Is brunch a red flag?

[Pierce Manhammer]

I refuse to date a girl that thinks it is okay to get fvcked up with her friends every Sunday religiously. The type of people that do that are IMHO not high on my value spectrum. It shows me that she has low self-control & impulses, the inability to cut-off toxic friends, and poor time management.

Many here seem to think that brunch is about getting blotto, but it isn't. Anyone getting obliterated in public, no matter the setting is not a good choice for anything.

 

[member162951]

I'd also like to add that there's no rule saying that there even has to be alcohol involved.

She can certainly have brunch with friends and not have a glass of wine or Bloody Mary or any other type of alcoholic beverage.

She can have a sparkling water with lime or Virgin Mary as my girl often does.

Also, a couple of my girl's friends are big c0ck carousel riders. They are good friends and she does not judge them nor does she allow them to influence her in a negative way.

They all respect each other and their particular lifestyles.

You guys who clearly don't trust your girl to behave with integrity and/or assume she's too weak-minded to think for herself and NOT be influenced by her friends who live a different lifestyle, you need to dump the girl and find a new girlfriend.

One who doesn't need to be monitored or dictated to like she's a child. She already possess the qualities you seek and that foster trust before you ever even met her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Seriously, learning how to make a killer strata or frittata is stupid easy and makes you a gem among men if you make it for a sleepover.

I used to do homemade chicken souvlaki with homemade naan bread for a lot of third date meals at my place or if I was feeling froggy I'd make a homemade sauce and lasagna that was so good it would make you want to go slap yo momma.

A man who knows how to cook and properly present food that tastes amazing is one of the most sexy things to a woman, especially because it's so rarely seen by them.

Plus you get to make them your kitchen assistant and boss them around giving them orders so it automatically puts them in a submissive state and you in a dominant state by default.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

@BackInTheGame78 brace yourself for all these lady killers to tell you that you're efeminate and that the biatch should be cooking for you while she blows you.

I used to do homemade chicken souvlaki with homemade naan bread for a lot of third date meals at my place or if I was feeling froggy I'd make a homemade sauce and lasagna that was so good it would make you want to go slap yo momma.

A man who knows how to cook and properly present food that tastes amazing is one of the most sexy things to a woman, especially because it's so rarely seen by them.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

@BackInTheGame78 brace yourself for all these lady killers to tell you that you're efeminate and that the biatch should be cooking for you while she blows you.

I wouldn't want to eat what most of the women these days cook. Prefer not to end up in the hospital at 4am with food poisoning

 

[ManFromTartarus]

Another skill to learn.
Learn how to cook.
It's like knowing how to dance. Even if you just know some basics, you're miles ahead of so many other men it's ridiculous.

I encourage people to elevate their culinary skills, good luck with your lessons.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Actually, one of my kittens made a sport of giving me fellatio while I'm making cappuccino because she hopes to make me mess up my micro-foam, but now I changed that into 'coffee is free, milk costs you a bj, and for sugar you have to kiss my cojones'. And for foam she has to fellate me while I work my Pavoni.

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Nice, did it come with pressure gauge or did you add it? Frankly, it’s tough to understand when you’re serving them Folgers'…

I spy a pizza cutter you eating pizza for bfast?!

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Actually, one of my kittens made a sport of giving me fellatio while I'm making cappuccino because she hopes to make me mess up my micro-foam, but now I changed that into 'coffee is free, milk costs you a bj, and for sugar you have to kiss my cojones'. And for foam she has to fellate me while I work my Pavoni.

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I don't get that into coffee...2 cups in the morning for health purposes not for taste for me. Black with a teaspoon and a half of baking cocoa.

 

[Gamisch]

I work too damn hard on myself to let ANY woman enter my life and mess with my head (again). I have a vision of the man i want to be ,and obviously that man has certain types of women in his life. If the woman I meet tells me she goes out for brunch every week with the same group of friends.. i soft next her IMMEDIATELY.


But for the sake of the argument:lets check a few scenarios where it might be appropriate;

1. We're living together
We see each other plenty of times, so a weekly break isn't that bad.

2. Its culturally sound
Combine the previous piont with this one. Culturally it is sound and acceptable. And ON TOP OF THAT: i know these women! Heck, I even know their HUSBANDS (long term boyfriends..) when there's a birthday or special day, I'm invited.
So her gathering actually works as a social check up/ control mechanism that works to my advantage instead of a poisonous factor that kills our relationship (the latter will be the case 9/10 ,especially with western women)

Anything else = NOT LTR material. We can have sex, chill but I wont enforce my laws upon a woman who clearly tries to battle against me. If this is her way..hey that's cool..just not with me around

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Everyone has his own view on life. In my culture it'd be a damn disgrace if your woman prioritizes her friends over you. Especially when you are NOT living together. I am working 6 days a week so she MUST invest at least one day a week in me. Because I also invest in her!! Money time energy and probably more! it would be a shame if you show up solo every time because your girls decides to be with her friends every week over you... i can't believe that men actually accept this.

if i meet a woman TODAY who tells me this i IMMEDIATELY understand why she's single..because EVERY man whose high value passed up on her already! ( and she probably ditched the " loose men" who accepted her ritual..damned if you do and damned if you don't

NeXT

 

[CornbreadFed]

Many here seem to think that brunch is about getting blotto, but it isn't. Anyone getting obliterated in public, no matter the setting is not a good choice for anything.

Brunch is associated with drinking otherwise it would just be lunch or breakfast.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Brunch is associated with drinking otherwise it would just be lunch or breakfast.

As with everything, it has to do with the company that you keep, if someone is a drinker, they’re gonna drink at breakfast, lunch dinner, or before bed.

None of the chicks that I date currently are big drinkers. They might have one drink and that’s rare. It’s a choice. Maybe screen for alcoholics harder?

 

[Gamisch]

There’s much better ways for women to have a healthy social life. I am not arguing against dating a woman with a social life, I am against dating a woman with cemented priorities that don’t benefit a relationship at all. Brunch is fine a few times a year, but weekly brunching is a vice not a healthy habit.

It doesn't add up..


I meet her TODAY. She is single. I dgaf about what her ex boyfriends allowed: she's with ME now. I have to rewire her whole way of thinking and MORE IMPORTANTLY: i have to TEACH her how to treat ME. It doesn't make sense (or actually it DOES lol) that she is single, wants a man who build himself up (HVM)but is unwilling to cut this type of behavior. No HVM will accept this. If anything, I'm ready to "run to the sun" and how is that even possible with a woman who is preoccupied every damn week?

If she tells me this, i might (MIGHT) tell her that its counterproductive to get a serious relationship. If she yet prioritizes her friends over me...then she should date her friends.

If a man has cojones, and a vision he simply walks away from this. I've personally been with plenty of women to know that such a cult like gathering will MOST DEFINITELY work against me at some point.

On top of that I've encountered probably more than a 1000 women( not notch count but encounters) and I've hardly ever heard of this. Even IF one had her steady group of friends, she would still try to see me as mucj as possible and probably complain about her friends anyway..

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

That's how I mainly know about brunches. And frankly, I rarely hear of anyone drinking something stronger than a wine spritzer. Over here, brunches don't usually feature c0cktails although it's probably decades ago for me to be at a brunch. Maybe because I rarely get out of bed before noon on Sundays. And I have koryu jujutsu at two, so...

There is nothing wrong with a spiked coffee with some Don Q/Kahlua or a Mimosa with high-quality OJ or, hell, even peach puree, maybe a nice prosecco with a float of Kirsch or St. Germaine; it's not going to trash anyone; it's also a social lubricant (furthermore, it's a DHV if a man introduces a woman to new schmexy things).

If someone cannot moderate their drinking habits, they've got other problems. Most of my dates are fitness enthusiasts of one ilk or another - they tend to moderate everything except fitness and seex. As I said, screen harder.

If age has taught me anything, being an extremist about anything will not net you results.

"If they have tats, they're hoes; if they have brunch, they're 304's." This type of mentation leads to the cruddy results most are having. Date smart.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's okay, not everybody shares my hobbies.

Women love to have coffee at my house though. And even if they don't drink coffee -- one of my rope bunnies told me she trusted me to safely do shibari with me based on how much care and effort I put in making a simple cup of coffee for myself. If I was that meticulous about brewing a cup of java, I'd probably be as meticulous about rope bondage.

Oh I am sure they do...most women are coffee fiends that would suck your d!ck for the latest greatest cup of coffee hahahaha

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

<snip> coffee fiends that would suck your d!ck for the latest greatest cup of coffee hahahaha

And isn't that what this site is about?

 

[CornbreadFed]

As with everything, it has to do with the company that you keep, if someone is a drinker, they’re gonna drink at breakfast, lunch dinner, or before bed.

None of the chicks that I date currently are big drinkers. They might have one drink and that’s rare. It’s a choice. Maybe screen for alcoholics harder?

do they brunch every Sunday?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

do they brunch every Sunday?

Nope, but if I was in a circle of high-earning folks still it would not be uncommon.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Nope, but if I was in a circle of high-earning folks still it would not be uncommon.

my point exactly. Someone that brunches regularly more than likely consumes more alcohol than the average person and etc.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

my point exactly. Someone that brunches regularly more than likely consumes more alcohol than the average person and etc.

Depends on their lifestyle.

 

[Bethatsocialguy]

Is a girl who brunches weekly on Sundays a red flag?

I've read some posts here where a girl who goes out on Sunday mornings to catch up with her girlfriends should have a red flag attached, but it makes no sense.

It also depends on who her friends are. If they are the kind of girl that goes to brunch and drinks ****tails, then I would say that's not the best for long term relationships although some guys do the same.