Its Official..... Im broken up...

[In2theGame]

Life must be putting me to a huge emotional test. As i have mentioned before in my other posts how bad the last 2 months have been, Tonight added even more gas on the fire. I just got home from the Hospital, I ate a chicken sandwich that i bought from a deli last night, i got food poison, i was on the verge of collapsing after my hearing went and my vision was totally blurry (like i was passing out) and had to be taken to the ER by ambulance. This is just ...unreal. getting back on the original topic, This is what i found in my Email from her:

I am so sorry that I have put you through all of this. I know you love me so much, and I know you know I love you so much too. I feel horrible, but I do feel like I have been able to get some of my thoughts together. The fact is that I really cannot imagine my life without you, I already had planned it with you. All that I am doing at this moment is praying to God that you will not try to go ahead and live your life without me, but then again that seems selfish. I am just so lost at this point, I don’t know what else to do. I am trying so hard not to just give up on everything. I don’t even want to tell anyone what has happened. Maybe after all of this we can sit down and talk again

That was the email she sent me last night. Dont know if i should respond or how should i intemperate this?

 

[perseverance]

I'd be interested to know what her grounds were for breaking up with you in the first place?

As for your ex-girlfriend, I wouldn't take her back mate, if she was a keeper, she would have worked with you through any problems in the relationship. If you take her back, she'll more than likely do it again knowing that you'll take her back.

I'm a firm believer that once you break up with someone then that's the fate of the relationship sealed. You can reunite time after time, but it will never work out.

Cherish the good times, but forget about her. If I was in your shoes, I would have a talk with her, get whatever needs to said out in the open and then I'd walk away for good and when I mean walk away, I mean erase out of your life completely.

You owe it to yourself to start a new chapter in life without her in it.

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

That was the email she sent me last night. Dont know if i should respond or how should i intemperate this?

You already answered this yourself:

Thanks alot guys for the support here on SS, appreciate it. I am going to go the no contact route and just try to stay rock strong.

I don't think trying to interpret anything is a good idea, it will only prolong all your negative thoughts and "what ifs?".

Right now is a good time to step back until you soba up from these emotions. Putting it all to one side, taking a break and worrying about it later.

Yeah it will feel like a lot of effort (tell me about it, I know how it feels, that comes with the mild depression) but you really must try and change your routine, so that if you had a time of day where you were always seeing her - do something else.

I felt the most depressed soon after my breakup when I was at home in the evenings, when I used to snuggle up in front of the TV with my ex. When I got out, just anything at all surrounded by other people, friends, people at the gym, even if I didn't speak to these people... whatever.

I understand, this will be very hard to do at first, as it will feel strange, maybe even a little lonely and out of place. After just a couple of weeks I had felt much better, as long as you keep at it.

Just be patient, I can only say it takes a little time to adjust (you may feel thats seems impossible right now, trust me it isn't).

But please, don't go analyzing her speeches in great detail, its not healthy and right now you are not strong enough for anything she is likely to throw at you.

IMO the only reason for replying would be telling her to leave you alone until shes had time to get her head straight.

 

[Kailex]

Life must be putting me to a huge emotional test. As i have mentioned before in my other posts how bad the last 2 months have been, Tonight added even more gas on the fire. I just got home from the Hospital, I ate a chicken sandwich that i bought from a deli last night, i got food poison, i was on the verge of collapsing after my hearing went and my vision was totally blurry (like i was passing out) and had to be taken to the ER by ambulance. This is just ...unreal. getting back on the original topic, This is what i found in my Email from her:

I am so sorry that I have put you through all of this. I know you love me so much, and I know you know I love you so much too. I feel horrible, but I do feel like I have been able to get some of my thoughts together. The fact is that I really cannot imagine my life without you, I already had planned it with you. All that I am doing at this moment is praying to God that you will not try to go ahead and live your life without me, but then again that seems selfish. I am just so lost at this point, I don’t know what else to do. I am trying so hard not to just give up on everything. I don’t even want to tell anyone what has happened. Maybe after all of this we can sit down and talk again

That was the email she sent me last night. Dont know if i should respond or how should i intemperate this?

Interpret it like this:

"When I broke up with you, I was planning on seeing another guy. He seemed promising, better than you, more attractive than you. I thought that by having certain anatomical parts that he could possibly crave, he would fall for me and then I could leave the security of OUR relationship and start a new one with this better, hotter guy. Alas, this guy is just not that into me and I feel like the branch I was trying to swing to isn't too sturdy. Since I know you love me and you couldn't possibly imagine your life without me, you'll take me back... why? Because you are weaker, because you know I am too good for you, and as such, you WILL take me back WHEN I DECIDE I WANT YOU BACK. I just want to talk so that I make sure that you stay unavailable to everyone else but only available to me, even if I don't want to get back with you right away. Please keep your life on hold for me. And even if we get back together, I can't promise you at all that I won't do this again in about 6 months, a year, or maybe more. I'll always be unreliable in a relationship with you but I expect you to be there for me 100% no matter how much emotional turmoil I put you through. I completely expect you to forgive me and even forgive the fact that I dumped you, after all, you are a weak male in my eyes and going No Contact and taking my break up with you seriously, would only prove to me that you are stronger than I accounted for."






Newsflash:

It's over. We gave you a day or two of grievance, but the pity party is over. It's time to take the dress off, Nancy.

She's telling you CLEAR AS DAY:

All that I am doing at this moment is praying to God that you will not try to go ahead and live your life without me, but then again that seems selfish.

Yes, she IS selfish.
MOVE ON.

 

[Last_straw]

OP, it's over. Don't try and analyze her behavior. Block her email address. And block her from calling you or texting you if you can (ask your cell provider). Remove this girl from your life and move on.

More importantly, did you go chill with those 2 chicks last night?

 

[Joe Stud]

Trying to <Rep> Kailex... but it says I must spread some reps to others before doing so. Excellent analogy.

OP: NC is NC. No need to break military silence. Move on. Pick up a rain date with the other 2 chicks. Dress nice, smell good, head up=confidence. Have fun and be fun to be around. And... dont talk to them about your breakup. Life goes on.

 

[vatoloco]

Holy sh1t! Sounds like a real winner right there... [/sarcasm]

Though you also share some of the blame for putting up with such massive amounts of sh!t/drama, which IMO, just encourages the crazies to be even more fvcking crazy!

 

[Lord Sidious]

Sorry to know that, bro. It´s painful. But I have news for you: You´ll live.

That´s the way things are, dude! You must face the problem and move along with your life.


Best wishes!