Is my girlfriend a slut?

[GregMan]

I recently had the discussion of past sexual encounters with my girlfriend of two months. I hate thinking of her having been with other men. It seems like she's a little more experienced than my last girlfriends. I don't want to think of her as a "slut," but I also want to watch out for what I'm getting into.

She is 26 and has been with 6 guys. Lost virginity at 20 to some dude she was in love with. After that she had sex with a couple of guys she was involved with for a little (maybe a month or two) while but it wasn't serious. She knew them all well, no one night stands, but they certainly weren't in the context of serious relationships, or maybe one or two were. Anyway, what do you think?

 

[Junior Sanz]

calm down and stop overanalyzing. you're frustrating yourself.

let the past go. it has nothing to do with you. focus on the present with her.

 

[white sox bill]

Originally posted by GregMan
I recently had the discussion of past sexual encounters with my girlfriend of two months. I hate thinking of her having been with other men. It seems like she's a little more experienced than my last girlfriends. I don't want to think of her as a "slut," but I also want to watch out for what I'm getting into.

She is 26 and has been with 6 guys. Lost virginity at 20 to some dude she was in love with. After that she had sex with a couple of guys she was involved with for a little (maybe a month or two) while but it wasn't serious. She knew them all well, no one night stands, but they certainly weren't in the context of serious relationships, or maybe one or two were. Anyway, what do you think?

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She hasn't cheated on you right? A virgin 'till 20 is pretty rare these days. So is 6 guys in 6 years. No she's not one

 

[iveyleeger]

Not a slut. But maybe you're jealous?

 

[Tboner]

26 y.o and 6 guys. Dude, this is still low mileage.

>I don't want to think of her as a "slut," but I also want to watch out for what I'm getting into.

You definitely need to rid your mind of that "slut" image because it will kill the relationship. Watch out for the normal things like any relationship.

My definition of slut has nothing to do with the number of men she's slept with, but rather the type of men and her reasons for doing them. I've been with women in their mid 30's who have slept with over 50 guys. If they have high sex drive, high self esteem and are selective, I'll get with them.

The women I consider sluts are the ones who are not selective, even if they haven't had as many guys. The ones who get with needle junkies, drug dealers, other criminals, skanky outlaw bikers, etc. Also the ones who don't require condoms, the ones that sleep with several men for reasons other than sexual pleasure (like to change their lives or trap a man).

What's her attitude on her past?

1. She regrets doing these things, the guys used her, she hates these guys, etc. She would be low self esteem.

2. It was experimental, a learning experience, pleasurable, she doesn't hate these guys, etc. She would be high self esteem.

 

[penkitten]

no!

 

[drZaius09]

Yes.

Oops, sorry, should have actually read the post before answering... ok hold on a minute... Yes.

 

[GregMan]

really? yes? is this guy joking? i can't tell

 

[Monsta Mac]

Those Are pretty good Numbers...Thats pretty low...

 

[Slickster]

Gregman,

Sorry but this post made me laugh out loud. SIX!!!! Man she's not a slut at all.

Don't worry about her past. Sex is just sex bro. It ain't no thing. I'm not sure how old you are but I know that I used to worry about stuff like that when I was younger too. As I got older it just didn't really matter anymore. You shouldn't be talking about that stuff with her anyway.

If a girl has been used and abused too many times you'll know it right away.

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

I too think she's a slut and that her real number is much higher.

Cesare Cardinali

 

[Kaine]

It would depend on which culture they were raised, i.e. expect higher mileage from Americanised Sex and the City types.


Kaine

 

[bobbob]

Re: ha

Originally posted by OhPlease
OK...For all the men that have posted crap here saying the girl is a slut did you know that about 75% of the girls you have slept are too then? I admitt, it's all our fault, women have the tendency to lie about their sexual partners just to make themselves looks like the clean, goody - too - shoes and make you guys look like the scums... or even better, to feed your freaken egoes. now days an average 20 year old has slept with AT LEAST 13 guys...trust me... oh! and if you think the geeky good girls are clean that is the biggest BS I've heard. Girls are smart, we don't need to brag about out vrap with males, just having it in our head satisfies us. Oh and to whoever wrote this, dude you gf has a really clean score so leave her alone and you should be really ashamed for posting this because if you loved her you wouldn't be this freaken insecure.

Wow, we have a poster posting from Wh0re Island ... welcome to the boards! I'm hoping to take a trip out there soon, I heard it's a fun place, that Wh0re Island.

 

[Julian]

just make sure shes not a skeezer full of diseases

 

[scordate]

we all have different standards, huh ?

but in my book, no - she is not a slut

HOWEVER

and I really think you should get past this;

we ALL have a past, right ?

i heard a wonderfull complaint one day;
a guy complained that his girlfriend was giving him
such an incredible BJ that he suspected her of being a former pro ( how else could she have learned to give such a perfect BJ ? )

yeah - and when you thought you have heard them all, right ?

so my advice is;
there is a past that matters to you
( deceases - abuse - children etc)

and then there is all the other past

what you have to look at, is her current behavior with a small look back at whether she might repeat past behavior ( fx. if she has a history of cheating, then you should look out for these signs, but not over-anxiously so; she might not repeat that, but she might, so you want to stay prepared, huh ? )

and then finally;
why do you discuss past lovers with her at all

if she asks you; tell her, none of her bizness
and you shouldnt be asking her !

a DJ is concerned about the very present; neither the past nor the future

/ scordate

 

[libre]

What's her telephone number so that I can call her? (ha ha ha!)

 

[Junior Sanz]

scordates right. why even get into the convo of past relationships?


in a past thread i wrote about how my GF after about 2 mos into the relationship dumped a truck load of "past" on me that was a little to much for me to handle.

in the beginning i got caught up in comparing her past to the current relationship and alls that got me was complete internal frustration due to my worrying of the past repeating itself with me.

after reading some literature, i knew i had to make a change. all the inner frustration of comparing the past to the present was really killing me inside and i had to do something about it. so i LET IT GO!!!!!!

and WOW what a relief it has been. yeah, once and awhile i get these negative thoughts to run through my mind but i quickly disregard them before they lead to any frustration.....

Moral of the story: TRY NOT TO SPEAK ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS AT ALL!!!!

they are N/A to the present!!!

 

[JohnJones]

Those are pretty low numbers.

 

[drZaius09]

I want to go to Wh0re Island too!!!

 

[phillyb]

Agreed.......most likely not a slut. Had the same issue years ago with a girl.......she had been with like 15 dudes and we were both 22.......


I dont think you have much to worry about. Thats a pretty low number for todays chicks.