Intorversion - (SERIOUSLY) help me make it a plus to get women!

[Babnik]

I have been long search for a term that describes and now I understand that I am a natural INTROVERT.

One of the things I used to say is that "I am NOT antisocial, I don't have anxiety of people, I can give a speech to 1000s of people and do it WELL"

But it still bothered me that I didn't enjoy small talk or just socializing where is no real information present.

Then, I read this - http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch

It describes me perfectly.



I'm 100% like that. I have friends, but I prefer a small group of friends and I hang out with them a few times a week.

I hate big parties. They drain the energy from me.


Here are some things I know for sure:

I don't care for others. I don't care how they feel or what they want. I don't care if she or her did something last night. Its not USEFUL information.

I admit to being this way and don't try to be an extrovert because it makes me feel like a self-denying loser.

I don't care what people think of me. My confidence comes from the INSIDE, without any help of people around me. I don't need compliments (I hate compliments).

I don't need a woman's company for anything else but sex. A woman can't make me feel better, she can't provide anything, but physical contact (cuddling, kissing, sex). I don't think I am being an ******* by being so. Its how I feel on the inside.


I realized my BIGGEST POWER is the confidence. I don't need social proof, I don't need attention of other women, I don't need anything and ANYONE to make myself feel good and to love myself. Guys try to act alpha and try to gain RESPECT from others. I don't. I already have it. I don't need their opinions. I just feel it and have it.

BIGGEST WEAKNESS - small talk about nothing which nearly VITAL. I am not interested what she studies, who her friends are, what she does for living, and what she did last night. Women can tell because my replies are FORCED and not natural, not honest. I don't say "Oh really?" with an a proper tone to seem interested. I say "Oh really"...



Generally speaking introversion is caring about your own mental stuff and not caring about others.


How can I use this more to my advantage because I am not planning on going against my nature. It drains me and depletes me. I need time ALONE and I love that time. It gives me power!

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

How can I use this more to my advantage because I am not planning on going against my nature. It drains me and depletes me. I need time ALONE and I love that time. It gives me power!

Does not work.

Introversion and socialization DO NOT MIX!

Its like oil and water. You need to fix your introversion problem however you can.

Look up "low-self esteem" (and associationg behaviour patterns) and go from there.

 

[Babnik]

Does not work.

Introversion and socialization DO NOT MIX!

Its like oil and water. You need to fix your introversion problem however you can.

Look up "low-self esteem" (and associationg behaviour patterns) and go from there.

Introversion is not a problem and my self esteem is extremely high, which is why many introverts come off as ARROGANT.

You do not understand at all.

 

[nonchalant]

Does not work.

Introversion and socialization DO NOT MIX!

Its like oil and water. You need to fix your introversion problem however you can.

Look up "low-self esteem" (and associationg behaviour patterns) and go from there.

Being an 'introvert' doesn't necessarily mean that it's a problem, or that he has 'low self esteem'. That's just the common misconception.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Being an 'introvert' doesn't necessarily mean that it's a problem, or that he has 'low self esteem'. That's just the common misconception.

They go hand in hand most of the time.

If he says he has high self-esteem then power to him.


However introversion and socialization and polar opposites.

 

[nonchalant]

They go hand in hand most of the time.

If he says he has high self-esteem then power to him.


However introversion and socialization and polar opposites.

A lot of the time they go hand in hand, but it isn't a given. It's unfair to introverts to characterize them that way.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

A lot of the time they go hand in hand, but it isn't a given. It's unfair to introverts to characterize them that way.

**** you.

As a recovering introvert I say its COMPLETELY fair.

 

[rrrrr]

I have been long search for a term that describes and now I understand that I am a natural INTROVERT.

One of the things I used to say is that "I am NOT antisocial, I don't have anxiety of people, I can give a speech to 1000s of people and do it WELL"

But it still bothered me that I didn't enjoy small talk or just socializing where is no real information present.

Then, I read this - http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch

It describes me perfectly.



I'm 100% like that. I have friends, but I prefer a small group of friends and I hang out with them a few times a week.

I hate big parties. They drain the energy from me.


Here are some things I know for sure:

I don't care for others. I don't care how they feel or what they want. I don't care if she or her did something last night. Its not USEFUL information.

I admit to being this way and don't try to be an extrovert because it makes me feel like a self-denying loser.

I don't care what people think of me. My confidence comes from the INSIDE, without any help of people around me. I don't need compliments (I hate compliments).

I don't need a woman's company for anything else but sex. A woman can't make me feel better, she can't provide anything, but physical contact (cuddling, kissing, sex). I don't think I am being an ******* by being so. Its how I feel on the inside.


I realized my BIGGEST POWER is the confidence. I don't need social proof, I don't need attention of other women, I don't need anything and ANYONE to make myself feel good and to love myself. Guys try to act alpha and try to gain RESPECT from others. I don't. I already have it. I don't need their opinions. I just feel it and have it.

BIGGEST WEAKNESS - small talk about nothing which nearly VITAL. I am not interested what she studies, who her friends are, what she does for living, and what she did last night. Women can tell because my replies are FORCED and not natural, not honest. I don't say "Oh really?" with an a proper tone to seem interested. I say "Oh really"...



Generally speaking introversion is caring about your own mental stuff and not caring about others.


How can I use this more to my advantage because I am not planning on going against my nature. It drains me and depletes me. I need time ALONE and I love that time. It gives me power!

The dude doesn't want to solve the problem of introversion. He's saying how can he use this to his advantage... but advantage to do what?

 

[Babnik]

I can't be alone all the time.

Extroverts need to be with people most of the time and then they need this little bit of time to be alone.

Introverts CAN and DO socialize for a short time with small groups. However, most of the time they PREFER to be alone not due to low self esteem but because they get TIRED of people.

I get tired of people. I don't talk to people online either because its almost as exhausting.

I go out on weekends, drink, socialize, dance, but not for long. I get drained and just leave.

Main problem here is socializing where you constantly spit out non-informative, practically useless, talk!

 

[nonchalant]

**** you.

As a recovering introvert I say its COMPLETELY fair.

Haha. Yeah I can tell your social skills still need a lot of work. Why are you getting mad? No need for that, chief.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

but advantage to do what?

Philosophize.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Haha. Yeah I can tell your social skills still need a lot of work. Why are you getting mad? No need for that, chief.

Its a forum. Words on a page do not necessarily express emotion. And posting on a forum is not a form of real socialization.

I was in fact telling you to **** off. Nothing more.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Main problem here is socializing where you constantly spit out non-informative, practically useless, talk!

You can't have 100% content all the time. Ever heard of filler? Fluff talk? Beating around the bush? Bull5hitting?

Yeah. Pretty much the same.



Find an extrovert and become friends and learn the art of fluff talk and bull5hitting by watching and letting it rub off.

 

[nonchalant]

Haha. Yeah you really have a way with people, I can see you've been doing a lot of work on your personality.

 

[Babnik]

I was asking how to use my nature to get more women. Or maybe I can turn things around where I can turn my carelessness and my nature that it attracts women.

Some women are introverts too...

 

[nonchalant]

You can be an introvert and still date women, still maintain a successful career, still lead a vibrant social life. There are some pretty famous examples of introverts who don't seem to have much trouble in social situations - Donald Trump and Sean Connery?

If you feel that introversion is a 'problem' and that it somehow makes you less of a person, that's your issue. Babnik seems to like himself fine, he is just trying to get out of his shell a little more. It is not a huge mark of shame for him like it is for you.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

Haha. Yeah you really have a way with people, I can see you've been doing a lot of work on your personality.

On a forum I can say whatever the **** I want without the Geshtapo knocking at my door.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

It is not a huge mark of shame for him like it is for you.

Its not a mark of shame. However like I said before introversion and socialization do not mix. I have learned the hard way, so don't tell me its not true.

And Sean Connery and Donald Trump? Maybe they were introverts at some point but they seem fairly balanced to me.

 

[Babnik]

On a forum I can say whatever the **** I want without the Geshtapo knocking at my door.

You are not a real introvert because if you were one - what people would say about here would make NO difference.

See, there are people who WANT to socialize but the society doesn't like them so they stay alone in misery.

Then, there are those who are HAPPY to be alone, but struggle to use their nature to their advantage to get women.

Personally, when a girl realizes that you are not very talkative and you are introverted, but still masculine and good looking - sexual attraction is still there.

 

[persiangino]

Its not a mark of shame. However like I said before introversion and socialization do not mix. I have learned the hard way, so don't tell me its not true.

And Sean Connery and Donald Trump? Maybe they were introverts at some point but they seem fairly balanced to me.

Introverts who have innate confidence exist d!ckhead. Just because you were a depressed and fvcked up introvert don't mean ****. Don't say **** you don't know anything about. Alot of CEO's including Bill Gates and entrenprenuers like Donald Trump have achieved success through their own means and did not need to socialize with others to validate their existence.