soulforge
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guys i have already done 3 or 4 threads on this chick, please read those threads
i have been dating this girl for around 4 months, in that time we have had alteast 3 fallouts
each and everytime she seems to twist the situation around, make me to look like the bad guy... i feel like she is always using power plays against me
she texted me 2 days ago, and arranged a date for thursday night (tonight)
we both agreed on this date...
last night i sent her a text, and just asked her what she did with her day off work, and i sent her a picture of a car i am looking at buying
she did not get back to me at all that night..
the next morning i got a simple text off her, saying... "thats a nice car"
no mention of how her day off work was, and not even a reason for why she did not message me back that night.. not that i really needed an explanation.. just think its good manners to let a person know sometimes
(this chick has been persuing me hard for a full on relationship, and has even talked about marriage lol)
this is how the text conversation went..
HER : thats a nice car x
ME : yes it is.. erm i did also ask about how your day went yesterday x
HER : erm somebody has woke up grumpy today
HER : my day was quiet, i didnt do much x
ME : i'm not bieng grumpy, guess its ok to have a quiet day sometimes x
so i went to work afterwards, and i never heard anything from her all day..
she usually sends me the odd message at work, but nothing today..
i am usually very busy to be messaging her.
anyhow she usually comes to my house for 9pm after i have finished work.. i finish work at 7pm.. when i get home, i usualy shower, eat, get changed, tidy up etc etc before she comes
she always sends me a text (like clockwork) to check what time she should come over for... and i usually tell her around 9pm
tonight i got no text off her... i got home and got ready to meet her, showerd shaved etc etc.. but no text from her!
my gut told me something was wrong... this was another power play.. she was expecting me to text her, and ask her when she is coming over? she wanted me to be the one reaching out to her
i was just expecting her to come over as per usual and as planned, but she was playing power games instead.. anyhow when it came to 9.45pm, i knew she was not going to come over now
i knew, she is probably sat at home, expecting me to text her to come over..
this was a pre arranged date for tonight.. i had no reason to text her about it, i just assumed it was business as usual..
so then i sent her this text message tonight...
ME : hey if you was not going to come over tonight, then least you could have done is texted me and let me know..
HER : erm i did not get a text off you about meeting today, so i assumed you did not want to see me
ME: if i did not want to see you, i would have just texted you and let you know before hand and cancled.. we had pre arranged this date for tonight, so why would i text you about it, when it was already confirmed
HER : well you was in a mood this morning, so i guessed you would not want to meet, and if you did.. then you would just text me
ME: me in a mood?. get real.. i wasn't even in a mood.. i just pointed out that i had asked you the night before about how your day off was.. if i was in a mood, or did not want to meet you, then i would have told you so
HER: I cant just come over to your house just like that, if you have not contacted me during the day
ME: my day is always hectic at work and we are not allowed to use our phones freely.. you always message me after work and ask me what time to come over... i,m not silly and can clearly tell when you are playing games
HER: be rude and paranoid all you want
ME: i,m not bieng rude.. nevermind have a good night
AT THIS POINT I KNEW SHE IS TRYING TO MANIPULATE ME, TWIST THINGS AROUND, CREATE DRAMA AND START MAKING ME LOOK LIKE THE BAD GUY.. SO I KILLED OFF THE CONVERSATION
in the past i have never messaged her while at work, to confirm a date.. this date was already arranged..
she knows i am very busy at work and unable to freely text.. she usualy 99% of the time waits till i have finished work, got home, got showered etc etc, then she will send me a text and ask what time to come over
today she is twisting the whole thing around...
i have come to the point.. where i feel i need to dump this chick.. i feel she is quite manipulative, and loves to twist things around.. also playing power games all the time... plus she has many male friends
and i met her on POF
I wont lie.. i like this chick, got feelings for her... but can't be with a woman who carries on like this
this was a power play.. she was pizzed at me, because she wrongfully thought i was in a mood this morning.. and she wanted me to be the one trying to set up the date, and be reaching out to her
do i need to dump this girl??
i have been dating this girl for around 4 months, in that time we have had alteast 3 fallouts
each and everytime she seems to twist the situation around, make me to look like the bad guy... i feel like she is always using power plays against me
she texted me 2 days ago, and arranged a date for thursday night (tonight)
we both agreed on this date...
last night i sent her a text, and just asked her what she did with her day off work, and i sent her a picture of a car i am looking at buying
she did not get back to me at all that night..
the next morning i got a simple text off her, saying... "thats a nice car"
no mention of how her day off work was, and not even a reason for why she did not message me back that night.. not that i really needed an explanation.. just think its good manners to let a person know sometimes
(this chick has been persuing me hard for a full on relationship, and has even talked about marriage lol)
this is how the text conversation went..
HER : thats a nice car x
ME : yes it is.. erm i did also ask about how your day went yesterday x
HER : erm somebody has woke up grumpy today
HER : my day was quiet, i didnt do much x
ME : i'm not bieng grumpy, guess its ok to have a quiet day sometimes x
so i went to work afterwards, and i never heard anything from her all day..
she usually sends me the odd message at work, but nothing today..
i am usually very busy to be messaging her.
anyhow she usually comes to my house for 9pm after i have finished work.. i finish work at 7pm.. when i get home, i usualy shower, eat, get changed, tidy up etc etc before she comes
she always sends me a text (like clockwork) to check what time she should come over for... and i usually tell her around 9pm
tonight i got no text off her... i got home and got ready to meet her, showerd shaved etc etc.. but no text from her!
my gut told me something was wrong... this was another power play.. she was expecting me to text her, and ask her when she is coming over? she wanted me to be the one reaching out to her
i was just expecting her to come over as per usual and as planned, but she was playing power games instead.. anyhow when it came to 9.45pm, i knew she was not going to come over now
i knew, she is probably sat at home, expecting me to text her to come over..
this was a pre arranged date for tonight.. i had no reason to text her about it, i just assumed it was business as usual..
so then i sent her this text message tonight...
ME : hey if you was not going to come over tonight, then least you could have done is texted me and let me know..
HER : erm i did not get a text off you about meeting today, so i assumed you did not want to see me
ME: if i did not want to see you, i would have just texted you and let you know before hand and cancled.. we had pre arranged this date for tonight, so why would i text you about it, when it was already confirmed
HER : well you was in a mood this morning, so i guessed you would not want to meet, and if you did.. then you would just text me
ME: me in a mood?. get real.. i wasn't even in a mood.. i just pointed out that i had asked you the night before about how your day off was.. if i was in a mood, or did not want to meet you, then i would have told you so
HER: I cant just come over to your house just like that, if you have not contacted me during the day
ME: my day is always hectic at work and we are not allowed to use our phones freely.. you always message me after work and ask me what time to come over... i,m not silly and can clearly tell when you are playing games
HER: be rude and paranoid all you want
ME: i,m not bieng rude.. nevermind have a good night
AT THIS POINT I KNEW SHE IS TRYING TO MANIPULATE ME, TWIST THINGS AROUND, CREATE DRAMA AND START MAKING ME LOOK LIKE THE BAD GUY.. SO I KILLED OFF THE CONVERSATION
in the past i have never messaged her while at work, to confirm a date.. this date was already arranged..
she knows i am very busy at work and unable to freely text.. she usualy 99% of the time waits till i have finished work, got home, got showered etc etc, then she will send me a text and ask what time to come over
today she is twisting the whole thing around...
i have come to the point.. where i feel i need to dump this chick.. i feel she is quite manipulative, and loves to twist things around.. also playing power games all the time... plus she has many male friends
and i met her on POF
I wont lie.. i like this chick, got feelings for her... but can't be with a woman who carries on like this
this was a power play.. she was pizzed at me, because she wrongfully thought i was in a mood this morning.. and she wanted me to be the one trying to set up the date, and be reaching out to her
do i need to dump this girl??