Is This Girl Manipulating Me?? Need Advice

[DaddyLongShanks]

I hear and understand what you guys are saying.. and i do appreciate all your advice..

its seems to me she is playing the victim again, manipulating the situation..

I know exactly how things will go from now..

01. She will make no attempt to message or talk to me

02. after 3 or 4 days, she will send me a text, again playing the victim, claiming that i have not bothered with her, and making it look like its me who has ended it with her.



Had a long think last night.. and its obvious a relationship with this girl will not workout.. the thought of demoting her to fuk buddy while persuing other woman seems tempting.. but she will notice that sudden change in me..

Plus i have feelings for her, and i think things could get complicated..

I think if you want her to act right, demote her to FB status, get someone else you spend time with and lay pipe with. She will notice, you don't have to answer to her about it. It WILL change the power balance, and some females just need to know that you have options or even have another babe to act right... Weird I know.

But if you don't want to out and out drop her, dropping her to FB status, not relying on her at all for emotional or any other support, spend time with other females and screw them will be perfect.

You might find she falls right into line and is nice to you all of a sudden.

 

[soulforge]

I think if you want her to act right, demote her to FB status, get someone else you spend time with and lay pipe with. She will notice, you don't have to answer to her about it. It WILL change the power balance, and some females just need to know that you have options or even have another babe to act right... Weird I know.

But if you don't want to out and out drop her, dropping her to FB status, not relying on her at all for emotional or any other support, spend time with other females and screw them will be perfect.

You might find she falls right into line and is nice to you all of a sudden.

i see your point... and its very temtping to go along with this.. but here is the problem..

usualy she would sleep over at my house.. we would watch movies together.. hold hands.. take day trips out.. we was quite loving with each other


if i demote her to FB status... i would have to stop her from sleeping over, no more days out.. no more holding hands etc etc


she is going to notice this sudden change in me.. is this not going to make her want to completely bail out?

 

[Willard]

You don't have to stop doing those things with her, you have to stop taking her seriously and try to find other girls to date. As DaddyLongShanks says "You might find she falls right into line and is nice to you all of a sudden"

If a girl thinks she is losing you she is going to change her behavior in your favor. Arguing with girls is futile, calling her out because she didn't tell you how her day is is lame as hell. You have to let all this stupid stuff go. Act like a man who doesn't give a crap and doesn't lose his composure ever.

Have you heard from her yet?

If while you two aren't speaking, she thinks you don't care and are out having fun or meeting other girls, you are going to get the upper hand. You might even find someone better if you look.

 

[soulforge]

You don't have to stop doing those things with her, you have to stop taking her seriously and try to find other girls to date. As DaddyLongShanks says "You might find she falls right into line and is nice to you all of a sudden"

If a girl thinks she is losing you she is going to change her behavior in your favor. Arguing with girls is futile, calling her out because she didn't tell you how her day is is lame as hell. You have to let all this stupid stuff go. Act like a man who doesn't give a crap and doesn't lose his composure ever.

Have you heard from her yet?

If while you two aren't speaking, she thinks you don't care and are out having fun or meeting other girls, you are going to get the upper hand. You might even find someone better if you look.

Dude i did not call her out.. all i said was.. 'i asked you how your day was yesterday'

Thats not calling her out.. i wasn't angry or pizzed off.. i was just curious about what she did with her day.. because the previous day she messaged me, and told me that its a very sunny day outside.. and i have no idea what to do with myself


so i was curious about what she did.. i don't even normaly ask her what she did with her day... this is a very rare occasion that i asked her..

So i was surprised she did not reply to my question.. i think she believed i was bieng grumpy, but i was not.

So over a silly petty stupid little thing like this... she decided not to show up at my house and flaked on me..

Such a petty little thing and she took it so personaly... and she flaked out on our date..

I assumed we was still on for the date, as we had arranged it only 2 nights ago..

if something this petty and trivial is enough for her to over react like this... how could i possibily get through a long term relationship with her..


What if one day i had to call her out on some serious bad behaviour.. is she going to play the victim, manipulate the situation and stop talking to me again..

Are we going to end up in this same situation all over again!

 

[soulforge]

I agree with you.. i need to stop caring, and stop taking her seriously, and stop giving a fuk.. i have heard nothing from her yet... she pulled this on me once before.. about a month ago..

we had a little disagreemant, but made up again within an hour.. she went home the next day, with me thinking everything is good with us..

I sent her a text, that night... then another text the next morning.. i was expecting her to make an effort and text me either that night or maybe the day after...

But i did not hear from her again till 6 days later... and when she did finaly get intouch, she accused me of not bothering with her, and wished me good luck and basicly said goodbye to me...

Even tho i had texted her two days in a row.. she was still expecting me to keep texting, and because i did not... she disappeared for 6 days, and indirectly ended things

 

[pyros]

you say you met her on POF and you'd like to make her gf????
you should've just banged her a few times and nothing more.
90% of women from POF are trash in some way or in many ways.

In this case she is manipulative, among other things you haven't seen yet.
Stay away or keep her as a FWB, no more drama, you'll be better without this woman altering your life.

Woman from POF = no long term relationship material.

 

[Willard]

You take women too seriously, I used to do that as well, now I just don't care very much. Women are emotional and irrational, men are logical, the two don't mix well. This girl is not your soul mate because there is no such thing.

Don't let this crap bother you, If you were working on a few other women, this girls behavior probably wouldn't bother you.

Try to have fun this weekend, try to meet other girls, next week text her hi and see how she reacts.

Being upset and hurt is doing you no good, meeting a hot girl this weekend will do you much good, set up a POF or OKcupid account, better yet try Tinder, or go out with friends.

 

[soulforge]

You take women too seriously, I used to do that as well, now I just don't care very much. Women are emotional and irrational, men are logical, the two don't mix well. This girl is not your soul mate because there is no such thing.

Don't let this crap bother you, If you were working on a few other women, this girls behavior probably wouldn't bother you.

Try to have fun this weekend, try to meet other girls, next week text her hi and see how she reacts.

Being upset and hurt is doing you no good, meeting a hot girl this weekend will do you much good, set up a POF or OKcupid account, better yet try Tinder, or go out with friends.

I agree with you... the first moment she played up... i should have demoted her to fuk buddy...

All her actions so far have proven, that she is not the girl who will stick by me.. infact she will bail over the smallest of things..

So i may keep her around simply as a plate... as for girlfriend or wife... not a fukin chance!!

 

[soulforge]

And i have already got two dates set up.. one for saturday and one for sunday

 

[Willard]

Awesome, I'm happy for you, go have fun, you'll probably have this POF girl wanting you bad, keep her as a FB. I'm looking forward to hearing how your weekend went.

I just matched with a Tinder chick, hot as hell, bisexual, here for a few days with her girlfriend, I told her let's meet for a drink, she said when were you thinking. I have another Tinder date in an hour, and a POF date on Sunday. hopefully it will be a good weekend for both of us.

 

[soulforge]

Awesome, I'm happy for you, go have fun, you'll probably have this POF girl wanting you bad, keep her as a FB. I'm looking forward to hearing how your weekend went.

I just matched with a Tinder chick, hot as hell, bisexual, here for a few days with her girlfriend, I told her let's meet for a drink, she said when were you thinking. I have another Tinder date in an hour, and a POF date on Sunday. hopefully it will be a good weekend for both of us.

thanx for your advice man.. you are right.. i thought she was a quality girl.. but she has proven me wrong.. she is flakey and too much drama.. if she comes back, i will keep her strictly as a fuk buddy.. maybe play out some fantasies with her, but no more girlfriend boyfriend stuff..

Also if these two dates go well.. i could have a few more options to play with.. These POF girls are so fuking whacked

 

[soulforge]

I was supposed to be meeting her tonight.. we always meet saturday daytime for around 2pm..

I know for a fact she will be expecting me to contact her.. she as always has made herself the victim here..

I would like to keep her around as a Fuk buddy.. as a relationship is out of the question.. do i keep no contact, and let her make a move


or reach out to her

 

[soulforge]

She is pissed off because i called her out about not showing up for the date... she is claiming i was rude to her..

Again all the blame lands on me lol... think i will just have to dump this chick asap, or else i will have to walk on egg shells around her forever!!


This chick takes everything so personaly, and clearly is willing to walk away...

Guys should i send her a text message and dump her, or just delete everyrhing and vanish????

 

[soulforge]

So it seems like, if i call her out on bad behaviour or playing games.. then i am the bad guy... i am upseting her...


Even if i did manage to make up with her... it will only be a matter of time, till she does something or says something to pisss me off... and i will have to go through this whole bullshiit all over again...

I don't even feel its worth having her around as fuk buddy either! Only more drama will come out of it

 

[soulforge]

Update! !

I Finaly Dumped Her

 

[zorg198]

LoL, its looks like she's the man in the relationship and you are the girl.

Dude, What the fvck is wrong with you? why you keep seeking her attention. fvck her. if she don't contact you then she don't . keep yourself busy. meet other girls. you are too much invested in this girl and she know's is!!! go ghost.
Joe.