In love with my bestfriend

[goodfornothing]

i gona give it another try this guys strategy http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=87754

becuse to be honest i think it might work , if not so be it but atleast i gona try , but until i can give it a real try i got some months to kill , and gona study the dj bible for sure.

and this girl is not walking over me she calls me more then i phone her im the one thats almost always out of reach or is busy.

and im not going to give up this easy ,
you have been telling me i gona get a wake up call soon , and u know what if she finds another guy and i gave up before trying i gona be real sorry for the rest of my life , i cant give up , thats not even in my system i like risk , and this is a great risk im gambling with my bestfriend , but i cant fight my feelings im controlled by it and all my life when something good has happend it was when i acted on those feelings instead of standing on the sidewalk like a wuss.

 

[Igetit!]

What's up man? Haven't heard from you in a while. So you're getting back on the horse again,huh? You actually had me fooled man. I thought that you had decided to put this behind you and move on. Well,I'll give you this,you post an interesting thread. Even though I already know how this is going to end up,it'll be interesting to see how things play out along the way.

 

[slaog]

Usually women would run from men who like/loves them. She want to hang with you so thats a good sign. I reckon she might know you like her.

You're not really in the friendzone because women don't hang out with most men who are in the friendzone.

Increase the sexual tension and see how she reacts. Slowly all the time like more touching etc etc and keep improving your game.

 

[Pathgen]

yes when we first meet i feel inlove with her pretty quick , and after 3 weeks i could not keep it inside of me anymore so i told her :/ and she said lets jsut be friends but that was 1 year ago.

Ok your screwed. You have to either cut her out of your life so that she will hopefully want you and start a relationship.

Otherwise your going to keep a great friend. I would suggest the second route because with a girl as your best friend you can hook up with her girlfriends. Which you have a 100x better shot of

Oh btw never tell a girl you love them. You should make them tell you first

 

[goodfornothing]

Usually women would run from men who like/loves them. She want to hang with you so thats a good sign. I reckon she might know you like her.

You're not really in the friendzone because women don't hang out with most men who are in the friendzone.

Increase the sexual tension and see how she reacts. Slowly all the time like more touching etc etc and keep improving your game.

ya thats why im not in the friendzone , she touch me alot when we watch a movie we are rubbing up on each other.
yes and i belive she know that i like her but i dont think shes realy sure ,
when i asked her to cut my hair she was up for the idea without me trying to convince her and that was alot of touching my hair there with she seems to like , even said i had very nice thick hair , and her breast pressed up on me some too.

 

[goodfornothing]

What's up man? Haven't heard from you in a while. So you're getting back on the horse again,huh? You actually had me fooled man. I thought that you had decided to put this behind you and move on. Well,I'll give you this,you post an interesting thread. Even though I already know how this is going to end up,it'll be interesting to see how things play out along the way.

sry for the double post,

ya gona be my experiment !
i keep you updated , gona visit her soon then i gona make my move!


and i told you wrong about the secrets part its not like we have alot of secrets , only thing i told her about was about my mother passing away and that happend 5 months ago , becuse she keept asking all the time even if i said i did not want to talk about it, becuse she knew i was not alright about it. and thats the only secret i told her .
and she told me about her father pushing her with her studies that she does not want to complete , and the studies is one of the reasons why she gona move to my town for 5 months just to get away some.

and thats the thing shes not the type for person that runs away even weirder is why is she moving here ?
we only talk each second week now . mostly my fault but ok .

 

[goodfornothing]

the looser keeps running back to you guys ,
gona cut her off , gona see her again this summer and see what happends then.
have not talked to her in 1,5 months time she eventualy got tirerd of calling all the time and i never called myself , i would call back if she had called.

see how this goes feel like **** right now not from the girl alone for everything in my life.

i met her 1,5 month back she was here in my town for a visit, feelt nice but nothing like it used to do , she even acted kinda cold to me like i hurt her or something i dont know and i dont care got alot going on in my life right now that feels kinda hard but gona change me to the better.
should i call and tell her whats going on in my life and why i have not called or just turn my back on her , afterall i gona see her this summer in the end of july.

guidence please ! ,

but this time im not gona be her buddy , never ever again i gona be close friend with a women i cant handle it and i think i never will so why even try.


so im gona stop being stupborn and do as u tell me.

things i have to think about when i run in to her again please.

 

[nightcrawler]

have you tried kissing her yet?

 

[goodfornothing]

kinda hard since she lives several towns away from me , and im a chicken .

 

[goodfornothing]

and if she call me should i tell her about my gambling problem ?
that i got from not confronting my mothers death 1 year ago ?

i guess not.........

 

[Freeman]

I know you can turn friends into lovers. It has been done for centuries. What do you think your dad did, his dad, and his dad. I can guarantee you that your mom was friends with your dad before they got together. I will admit that most of my family met their wives through being friends first, I asked.

this is the reason that I think "pick-up" fcuks with peoples instincts than help them. Do you really think that there is no one on this planet that was friends first then lovers. I think if you asked couples how they met; I can for certain say that 70% will say that they met through a friend and became friends first.

What should you do?

First, really understand what you are feeling and go from there. If you feel that you two would make a real good couple and genuinely like or the word you used is LOVE this girl . then I say go for it and let her know. I personally think you should have let her know a long time ago.

Before you do that, take her out on "date" activities. take her on a long walk in the park or beach. But try to act like a couple and if it feels like its not weird and awkward then I say talk about it.

YOU ARE A MAN!!!! YOU DO WHAT YOU FEEL AND IF IT ENDS BADLY THEN THATS A LESSON TO LEARN, BUT YOU NEED TO ACT INSTEAD OF THINK.

gOOD LUCK. KEEP US UPDATED

And you know what man?? youre absolutely right-its definitely possible for this guy to become more than friends with her- I think the better thing to do is to investigate their "friendship"-by that I mean we all have that girl that we are cool with but there's always something in the air between the two of you-its unspeakable but you both know that at anytime your "friendship could turn into a relationship because of the unspoken mutual physical/emotional/mental attraction towards each other- Something tells me that this isnt the case-LJBF at its best-nothing is impossible but highly improbable-chicks put guys in 2 catergories and every guy whose been around the block a couple of times could tell you this: There is the guys who women bit*h about and there are the guys who are the emotional tampon for those chicks----
see problem here is that he gotten himself into this pot of friendship soup now-that is why its so important to establish what you want early on to minimize sh*t like this happening. How can you be rolling with this girl for over a year and havent told her whats up?

 

[goodfornothing]

And you know what man?? youre absolutely right-its definitely possible for this guy to become more than friends with her- I think the better thing to do is to investigate their "friendship"-by that I mean we all have that girl that we are cool with but there's always something in the air between the two of you-its unspeakable but you both know that at anytime your "friendship could turn into a relationship because of the unspoken mutual physical/emotional/mental attraction towards each other- Something tells me that this isnt the case-LJBF at its best-nothing is impossible but highly improbable-chicks put guys in 2 catergories and every guy whose been around the block a couple of times could tell you this: There is the guys who women bit*h about and there are the guys who are the emotional tampon for those chicks----
see problem here is that he gotten himself into this pot of friendship soup now-that is why its so important to establish what you want early on to minimize sh*t like this happening. How can you be rolling with this girl for over a year and havent told her whats up?

man i have i even told her that i was intrested in her (not inlove)
she said something like i realy like you too not in that way and if she could she would.she even told me she never been inlove in the same conversation.

and we have not rolled with this girl since we only see each other on the summers and speak on the phone or a visit once in awhile.

 

[nightcrawler]

next time you are with her and do the usual good-bye hug try kissing her.

 

[goodfornothing]

next time you are with her and do the usual good-bye hug try kissing her.

mate i aint gona see her until atleast july maybe sooner if i decide to stay but then i have to tell her about my gambling problem witch i get help for , and u know what that problem actualy helped me alot got some new friends and they hang out doing some activity on saturdays and goes out partying after that so this might be the best thing that happend to me got alot of new guy friends and getting helped with a thing thats been destroying my life. since i dont got alot of friends i have to say even if i wasted alot of money and friends i got some new ones thats are more real but i still miss this girl now more then ever.

and to be honest telling me about my gambling problem only gona make the situation worse , and shes gona go to china for 1,5 month to visit her cousin , it was christmas gift .

so removing my self from her might be the best option or atleast i think so.

but thats troubling me is if i should call her and tell her or just dont call her at all and meet her again this summer and see how she gona act , think she will hate me.

 

[horaholic]

If you're stuck as friends forever, you might as well take advantage of it. Tell her about your gambling problem, she might be able to help you.

If you end up in the same town again, I thought of something that has a TINY possibility of turning things around. It shouldnt be that hard, since you've already confessed your feelings. Instead of cutting contact, you can threaten to. By this I mean telling her, that because you have feelings for her, it hurts you to hang out with her like that, and you want a girl in your life, and hanging out with her 24-7 will keep you from going after other girls, so for your own sanity's sake, you should not hang out, or talk for hours on the phone. If she was really your friend, she would be introducing you to girls anyway. Keep in mind, that you dont have to stick to this, if it doesnt work. It just may make her fear losing you, and wonder if she should go for you.

I had a girl, that started hanging out with me in junior high. I was a total geek, and she helped me be cool. I fell in love with her, and it lasted for YEARS. Pretty soon, she slapped the brother/sister label on us. You think the friendzone's bad? She would cokblock me too, like she wanted me all to herself. Honestly, my 'freindship' with her is the #1 reason I was so AFC for so long. That, and my so-called best (guy) friend was a player, and would steal EVERY girl I had a chance with.

When I was 21, she moved back to my town after a couple years of us hardly ever seeing each other, and she had graduatioed beauty school, and was a HB9. One night she was telling me how I turned out to be a really good looking guy. At one drunken point she looked me right in the eyes, and said "If you weren't weren't my brother right now I'd..." Im like "Im NOT your Goddamn brother! it wouldnt be incest, I promise." I never did make a bold move on her, but later in the years I would make a lot of suggestions. Truth is, though, she is really manipulative, and I dont want someone like that anyway. She still pulls the same flakey crap on me that normal girls do, and we live in different states. I cut contact with her numerous times. We just aren't the same anymore.

 

[goodfornothing]

If you're stuck as friends forever, you might as well take advantage of it. Tell her about your gambling problem, she might be able to help you.

If you end up in the same town again, I thought of something that has a TINY possibility of turning things around. It shouldnt be that hard, since you've already confessed your feelings. Instead of cutting contact, you can threaten to. By this I mean telling her, that because you have feelings for her, it hurts you to hang out with her like that, and you want a girl in your life, and hanging out with her 24-7 will keep you from going after other girls, so for your own sanity's sake, you should not hang out, or talk for hours on the phone. If she was really your friend, she would be introducing you to girls anyway. Keep in mind, that you dont have to stick to this, if it doesnt work. It just may make her fear losing you, and wonder if she should go for you.

I had a girl, that started hanging out with me in junior high. I was a total geek, and she helped me be cool. I fell in love with her, and it lasted for YEARS. Pretty soon, she slapped the brother/sister label on us. You think the friendzone's bad? She would cokblock me too, like she wanted me all to herself. Honestly, my 'freindship' with her is the #1 reason I was so AFC for so long. That, and my so-called best (guy) friend was a player, and would steal EVERY girl I had a chance with.

When I was 21, she moved back to my town after a couple years of us hardly ever seeing each other, and she had graduatioed beauty school, and was a HB9. One night she was telling me how I turned out to be a really good looking guy. At one drunken point she looked me right in the eyes, and said "If you weren't weren't my brother right now I'd..." Im like "Im NOT your Goddamn brother! it wouldnt be incest, I promise." I never did make a bold move on her, but later in the years I would make a lot of suggestions. Truth is, though, she is really manipulative, and I dont want someone like that anyway. She still pulls the same flakey crap on me that normal girls do, and we live in different states. I cut contact with her numerous times. We just aren't the same anymore.

now since like 5 months back we only talk like once every month for 30-45 mins, dont know feels like something changed between us.and instead of doing ur routine cant i just not call her anymore , and meet her in the summer again shes gonna try to be my friend again but i wont get myself into that situation, i show what i want instead ? or is that strategy out of the question when being friend with her?, becuse we have gone from bestfriends to be just friends not even good friends , and it had me wonder what has changed ? dont know what changed but something has changed guess its shes getting tired of me not calling.

 

[Freeman]

man i have i even told her that i was intrested in her (not inlove)
she said something like i realy like you too not in that way and if she could she would.she even told me she never been inlove in the same conversation.

and we have not rolled with this girl since we only see each other on the summers and speak on the phone or a visit once in awhile.

so from your first sentence you are just confirming what me and the other members thought-lessoned learned-make your intentions known early on and save your time.

 

[goodfornothing]

is it not possible to ignore her now and when i meet her this summer i try again but as soon as she invites me to some activities with her and her famlily or what not i just say im busy try to get activities with her alone and flirt and what ever ? , or is it just to see i will be stuck here from all my life and just swallow the pride and call her up again.

 

[Igetit!]

Good ol' GoodforNothing. What's up man? Haven't see you on the boards for a while. Oh,and let me guess:you're still after that same girl who put you in the friendzone,huh? Wow. Started this thread over 7 months ago and still chasin' the one that got away. Well you're persistant,I'll give you that. Of course you already know my view on this thing,to me it was dead before you even started,but realize that this is something you'll just have to learn the hard way. It's cool,as long as you learn from it in the end.

Well keep the faith man. Also,you know that we got your back here at the forum,so if you need some advice or some type of council we can help you out....BUT,not on this one man,it's alreay over with.

Peace man.

 

[goodfornothing]

Good ol' GoodforNothing. What's up man? Haven't see you on the boards for a while. Oh,and let me guess:you're still after that same girl who put you in the friendzone,huh? Wow. Started this thread over 7 months ago and still chasin' the one that got away. Well you're persistant,I'll give you that. Of course you already know my view on this thing,to me it was dead before you even started,but realize that this is something you'll just have to learn the hard way. It's cool,as long as you learn from it in the end.

Well keep the faith man. Also,you know that we got your back here at the forum,so if you need some advice or some type of council we can help you out....BUT,not on this one man,it's alreay over with.

Peace man.

i have not even tried to get her again since the first post i made on this forum deep inside i thought u where right all along, did not want to belive it but i knew it was true , thats why i came back , becuse it feels like the friendship is dying becuse of me not knowing what i want from this girl or i know but think its not possible.

have not talked with her in 1.5 months this is my chance out of all this but the problem is im going to try again this summer and i know it -_-.