even get into getting laid from it.

Which is why I said the only way I would ever do this is when I am out and about already and just take my shots when they are there while going about my day. Anything else seems like an incredible waste of time and energy with no real hope of ever getting results that would make it worthwhile.

To me this is like banging your head into a wall but continuing to do it instead of doing something else.

Disagree. I went from having no lays at all before this year to having 4 with daygame. It would have been a lot more but life got in the way through the form of traveling and family situations. I haven't had that much of a stable year due to work and family, often leading to me being inconsistent. Then, the toughest thing I think every man has to expect, I have had very few weeks when I have gone out and really been on my A game. For the longest time, I was going out just fooling around and barely doing any approaches.

To call it banging your head against the wall is just asinine. I have seen far more improvements in all areas of life by doing daygame and will come back to do it more. I was a total newbie to it. But hey, my fault for being way too honest with this thread, I guess you prefer the usual black pill doomerism instead.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

I am not sure what the intention of @BackInTheGame78 was but something hit me as an obvious AHA moment because I realized what I have been doing wrong all along. It's kind of obvious now as @Atom Smasher said it in another thread. It's not only obvious but sort of idiotic too which kind of tells you about where I have been at mentally at times in this rough year I have had. I was so much on autopilot with my game routine that I realized I just how much I have been greatly limiting myself.

Don't get me wrong, the prolonged and planned daygame sessions have been life changing and results have come. Even if I have not closed, I have met some amazing women I still DM with who are going to be visiting Miami later on in the year. All of that was good, but I realized I left one big gap.

Outside of game sessions for daygame, I was not in "game" mode for anything else when I would go out.

Gym, groceries, walks around the block when I see the odd hot girl, doctor's office, and just my day to day. No, that has all been just in my music and in my own thoughts. Looking back at it, I probably left at least a good 30 approaches on the table if not more because I was mentally like "not in a daygame session, forget it".

It's like my style is to work in blocks and dedicate X thing a day to Y task and them focus on that task. I have always worked that way and it has helped me out a lot in my career (before I ultimately quit a toxic work environment which was too much despite a good performance).

I have slowly had some exceptions but for the most part with daygame, outside of dedicated approach sessions on weekends, I barely daygame and am way too busy on a given task. I feel like in an ideal world someone should do both but I have only been doing the former. Yeah I am not in an ideal area of the city but despite the amount of old people in my neighborhood, there are at least a good 3 sets I can find when going out and about for just an evening walk.

Maybe this was the shift I really needed. However, this week is gonna be hectic. I hear back Thursday from a couple of places I interviewed at whether or not I got the job I had been aiming for but for one, the HR person told me "you can expect a fun November, keep that between us". Oh boy!

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

11/1/22

More of a dear diary kind of post than anything else but I have been utterly useless this week. Only got 2 hours of sleep on Sunday and then barely got any sleep last night. Situation at home and finalizing a job offer is getting me stressed out to where I did not even do any game. I have also eaten a lot of junk food in the past few days and it's not been going well for me there either. The other issue is the gap I will have before I return to Miami.

It's been one family situation after another and I will get closure on this one but I will need to be in Atlanta longer than I would like to be. I just want to have some stability in Miami so I can finally get back to the swing of things and go all in on game like I did for a lot of 2022. Learned so much and got lays from daygame but it was just so many setbacks from life. I have learned how to manage work but now a family situation I do not want to get too much into has come up and needs me to be in Atlanta for a couple of months at least.

I have felt so stuck due to all that is going on in life that I cannot focus, late October onwards was just a whirlwind for me. I need to get it together for sure and at least make the most of Miami for the short-term while I can. I am definitely coming back when all is said and done and sooner rather than later. However, 2021 onwards has been one crisis after another for me and I am feeling so burnt out because I cannot get the stability in life that I want. Once I handle one final family situation, I need to zero in on my game and life goals.

FFS, I am 30 and too old to deal with this crap. I have set the boundary hard now for myself and when I finally handle the final situation with the family that I need to, I am going to come back stronger and more focused than ever.

However, I also realize that I now need to take a break from SoSuave for the short-term before I come back a newer and more focused me. Before I do that, I am going to reflect back on 2022 for a bit.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

Reflecting on 2022.

So 2022 was a monumental year for me because right before I turned 30, I started to take game seriously. In the past, I was borderline black pilled about stuff and relied on online dating, social circle, and drinking + nightgame in order to pull. Sometime in late 2021, I realized that with the lack of a good nightlife in Miami, I needed to learn daygame. I didn't really get into seriously until 2022 because I was slacking and had a family emergency I needed to attend to. Around May or so, I did my first ever direct daygame approach and in that carefree summer I pulled of 4 lays before hitting a slump in August. July was my magic month though, something just came together.

Through focusing on daygame and going out every weekend to game, I started to slowly focus on a healthier lifestyle. I ate healthier, started lifting again, worked out more, and actually improved myself more than ever. It felt great and I felt like a new me. I feel like even though I am an older guy at 30, I opened up a new chapter in my life which has the potential to go to great lengths if I continue to learn.

I am going to have to take a hiatus due to some life situations that have popped up but I will be coming back to this forum, maybe till then someone can run the NoFap November thread for me. Maybe you @Rainman4707 lol?

It was also great to have forged a great e-friendship with @SW15 and @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 in the time that I was here. Who knows what life has in store but I will face my final challenge. Until then, taking a small break from SoSuave and hopefully coming back with some serious momentum boys.

 

[Rainman4707]

Reflecting on 2022.

So 2022 was a monumental year for me because right before I turned 30, I started to take game seriously. In the past, I was borderline black pilled about stuff and relied on online dating, social circle, and drinking + nightgame in order to pull. Sometime in late 2021, I realized that with the lack of a good nightlife in Miami, I needed to learn daygame. I didn't really get into seriously until 2022 because I was slacking and had a family emergency I needed to attend to. Around May or so, I did my first ever direct daygame approach and in that carefree summer I pulled of 4 lays before hitting a slump in August. July was my magic month though, something just came together.

Through focusing on daygame and going out every weekend to game, I started to slowly focus on a healthier lifestyle. I ate healthier, started lifting again, worked out more, and actually improved myself more than ever. It felt great and I felt like a new me. I feel like even though I am an older guy at 30, I opened up a new chapter in my life which has the potential to go to great lengths if I continue to learn.

I am going to have to take a hiatus due to some life situations that have popped up but I will be coming back to this forum, maybe till then someone can run the NoFap November thread for me. Maybe you @Rainman4707 lol?

It was also great to have forged a great e-friendship with @SW15 and @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 in the time that I was here. Who knows what life has in store but I will face my final challenge. Until then, taking a small break from SoSuave and hopefully coming back with some serious momentum boys.

I will have to pass. Haha.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

2022 sucked ******* for me until around late August/ early September because of life reasons and then I started seeing my Stonewall Jackson stance payoff lol. Don’t leave us hanging without knowing if you got the job situation settled at least . I know you said you had some final interview rounds. I had the plague from Saturday to Yesterday so I might of just missed your update if you said anything.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Getting back into daygame since doing nofap, will be posting field reports from now.

Hoping to also revive this thread and see reports from other users.

 

[SW15]

Getting back into daygame since doing nofap, will be posting field reports from now.

Hoping to also revive this thread and see reports from other users.

NoFap is the key to being a solid approacher. When you are horny, you are bold.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Jessie was wrong, Florida is now a red state like I predicted

 

[SW15]

Jesse didn't talk much about doing approaches on the beach. That's one somewhat unique feature of certain areas of Florida. That's a good outdoor approaching option. I often get frustrated with outdoor approaching in Dallas at the parks and on the 2 most populated paths. There are way too many women wearing earbuds while they are going to those outdoor venues in Dallas. I wonder if the Florida beaches have less of an earbud problem.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Just did my first approach in the city, asked her for directions to the library. Halfway through her sentence some middle aged guy interjects and gives me detailed instruction on how to find the library and facilities there

She left while he was talking, I'm not sure if he intentionally tried to ****block me there

 

[jaymbrs]

Reading this confirms I'm not missing out on **** when I stopped approaching. Mindless chatter followed by "I don't give out my number but here's my IG" is the biggest waste of time. I can't stand today's women. 10 years ago, I was slaying bad bitches left and right. My old wingman who is now married reminds me of those days and how he doesn't believe me when I say the game has changed THAT much. Pretty damn sad.

 

[Zimbabwe]

Reading this confirms I'm not missing out on **** when I stopped approaching. Mindless chatter followed by "I don't give out my number but here's my IG" is the biggest waste of time. I can't stand today's women. 10 years ago, I was slaying bad bitches left and right. My old wingman who is now married reminds me of those days and how he doesn't believe me when I say the game has changed THAT much. Pretty damn sad.

No form of game besides social circle (it's time consuming though) has a high success rate. You need to be strategic about your approaches, see if she is giving you choosing signals or not.