trd323 and Alexander the Great:
I guess I can reply to both of you in one post. Thank you for welcoming me to the forum and providing your point of views. I will now give you both a quick counter to the points that you have made -
Alexander The Great - i've been reading this forums for a long time, and I notice the common trend has been that guys who needed help, were getting their hands held constantly, and never being PUSHED, and i'm talking boot-camp military style pushing, because that is the only way some people (like Luke Skywalker, Maxtro, CapedCrusader, the weekly guy who is having major relationship issues) will TRULY listen.
trd323 - correct, i dont advocate being lonely when you are on your deathbed, but instead, i am advocating to not force a relationship upon oneself (which is how the majority of guys end up in relationships by the way).
Pretty much every single guy who posts here about issues with their current girlfriend, they would not (and have not when i asked them) been able to explain to me WHY they have a girlfriend, and I am talking about a secure confident logical answer. You can search the threads, there are simply way too many young men here who have "girlfriend issues", and I am here to say that the solution is to STOP HAVING GODDAMN GIRLFRIENDS. Date multiple girls casually, bang multiple girls every week, string them along, have your fun, because in 5 years you are going to not even remember who they all were.
in the 21st century, there is no commitment from women until marriage, and even then its not a given. Women may SAY and WANT to commit, but because they have been given the FREEDOM to run around and do anything they want (thanks feminism), commitment essentially becomes out of their control, and the longer a guy is in a "committed relationship", the more he loses his Don Juan ways, the more he acquires AFC traits, and the more time he wastes with some random chick who he won't remember 5 years down the line. Respect, lifetime commitment, unconditional love all went out the window in the dating game 50 years ago, the game has been updated, and MEN need to update their strategies accordingly - one of them being to make sure they never feel like a p*ssy when some "girlfriend" makes them feel bad (cue the violins).
The only, ONLY time i can agree with having a girlfriend is when the man is highly experienced with tons and tons of women, and can logically make a decision that he truly WANTS the girl in front of him to himself (having been with many girls in the past, it is easy to compare and contrast what you truly want, as opposed to some guy whos only been with 5 girls), and can safely make the correct judgment that she IS girlfriend-material. Most likely, because he made the correct decision in making her his girlfriend, he will most likely marry her - but it all stems from LOGICAL REASONING and WANTING WHAT YOU AS A MAN WANT
however there are HUNDREDS of guys that have posted here about some dead-end gf/fiance/wife who they never want to actually be with, but they basically feel that they are OBLIGATED to be with them because society said thats how its gotta be, and they lack the balls to simply end the relationship and move on, dont make me post the links to all the threads!!! im sure you have read the same threads that i have - im here to save THOSE guys
i guess my post did get a lil long haha