See, this is one of those things I look at as, "This girl isn't ready for a committed relationship". If she's constantly talking about porking other dudes, it doesn't mean I wouldn't hit it myself (with a condom obviously). But I'd note that and continue to play the field until she comes around. If she takes off and disappears...fuggit.
This is one of those situations where ego is blinding the OP, ego that stands or falls on the basis of whether he is able to "hold down a steady girl".
What he should be saying is, "Damn, she's a freak...as long as she keeps putting out I'll keep hittin' it, but let's see what else is out there too. This one doesn't seem ready for the exclusive thing."
Instead he's saying, "OMG is she sh*t-testing me?? What does this mean for the relationship?? I don't want to lose her! I gotta make the right moves here guys!"
This girl has not done anything that makes her worthy of you stressing over losing her. She's a freaky slvt, she loves sex, so enjoy it as long as it's coming your way.
She said it herself...you're throwing a wrench into her works by not acting needy and being strong-willed. So she's upping the ante...playing the jealousy-angle to see if she can get you tweaked.
Let her keep talking that sh!t...the more she does it, the less time you seem to have for her, the more time you spend with other girls. In the meantime, when you get together with her, you're getting what YOU want...sex.
All of this talk about other men should be immaterial to you, because you're NOT looking at her as an "LTR prospect". And the reason you're not doing this is because she has ACTIVELY identified that she is NOT ready for consideration for such a position.
Why don't men LISTEN when dealing with women, instead of just waiting for their turn to speak? You could save yourself a lot of grief and find out a lot more about the women you desire if instead of just waiting to spit out whatever cheeseball line you learned on SoSuave.net, you actually LISTENED to what she was trying to tell you.
And this girl is trying to tell you that she likes you a lot, but she's in a sexually impulsive phase that makes her unfit to commit to one man.
You can call that "BPD" or "bipolar" or "Cluster B", but it's really that simple.
And she'll either get over it or she won't. Either way, it's not worth stressing over. B!tches ain't sh!t but h0es and tr!icks.
This is exactly what I'm talking about. Don't try to fight women on their own level...rise above it and let the storm rage beneath you. Descend only for what you WANT.