Little background - Dated this girl for awhile and she was head over heels in love with me. I broke up with her and then recently got back together. She's seem to have lost a lot of interest since we were last dating.
She has begun to go out of her way to show how little she cares about our relationship. She tells me "Well, I used to love you" whenever i call her out on how flakey she can be. We haven't had much of a sex life since we got back together, but she was never really into sex in the first place (I've made plenty of other girls very happy - confused by this....). She's just very very rarely in the mood to do anything sexual. Recently she's been saying how she's out looking for other guys. It was in a joking tone when she first started but now it's just irritating as ****. I don't believe she would ever cheat on me but sometimes it feels like she is just interested in me as a temporary boyfriend until she finds a new one.
Based off what I just wrote I know you will all tell me to dump her asap. However, at other times she can be extremely caring and she's one of the best friend I've ever had. I can truly count on her for anything at almost anytime. As corny as that sounds, I've known her intimately for 4 years and the friendship that's embedded in our relationship is extremely strong. I'm worried that us breaking up and remaining friends ****ed me over when we got back together.
Keep in mind - I am very interested in this relationship. We have been through so much together. If I had to choose now, I would marry her in a heartbeat. Perhaps that's my weakness.
So basically:
What can I do to see if my girlfriend is actually interested in this relationship?
She has begun to go out of her way to show how little she cares about our relationship. She tells me "Well, I used to love you" whenever i call her out on how flakey she can be. We haven't had much of a sex life since we got back together, but she was never really into sex in the first place (I've made plenty of other girls very happy - confused by this....). She's just very very rarely in the mood to do anything sexual. Recently she's been saying how she's out looking for other guys. It was in a joking tone when she first started but now it's just irritating as ****. I don't believe she would ever cheat on me but sometimes it feels like she is just interested in me as a temporary boyfriend until she finds a new one.
Based off what I just wrote I know you will all tell me to dump her asap. However, at other times she can be extremely caring and she's one of the best friend I've ever had. I can truly count on her for anything at almost anytime. As corny as that sounds, I've known her intimately for 4 years and the friendship that's embedded in our relationship is extremely strong. I'm worried that us breaking up and remaining friends ****ed me over when we got back together.
Keep in mind - I am very interested in this relationship. We have been through so much together. If I had to choose now, I would marry her in a heartbeat. Perhaps that's my weakness.
So basically:
What can I do to see if my girlfriend is actually interested in this relationship?
