Men have a tendency to over-compartmentalize, leading many to forget how interrelated everything really is.
You think you find a pretty girl who loves you, and nothing else matters, that it doesn't matter what her friends and family think of you. Well, the fact is that if you don't shape her influencers' opinions of of you, then their opinions of you will be shaped by every complaint she ever has about you, and that pretty girl who loved you will become convinced all the complaints echoed back to her from her influencers are all there is to you.
Never tell your wife anything you wouldn't tell her mother, father, siblings, or best friends...because E V E R Y thing you tell her will be shared. You can view that as a personal betrayal, or just accept it as an inalterable element of female nature, and act accordingly.
Every girl you ever dated subjected your every word and action to committee review, from day-one; whereas, most men ignore all her red flags, and never submit her behavior to objective review, until the train is already way past the station, and riding on one rail.
