2 months ago I went on a 3 week holiday with 3 others that I’ve known for 10 years. One of the girls had split up with her boyfriend 2 months before (she had bought a house with him etc and had been seeing him 3 years). I wasn't massively into her before I went away – mainly because she was a good friend and she has always has a boyfriend since I’ve known her first someone for 6 years and then last one for 3 years.
I live 3 hours away so we didn’t really see each other much since college. On holiday we kind of got on well and kissed a few times, my housemate who is also a good friend of hers kind of got in the way, (I think she fancies me although they both told me different.) Anyway this sort of stopped us getting together for a while. She snogged someone at a nightclub on holiday, but didn’t see him again saying she didn’t really like him. I pulled a girl that night and spent the next 3 nights with her.
We had a chat while pissed on the last day and kissed again. We both agreed that we really liked each other and talked about getting together when we got back. To be fair she did say then that she thought it was a risk – and not to take it like she didn’t like me but that she was still a bit confused / messed up over her break up. I told her to think about it.
Anyway when we got back we texted each other a lot and I spoke to her a few times on the phone. We arranged for me to go up and see her. I went 2 weeks ago for the whole weekend. Had a really good weekend I thought it had gone well. I think I made a few mistakes I slept with her both nights Friday & Sat but didn’t shag her just cuddling & kissing.
She texted me after saying did I get home OK etc. She sent me a text on Monday asking how I was - I replied that I was OK but would miss not seeing her for a while (She didn’t reply - think text was a mistake) She phoned me next day and said it was too soon after her last boyfriend. She says she really likes me but thought it would be easy and she could take it slow but as we would be seeing each other over weekends it would be very hard to take it slow. She said her head was a mess but if she was ready for a boyfriend it would probably be with me. And that she really likes me.
I haven’t spoke to her since she phoned. I texted her immediately after an asked whether she was sure – she said ‘she liked me too much and that she had such a nice weekend and that I needed someone that would give me there all and she couldn’t do that right now. I didn’t contact her for 3 days - then she texted me asking whether I had forgiven her I said “nothing to forgive you for, just think your being stupid”. She said it would be stupid to get into something she is not yet ready for. I left another 4 days and she sent me a text saying ‘how are you love’ etc
Main help required is whether I can proactively do anything or just do nothing and what will be will be. I.e. If the best thing is not to phone, contact her myself but let her phone me (if at all) and then be pleasant and not act gutted then. I know its over with her last boyfriend – she split up from him and also moved away from where they lived. I have looked for similar posts and although there are some would appreciate help on this. She is a nice girl, pretty with a good job (Doctor) – does it look like I’ve blown it? I haven’t been in contact for about 5 days.
I live 3 hours away so we didn’t really see each other much since college. On holiday we kind of got on well and kissed a few times, my housemate who is also a good friend of hers kind of got in the way, (I think she fancies me although they both told me different.) Anyway this sort of stopped us getting together for a while. She snogged someone at a nightclub on holiday, but didn’t see him again saying she didn’t really like him. I pulled a girl that night and spent the next 3 nights with her.
We had a chat while pissed on the last day and kissed again. We both agreed that we really liked each other and talked about getting together when we got back. To be fair she did say then that she thought it was a risk – and not to take it like she didn’t like me but that she was still a bit confused / messed up over her break up. I told her to think about it.
Anyway when we got back we texted each other a lot and I spoke to her a few times on the phone. We arranged for me to go up and see her. I went 2 weeks ago for the whole weekend. Had a really good weekend I thought it had gone well. I think I made a few mistakes I slept with her both nights Friday & Sat but didn’t shag her just cuddling & kissing.
She texted me after saying did I get home OK etc. She sent me a text on Monday asking how I was - I replied that I was OK but would miss not seeing her for a while (She didn’t reply - think text was a mistake) She phoned me next day and said it was too soon after her last boyfriend. She says she really likes me but thought it would be easy and she could take it slow but as we would be seeing each other over weekends it would be very hard to take it slow. She said her head was a mess but if she was ready for a boyfriend it would probably be with me. And that she really likes me.
I haven’t spoke to her since she phoned. I texted her immediately after an asked whether she was sure – she said ‘she liked me too much and that she had such a nice weekend and that I needed someone that would give me there all and she couldn’t do that right now. I didn’t contact her for 3 days - then she texted me asking whether I had forgiven her I said “nothing to forgive you for, just think your being stupid”. She said it would be stupid to get into something she is not yet ready for. I left another 4 days and she sent me a text saying ‘how are you love’ etc
Main help required is whether I can proactively do anything or just do nothing and what will be will be. I.e. If the best thing is not to phone, contact her myself but let her phone me (if at all) and then be pleasant and not act gutted then. I know its over with her last boyfriend – she split up from him and also moved away from where they lived. I have looked for similar posts and although there are some would appreciate help on this. She is a nice girl, pretty with a good job (Doctor) – does it look like I’ve blown it? I haven’t been in contact for about 5 days.
