it works the other way too.
out of my group of friends that me and my wife keeps and there are about 35 of us total, we are the only 2, her and myself that you would say definatly look like we work out. not all of them are fat, but none have "bodies". some have cute faces some don't. some might have nice legs some don't. there is one dude that we hang with that gets compliments on his scurffy beard but if dude hit the gym with me which i have tired to get him to and he keeps making excuses, dude would be beating women off with a stick.
you have to keep in mind... being rail thin really isn't all that much better than being 20-30 pounds overweight. the skinny guy probably has more defined facial features but neither are what you would call "hot". maybe by HB 5's or what not but not by women i want to be inside of.
and when it comes to being in shape, 90% of americans have no clue whatsoever. even the genetically blessed ones for the most part have no idea how to stay in shape they just are in shape. between guys who think protein is a new form of ebola and avoid it like the plague beucase it's (gasp) not healthy (yet will go out saturday night and drink a 6 pack and not think twice about it) even though they are spending 100 a month on their new fancy gym membership or guys who try to make up for lost time by staying in the gym 5 hours a day lol, or guys who think now that they need to lose weight okay so i am 250 pounds i will now eat a 1200 cal diet that will get me wehre i want quick lol... **** even the ones who try can't more times than not. people who watch their weight yet will kill an entire loaf of white bread and not blink, dumbasses who snicker because you are eating chocolate right after a workout then will proceed to go to mcdonalds and get a salad and put an entire bottle of ranch dressing on it..
like my mom is not fat, she's what, 5'5, 135.. but she's not skinny. she wants to be at 125. she can't get there because she refuses to listen to me when i tell her that she just can't not eat meat lol.
what i am getting at, not only invest time wise, actually spend some money to learn what you are doing. talk to professionals. get a personal trainer, a real one, people who you can verify have gotten the results you wanted. Best decision I ever made was to get a personal trainer the first year of my weight loss. I went from 235 to about 160 in less than a year easily, about 9 months and most importantly it wasn't an accident i know what i am doing.
I mean we talk about how all women have to do is be hot.. **** really for men it's the same thing. if didn't' have a pot to piss in i would not have a problem at all getting laid. **** i was getting laid when women thought i was poor beucase i lived in a drug rehab facility because i was in shape and i groomed myself well.
get in shape. real shape. it will solve 90% of your problems with the opposite sex. you are already dealing from a position of power.
BTW I am 5'8, as of last week 173 pounds. I hover between 169 and 174. Yesterday was a cheat day. The only time I weigh myself now is after cheat days, to see how bad it was lol. Usually I'm about 171. And can easily fit a 32/31 jeans. i haen o clue what my BMI is i'm sure it will say I am overweight. for me i am at my perfect size. big enough to have a defined body and to be able to turn heads, not so big to where i can't fit into stylish clothes.