I posted this as a reply in the DJ discussion section, but I figured it has a place here, albeit slightly modified.
It seems a lot of guys who go to pubs or clubs wait for a signal to approach a girl. One thing I would always, always advise against, is waiting, waiting (tick tock tick tock), waiting, (months pass) for a clear signal to approach *yawn*. She's gone home with someone else by that time. Don't sit and pray for her to look so you can catch her eye. We're all conditioned to get the EC and smile before we make our approach. Eyecontact is great, but it's damn hard to catch her gaze isn't it? Well, there is another way.
Typical DJ logic goes like this: EC > Smile > Approach > Meet > Kino > Yadda.
I say no. I say start with Kino.
You can approach without making them your destination. I like to walk past chicks sometimes. It doesn't matter if I've had previous EC or not(although it helps). I touch her shoulder on the way past and she'll look to see who touched her. Then I smile/ec and say "hi". She may be a little surprised, so often I keep going (bar/toilet/friends) after she says hi back (they always say hi back). She'll still be there when I come back only now she's had a little time to speculate about whether I'm coming back or not. Challenge yadda yadda (read the bible).
Sometimes you get clear signals and you don't need to keep going. I've had chicks launch into a conversation straight away. But if you catch them off guard then they are always more receptive the second time round. So long as you get the EC and smile right the first time round.
The initial touch (always the shoulder) is the most important element to my game. It's assertive and bold and there's no way she will avoid eyecontact immediately after you do it. So use those few seconds wisely.
I find it's even more effective when a girl is walking past me, and I'm standing with someone else. This is more a nightclub tactic. HBs wandering along with their friends usually get a light stroke on their shoulder as they walk past. When they inevitably turn round to see who it was they see a smiling bugsquish looking straight into their eyes. Yes, 9 times out of 10 they keep going but they almost always smile back. And if/when you see the same chick again, do it again! She'll probably keep going again (and smile back again) and this is where you follow her to her seat etc. and say "hi". Just give her a taster of what you're like and then tell her you'll get her for a dance later on. And remember to do that. Although it shouldn't matter cuz you should be using this trick on several women simultaneously
This tactic works, and it's the one I use most often now. It's pretty easy to do too cuz at the stroke stage it's fairly anonymous so you don't need as much guts as eyecontact. But once you do it there's no going back. You've made contact so smiling/EC just comes naturally after that.
Touching as a precursor to eyecontact creates an instant connection that's more intimate and also harder to break once you follow it up with EC. Think about it, eyecontact alone or even with a smile could be misinterpreted. Unless she has an instant physical attraction she may no want (or have the guts) to return the gesture. If you touch her, and she turns to see you smiling, there is NO doubt whatsoever in her mind as to your intentions (or confidence and ability) as you gaze into her eyes.
Your touch upgrades her thoughts from a simple "he's smiling at me. maybe he likes me... i wonder if he'll have the balls to talk to me, probably just another chump" to "he's smiling at ME! he wants to **** me... and he just invaded my space without thinking twice, i think my panties are getting wet!" It is largely assumed on her part. You get her imagination flowing. That's the beauty of it.
As for the exact nature of the touch. DON'T TAP. Friend's tap shoulders. This has to be an overtly sensual touch. You gotta send a shiver down her spine. I like to run my fingers from her shoulder down her arm towards her elbow. It only needs to last a second. Don't maul her
An extra little trick to throw in is the fake "i've been caught" look away in mock innocence. I only ever do this the second time I touch and follow it up seconds later with the original smile and EC.
Another thing I should emphasise, this technique delivers the best results when the girl is walking past you. In a sense she momentarily entered your domain, so you did no chasing (challenge). It's like fishing
Comments welcome.
It seems a lot of guys who go to pubs or clubs wait for a signal to approach a girl. One thing I would always, always advise against, is waiting, waiting (tick tock tick tock), waiting, (months pass) for a clear signal to approach *yawn*. She's gone home with someone else by that time. Don't sit and pray for her to look so you can catch her eye. We're all conditioned to get the EC and smile before we make our approach. Eyecontact is great, but it's damn hard to catch her gaze isn't it? Well, there is another way.
Typical DJ logic goes like this: EC > Smile > Approach > Meet > Kino > Yadda.
I say no. I say start with Kino.
You can approach without making them your destination. I like to walk past chicks sometimes. It doesn't matter if I've had previous EC or not(although it helps). I touch her shoulder on the way past and she'll look to see who touched her. Then I smile/ec and say "hi". She may be a little surprised, so often I keep going (bar/toilet/friends) after she says hi back (they always say hi back). She'll still be there when I come back only now she's had a little time to speculate about whether I'm coming back or not. Challenge yadda yadda (read the bible).
Sometimes you get clear signals and you don't need to keep going. I've had chicks launch into a conversation straight away. But if you catch them off guard then they are always more receptive the second time round. So long as you get the EC and smile right the first time round.
The initial touch (always the shoulder) is the most important element to my game. It's assertive and bold and there's no way she will avoid eyecontact immediately after you do it. So use those few seconds wisely.
I find it's even more effective when a girl is walking past me, and I'm standing with someone else. This is more a nightclub tactic. HBs wandering along with their friends usually get a light stroke on their shoulder as they walk past. When they inevitably turn round to see who it was they see a smiling bugsquish looking straight into their eyes. Yes, 9 times out of 10 they keep going but they almost always smile back. And if/when you see the same chick again, do it again! She'll probably keep going again (and smile back again) and this is where you follow her to her seat etc. and say "hi". Just give her a taster of what you're like and then tell her you'll get her for a dance later on. And remember to do that. Although it shouldn't matter cuz you should be using this trick on several women simultaneously
This tactic works, and it's the one I use most often now. It's pretty easy to do too cuz at the stroke stage it's fairly anonymous so you don't need as much guts as eyecontact. But once you do it there's no going back. You've made contact so smiling/EC just comes naturally after that.
Touching as a precursor to eyecontact creates an instant connection that's more intimate and also harder to break once you follow it up with EC. Think about it, eyecontact alone or even with a smile could be misinterpreted. Unless she has an instant physical attraction she may no want (or have the guts) to return the gesture. If you touch her, and she turns to see you smiling, there is NO doubt whatsoever in her mind as to your intentions (or confidence and ability) as you gaze into her eyes.
Your touch upgrades her thoughts from a simple "he's smiling at me. maybe he likes me... i wonder if he'll have the balls to talk to me, probably just another chump" to "he's smiling at ME! he wants to **** me... and he just invaded my space without thinking twice, i think my panties are getting wet!"
It is largely assumed on her part. You get her imagination flowing. That's the beauty of it.As for the exact nature of the touch. DON'T TAP. Friend's tap shoulders. This has to be an overtly sensual touch. You gotta send a shiver down her spine. I like to run my fingers from her shoulder down her arm towards her elbow. It only needs to last a second. Don't maul her
An extra little trick to throw in is the fake "i've been caught" look away in mock innocence. I only ever do this the second time I touch and follow it up seconds later with the original smile and EC.
Another thing I should emphasise, this technique delivers the best results when the girl is walking past you. In a sense she momentarily entered your domain, so you did no chasing (challenge). It's like fishing
Comments welcome.