Jealousy has me so confused?

[Spaz]

Classic case of guy being in orbit and as guy tries to escape orbit gets pull back....

 

[marmel75]

Its not even worth itto wonder why or think about it. Live your life. When she sees you are doing that she will be back around and then you can tell her to kick boulders.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Attention wh0re. I knew a lady had to have all the attention of all the guys in the room. There was one she'd banter back and forth with more than the rest . So dude had a LESS attractive female talking to him and I saw she got jealous. It wasn't even her man, she just felt like that was her attention . They are crazy.

The lesson here is ANY female gets you in the game. Don't be stvck on "hot" chicks . Once you have one, more is easy.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Its not even worth itto wonder why or think about it. Live your life. When she sees you are doing that she will be back around and then you can tell her to kick boulders.

Your right . Not even worth a thought (thot).

 

[Billtx49]

Jealousy = possible love and desire. Classic female emotions and game…

 

[ohrein]

She made out in front of me because after she rejected me the second time I told her I was seeing someone. Still though, she had her chance, she has no right to get angry or upset. I could flirt with a girl in front of another girl but I couldn’t make out with them. I wouldn’t be that cruel..........it was more than making out too!

And to make it worse I’d have given the guy a 2! He wasn’t good looking and had the personality of a dead fly! And 0 game!

NC all the way then? Won’t even look at her status, what I can’t see I can’t read into

It doesn't matter why she has done anything she's done, look plainly at what she has done. Is this the kind of girl you want to get involved with? Is this how desperate for something interesting in your life you are? No contact is for getting over a oneitis and I'm not sure that applies here but I would hard next her, yes. If you're struggling to let go of your feelings for her then yes, go full no contact. The important thing is you decide yourself that you are better than this girl and you will not put up with any more of her sh1t. Whether you decide to talk to her and fvck her is inconsequential, it's the weak mindset that's the issue. Don't put up with sh1tty behavior just to get laid. It's desperate and sad and you're more valuable than that.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Jealousy = possible love and desire. Classic female emotions and game…

That first equation is POWERFUL.

 

[Jonnybravo]

Thanks for all the replies and advice........ found out last night that she was lieing to me with a few things. I wasn’t talking to her but figured it out.
She had something to gain from me and that’s the reason she kept me sweet and gave me hope.
Annoyed at myself for letting myself get played like that. But I’ll turn the negative into a positive and learn from it.

I have some other stories to tell about other girls that will definitely help people on here. Keep an eye out, I’ll post them this weekend.

Again thanks to everyone who replied.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Thanks for all the replies and advice........ found out last night that she was lieing to me with a few things. I wasn’t talking to her but figured it out.
She had something to gain from me and that’s the reason she kept me sweet and gave me hope.
Annoyed at myself for letting myself get played like that. But I’ll turn the negative into a positive and learn from it.

I have some other stories to tell about other girls that will definitely help people on here. Keep an eye out, I’ll post them this weekend.

Again thanks to everyone who replied.

What where the lies and how did it come clear?

 

[Jonnybravo]

It doesn't matter why she has done anything she's done, look plainly at what she has done. Is this the kind of girl you want to get involved with? Is this how desperate for something interesting in your life you are? No contact is for getting over a oneitis and I'm not sure that applies here but I would hard next her, yes. If you're struggling to let go of your feelings for her then yes, go full no contact. The important thing is you decide yourself that you are better than this girl and you will not put up with any more of her sh1t. Whether you decide to talk to her and fvck her is inconsequential, it's the weak mindset that's the issue. Don't put up with sh1tty behavior just to get laid. It's desperate and sad and you're more valuable than that.

Thanks, what I needed to hear! The term “hard next” is new to me, do you mean just cut her out of my life the same way I would drop a toxic friend? I’ve become good at that...... dropped many a toxic friend recently.

 

[Jonnybravo]

What where the lies and how did it come clear?

I don’t want to get into the lies as it’s something kind of personal, but I made small talk with someone I bumped into last night. Didn’t mention her but the person I spoke to did in the conversation.

Said a few things and I realised what was going on with her keeping me sweet but rejecting me. She was just using me.

Lesson here is to always be nice to people and help them. But never do a favour for a girl you like without her doing something first. Once you do a favour she will know all she needs to do is flirt with you and get what she wants. Let her earn the favour.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I don’t want to get into the lies as it’s something kind of personal, but I made small talk with someone I bumped into last night. Didn’t mention her but the person I spoke to did in the conversation.

Said a few things and I realised what was going on with her keeping me sweet but rejecting me. She was just using me.

Lesson here is to always be nice to people and help them. But never do a favour for a girl you like without her doing something first. Once you do a favour she will know all she needs to do is flirt with you and get what she wants. Let her earn the favour.

The other lesson was you can't just like her and prioritize her cause she looks fine . She might be a jerk...

That's why they say you have to treat women the same. Have the same boundaries .

It's good for the man too cause he don't hand his balls over submitting to her outer beauty . It truly is submission guys.

 

[BeExcellent]

Thanks, what I needed to hear! The term “hard next” is new to me, do you mean just cut her out of my life the same way I would drop a toxic friend? I’ve become good at that...... dropped many a toxic friend recently.

Advice from the old lady:

She played with you like a cat plays with a squeaky toy. As long as it amused her. Never give people like this your emotional bandwidth. Pretty trash is still trash.

You got swept up by her looks and her crazy (like many men), and you mistook that for interest. Furthermore people who get angry/jealous are more trouble than they are worth. Jealousy stems from a feeling of lack. People with feelings of lack have low self worth and misery loves company.

She never gave a crap about you, she isn't an emotionally healthy person, and her actions are clear indicators of this.

Only reward women who show you through action that they like you, encourage you & appreciate you. Those are the women you reward with time and attention. Only pick from those chicks & you'll have much better outcomes. Slay your ego. This was all about ego - entirely counter productive to what is good for you.

 

[greatsnake]

She’s really not into you— move on. The sooner the better

 

[ohrein]

Thanks, what I needed to hear! The term “hard next” is new to me, do you mean just cut her out of my life the same way I would drop a toxic friend? I’ve become good at that...... dropped many a toxic friend recently.

Exactly. Hard next means in your mind she is erased as a potential mate. If a woman had demonstrated she has a lack of respect for you, she should never be an option. Some guys will say you can still sleep with her but I don't think it's worth it. Nexting is moving on and no longer giving a woman attention, but maybe responding if she contacts. Hard nexting to me is moving on permanently. No contact is specifically for getting over oneitis and it's moving on completely but also not talking to them at all.

 

[Jonnybravo]

Exactly. Hard next means in your mind she is erased as a potential mate. If a woman had demonstrated she has a lack of respect for you, she should never be an option. Some guys will say you can still sleep with her but I don't think it's worth it. Nexting is moving on and no longer giving a woman attention, but maybe responding if she contacts. Hard nexting to me is moving on permanently. No contact is specifically for getting over oneitis and it's moving on completely but also not talking to them at all.

Thanks for that...... no sleeping with her wouldn’t be an option, I think if someone has any kind of feelings for a girl and the girl messed them around then sleeping with them would only create more feelings and more attachment making the situation worse. It’s something I wouldn’t do unless I have a take or leave it attitude about a girl with no emotion attached.

And yes I can make all th excuses I want but making out in front of me (actually went further than that, a lot of hands!) showed serious disrespect and showed her for the kind of person she really is. Flirting to get my attention is one thing, but that behavior over stepped the line. Crazy thing is some girls think it’s an acceptable way to make the guy jealous and show him what he’s missing.

Girl rejects me, then does that to make me jealous. Or more wanting attention and seeing me suffer knowing that I like her. Well I can proudly say that I pulled off being unphased like a pro. Didn’t move away nor did I look, corner of my eye I could see her head turned and on me for the whole “session” haha

 

[Jonnybravo]

Advice from the old lady:

She played with you like a cat plays with a squeaky toy. As long as it amused her. Never give people like this your emotional bandwidth. Pretty trash is still trash.

You got swept up by her looks and her crazy (like many men), and you mistook that for interest. Furthermore people who get angry/jealous are more trouble than they are worth. Jealousy stems from a feeling of lack. People with feelings of lack have low self worth and misery loves company.

She never gave a crap about you, she isn't an emotionally healthy person, and her actions are clear indicators of this.

Only reward women who show you through action that they like you, encourage you & appreciate you. Those are the women you reward with time and attention. Only pick from those chicks & you'll have much better outcomes. Slay your ego. This was all about ego - entirely counter productive to what is good for you.

What you said makes 100% sense. You meet a girl that ticks all the boxes as being you type looks wise. She gives you some attention and then you start to fall for mix of her looks and what you imagine her personality to be, you disregarded her bad behavior and make excuses because it goes against your fantasy or the “perfect girl” that ticked all your boxes. It’s an easy situation to get sucked into.
Now I’m aware and the next one who ticks all the boxes looks wise I’ll remember that! Thanks

 

[Jonnybravo]

The other lesson was you can't just like her and prioritize her cause she looks fine . She might be a jerk...

That's why they say you have to treat women the same. Have the same boundaries .

It's good for the man too cause he don't hand his balls over submitting to her outer beauty . It truly is submission guys.

Your 100% right, I gave a reply to this a few comments down to someone else as well. She ticks all the boxes of your imagine of the perfect girl for you. Then you disregard her bad behavior and make excuses for it because if she ticks the boxes with looks then your going to tell yourself her personality is perfect to especially if she shows you attention.

I guess it’s even if she ticks every box of what you look for in a gir, still hold back until you get to know her.

Stress and drama can be handled but no worse feeling than the stress when a girl gets into your head and throws you some crumbs but you never get there.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Your 100% right, I gave a reply to this a few comments down to someone else as well. She ticks all the boxes of your imagine of the perfect girl for you. Then you disregard her bad behavior and make excuses for it because if she ticks the boxes with looks then your going to tell yourself her personality is perfect to especially if she shows you attention.

I guess it’s even if she ticks every box of what you look for in a gir, still hold back until you get to know her.

Stress and drama can be handled but no worse feeling than the stress when a girl gets into your head and throws you some crumbs but you never get there.

They throw crumbs cause they know you submitted. They can feel it.

The men who fvck em don't treat em special hell many are treated much less than special .

 

[Jonnybravo]

Funny thing is, it’s said to act like you don’t care to a girl.
I know people who chase and hound a girl and they get her, many a time.

A girl I was good friends with loved it when a new guy practically staked her. And if he played it cool she would forget about him and on to the next.

So if the game plan is to play it cool, how come the above succeeded? I had girls snatched from under me by guys with this borderline stalker behavior.