Is She Too Good For Me?

[SIXPAK GQ]

why do i feel like women are too good for me...specially if she is really pretty...

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[Persistant]

Simple mental block. Happens to tons of guys, we equate beauty with good and niceness, when its not always the case. We also see a girl as so attractive that she could probably have any guy she wanted and therefore discount ourselves. It's a problem that you learn to deal with, just gotta understand its not true and take up a mindset that you're the better one and the prize not her. If you work at it, you'll get over it eventually.

 

[Nine Breaker]

It's called "placing a woman up on a pedestal" and it is a typical AFC/Nice Guy behaviour to do so. You should find a decent explanation and solution to this problem within the Don Juan Bible, in the TIPS Forum.

Happy reading.

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The Human Body Is A Fragile Thing, But The Human Soul Can NEVER Be Truly Broken.

 

[MysteryWoman]

If you are equally as good looking as her, you've got nothing to be nervous. If not, you're going to have to work very hard.

 

[Take No Dirt]

Originally posted by MysteryWoman:

If you are equally as good looking as her, you've got nothing to be nervous. If not, you're going to have to work very hard.

It has been said that the hotter the chick, the higher the maintenance level. A 9.9 hottie requires way more maintenance than an 8.0 woman.


[This message has been edited by Take No Dirt (edited 01-10-2002).]

 

[RKTek]

If you have to ask, the answer is "yes."

 

[Aztec]

Ever since I joined this forum, I have changed a lot on how not to be an AFC. Sixpack, look at yourself as the hottest ****t in the planet and this feeling will dwindle.

 

[mahon83050]

Yo Sixpack:

I think i have the same problem you do. I see a cute girl, i start to think am i good enough for her. I think every guy wants her and what not. However we must remember "Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder" and there are tons and tons of good-looking women out there. I am also a fairly handsome guy, so i do not know why i feel this way. I think it has to do with self-esteem and inexperience. And another thing, I bet these overweight and ugly slobs u see with babes do not think like that!!!

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Take No Dirt:
It has been said that the hotter the chick, the higher the maintenance level. A 9.9 hottie requires way more maintenance than an 8.0 woman.


[This message has been edited by Take No Dirt (edited 01-10-2002).]

That's not always true. I have known some pretty unattractive women who were very high maintenance. I'm not high maintenance at all.

 

[The Guru]

Look,The thing about djing is when it comes to women, WE ARE THE DOGS BOLLOCKS!
No woman is to good for us! Obviously not all women are gunna be attracted to us,thats life BUT NO WOMEN NOT ONE SINGLE WOMAN IS TO GOOD FOR US!
Remember these words and keep telling yourself that NOT ONE WOMAN IS TO GOOD FOR ME!

 

[Wyldfire]

Guru, I'm too good for you!


Just kidding...

Guys, you're only as good as you THINK you are. No one else's opinion of you matters one iota. It's YOU that matters. Love yourselves and know that you deserve someone of quality...and BE a person of quality yourself, then you'll not only deserve a good woman, but you'll get one too.

 

[Take No Dirt]

Originally posted by Wyldfire:
Guru, I'm too good for you!


Just kidding...

Guys, you're only as good as you THINK you are. No one else's opinion of you matters one iota. It's YOU that matters. Love yourselves and know that you deserve someone of quality...and BE a person of quality yourself, then you'll not only deserve a good woman, but you'll get one too.

The LOW maintenance Ms Wyldfire has dished out some sage advice. Thank you.

 

[WildThang]

Originally posted by SIXPAK GQ:
why do i feel like women are too good for me...specially if she is really pretty...

Because you're still looking at women through the eyes of a dedicated long-time AFC.

Screw pretty. Think 'fun, happy, and relaxed'.

If that's how you feel around a chick, no matter what she looks like, then you'll be having fun, and being happy, and relaxed. That and great sex are about all you could want from a chick's company.

Oppositewise - if you're stressing and sweating, you're not getting what the DJ is really about. (Yeah, we all do it to start with. But sooner or later that game has to end.)

No woman is worth losing your cool over. And no woman is 'too good'. That's BS.

A good woman is worth maintaining, because if you're doing the fun, happy and relaxed thing with her then that's worth something. But then you're a cool guy, and you deserve nothing less.

It's not hard once you start to see it that way

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by WildThang:
Because you're still looking at women through the eyes of a dedicated long-time AFC.

Screw pretty. Think 'fun, happy, and relaxed'.

If that's how you feel around a chick, no matter what she looks like, then you'll be having fun, and being happy, and relaxed. That and great sex are about all you could want from a chick's company.

Oppositewise - if you're stressing and sweating, you're not getting what the DJ is really about. (Yeah, we all do it to start with. But sooner or later that game has to end.)

No woman is worth losing your cool over. And no woman is 'too good'. That's BS.

A good woman is worth maintaining, because if you're doing the fun, happy and relaxed thing with her then that's worth something. But then you're a cool guy, and you deserve nothing less.

It's not hard once you start to see it that way

A good woman doesn't need to be maintained by a man because she is able to do things for herself. Healthy people don't look to others to maintain them. They work together to maintain the relationship but independently fulfill their own sense of individuality.

 

[Vatican]

It is because for one reason or another your mind is running the "Beta Male" program instead of the "Alpha Male" program. Deep down in your mind, this Beta Male program is constantly telling you "Don't go for that girl! She is attractive, therefore naturally belongs to the Alpha Male. If you go for her the Alpha Male, who is stronger than you, will beat you up."

What you need to do is switch your mind over to the "Alpha Male" program, which deep down in your mind will be constantly telling you "Go for that girl! She is attractive, therefore naturally belongs to you as an Alpha Male. You are stronger than the other males and so need fear no challenge from them."

 

[MysteryWoman]

Originally posted by mahon83050:
Yo Sixpack:

I think i have the same problem you do. I see a cute girl, i start to think am i good enough for her. I think every guy wants her and what not. However we must remember "Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder" and there are tons and tons of good-looking women out there. I am also a fairly handsome guy, so i do not know why i feel this way. I think it has to do with self-esteem and inexperience. And another thing, I bet these overweight and ugly slobs u see with babes do not think like that!!!

Your nervous feelings could be the start of infatuation, which is often misinterrupted with being intimidated. Even handsome actors experience these feelings when working with stunning actresses.

 

[Drew]

Is She Too Good For Me?

No.

 

[stuartSan]

Never.

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[Keymaster of Goza]

Originally posted by MysteryWoman:

If you are equally as good looking as her, you've got nothing to be nervous. If not, you're going to have to work very hard.

For someone who lists their interests as psychology, you're not very insightful are you...

Human attractiveness is very subjective so one person's 10 may be another persons 6 and vice versa. Women have even less consensus than men over what they percieve as "sexy" and in general tend to place less emphasis on looks (although still important) and more on other factors like confidence, intelligence, social status etc.

So who is to say whether you are "equally as good looking as her". That's horse shyt.

 

[MyTime]

A lot of AFC guys get this feeling when they see a woman they are attracted to. I used to be the same way. I'd see a girl and be scared to death to talk to her for fear of what she might think of me, or that I'd say something wrong. I always made the mistake of worrying about coming off in a perfect manner, and impressing the chick.

Now I understand that when you see a hot girl, it should be a matter of "Ooh, a chick, let's see how much fun I can have with THIS one..." and go into conversation, as mentioned above, in a happy, relaxed mood. Remember, as good looking as she may be on the outside, she's just like you, with feelings, problems and desires. If you can fill the gap she needs in her life, then you're in.