Interest tests for GF?

[MCristo]

Little background - Dated this girl for awhile and she was head over heels in love with me. I broke up with her and then recently got back together. She's seem to have lost a lot of interest since we were last dating.

She has begun to go out of her way to show how little she cares about our relationship. She tells me "Well, I used to love you" whenever i call her out on how flakey she can be. We haven't had much of a sex life since we got back together, but she was never really into sex in the first place (I've made plenty of other girls very happy - confused by this....). She's just very very rarely in the mood to do anything sexual. Recently she's been saying how she's out looking for other guys. It was in a joking tone when she first started but now it's just irritating as ****. I don't believe she would ever cheat on me but sometimes it feels like she is just interested in me as a temporary boyfriend until she finds a new one.

Based off what I just wrote I know you will all tell me to dump her asap. However, at other times she can be extremely caring and she's one of the best friend I've ever had. I can truly count on her for anything at almost anytime. As corny as that sounds, I've known her intimately for 4 years and the friendship that's embedded in our relationship is extremely strong. I'm worried that us breaking up and remaining friends ****ed me over when we got back together.

Keep in mind - I am very interested in this relationship. We have been through so much together. If I had to choose now, I would marry her in a heartbeat. Perhaps that's my weakness.


So basically:

What can I do to see if my girlfriend is actually interested in this relationship?

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

Seems to me there is some underlying resentment there. Perhaps she is fearful of the past repeating itself, so she is surrounding herself with other guys to inflate her ego, and possibly have someone to fall back on, when the relationship fails, again.

If you want to know if she's interested in the relationship, become aloof. Don't ask her about what she's doing, or call her as much. Make plans for yourself and your friends to do things without her. Don't be an a$$ about it, but say just what absolutely must be said and no more. If she is interested in keeping you, sooner or later she will become curious and more attentive in her efforts to figure out what you're doing. If not, then you may be SOL.

I'm sure others here will have better advice, but I have looked back on my own relationships and what brought my interest levels back after stagnating for awhile.

 

[Hughman]

Next her dude. She doesn't want you that badly, or is shyt testing the bejesus out of you. You have oneitis, she doesn't. You said it yourself, you're being used as the 'temp' boyfriend - she gets all the benefits of one without having to provide anything herself.

 

[mrRuckus]

I'm sure others here will have better advice,

Why did you make me read all that garbage when you knew much better stuff was forthcoming?

Did you type all that just to hear yourself talk?

 

[AlexTheGreat]

Why did you make me read all that garbage when you knew much better stuff was forthcoming?

Did you type all that just to hear yourself talk?

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[MCristo]

Next her dude. She doesn't want you that badly, or is shyt testing the bejesus out of you. You have oneitis, she doesn't. You said it yourself, you're being used as the 'temp' boyfriend - she gets all the benefits of one without having to provide anything herself.

She does invest in the relationship - she buys me lunch as much as I buy it for her and spends a decent amount of money and time on me. She does do me quite a few favors and she helps out a lot. Part of the reason why its confusing for me.

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

Hey I'm just trying to help.