loveorhate
Don Juan
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Last night I had an epiphany. Before last night my goal with this whole seduction thing, which to me is nothing more than approaching and meeting women (Nothing shrewd or cleverness about it on my part. Just natural, uncalculated behavior), not seduction at all, was to become a player. A player in my book is someone who has more than one women he sleeps with. That's what I wanted. I wanted to have more than one women. My freakin greed is what was getting in my way. Let me explain(though I'll make it as short as possible). About a year ago, I started approach and meeting women. In the beginning, my effort was relentless. I did it every day. I must have approached over 2000 women, and dated quite a few of them. I was very, very determined becuase I had gone almost 3 years without a girl. So, besides being as horny as a jack rabbit, I was very lonely. I wanted to change that and I did. I met a very attractive (both inside and out) girl who is now my girlfriend. We've been together for about sex months and she tells me she loves me everyday. I got what I wanted. From what I've heard, it has taken some guys several attempts at the dating and relationship thing to find an exceptional girl. I'm very lucky, I'll admit. But this good fortune hasn't been enough to stop me from approaching women. Before today, I've still been trying to fulfill this adolescent dream of become this player type. But today, that all changed. My attitude changed. I realized I couldn't become this player becuase my whole heart was not in it. I mean, the burning desire for a girl I displayed before my girlfriend is not there anymore. Why? Because this girl Im have relationship with is really good. I mean she's physically attractive, positive, intelligent, interesting, and fun. And she always seems to interested in everything I do ... very engaged. What I really want is not more girls becuase if I did, I would have them. What I want is one girlfriend, but to still be surrounded by women. Today I changed my approach. Instead of approaching women with the intent to get her number or date her, I decided to approach women with no intent at all. I decided just to be friendly, and it got me good results. The women I approached were more open to conversation, and the last girl I approached seemed (or maybe I was just full of my self) to have wanted me to ask her for her number after having a normal conversation with her. I mean it was sooo easy to talk to them once I told myself "look. you don't want more girls. you're not hungry for them anymore. you've simply been obsesses with the idea of becoming a player, which has made you look needy. Everytime you've approached women, you've seemed like your after something, which was a put off for them. If anything, you want friends" Once I realized I did not want more women for sex, companionship, and love, my attitude change. so did my approach. I just can't believe I spent so much time approaching women with the mentality I had. I don't even have the time for more women, so why the fuk was I still approaching them? I've got the number to several other girls in that time, but never called none of them. why was I fooling myself? maybe i just didn't want to give it up. maybe that's why I've decided to change my approach and not lose the habit of meeting women entirely. maybe i can't live without them. maybe Im just obsesses with women.