I'm quitting porn FOREVER

[HariPoter13]

How about you just restrain yourself? If you cant, well then.. you dont have the motivation that it takes.


Blocking websites wont solve nothing. (plus you cant really block them)

 

[horaholic]

Thats like an alcoholic 'restraining' himself when he walks by the liquor store, rather than going in and telling them not to sell to him. It has nothing to do with motivation, and everything to do with temptation. If you want to quit anything you're addicted to, you need to keep that thing far away from you.

 

[KingofHearts]

you don't need a double double, you need food
you don't need 10 hours of tv everyday, you need a diversion from reality every once in while
you don't NEED porn, you need sexual release

This is what makes addiction so confusing for people. They confuse basic human needs with substances that are harmful to them. Understand what you need, then you learn what you can live without if you really have to. I love to play basketball, but if I had to stop, I know I can survive.

I do occasionally watch porn. Like someone else said, it fluctuates. Some periods, its everyday. Right now I haven't watched it in a couple weeks and I don't see any sign of stopping. Still mb whenever I feel the need, right now its more convenient than having sex. No drama and its free. You pay for sex one way or another, with your time or your money but its usually both.

Here's my take on mb and porn - if youre horny enough, you can mb without porn. if you feel like you need to watch porn to get aroused enough to mb, then you don't need to mb

Porn can be an addiction for some people.

Sexual release is a need. Sex/Masturbation/Sexual release is an addiction as much as eating food and sleeping are addictions. Sure, with enough willpower, you can hold off cravings, but eventually nature takes over.

Interesting sidenote, i watched no porn during my relationship with my ex-wife. Nearly a year of not watching porn. I just wasn't that interested, got curious every once in a while but it was easy to tell myself to wait until my wife got home. what I had going on in real life was far more stimulating. Whats funny is she tried to be cool and brought porn for us to watch together. A few minutes into it I'd tell her to shut it off because neither of us were watching it anyway, we were already going after each other. I still mb'd occasionally by myself. And sometimes she was just "there for me" when she on her period. I realize that our marriage wasn't that long, so its hard to say if I would have gone without porn for ever. When i left her though, i had some serious sex withdrawls. At the time, i didn't want to have anything to do with women but i was still horny as hell. Came home one day from work and flipped on my fav porn site to see what I missed over the last year. Must have been 2-3 days after the last time we had sex. In a relationship = Almost one year with no porn... 3 days after end of relationship = Occasional viewer ever since.

Do I need porn? No I watch it because I like it

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

porn can be an adequate substitute for the real thing. It becomes a problem when it inhibits your actions to achieve the real thing.

try watching porn for a couple of weeks without jacking and see what happens.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

All energy is sexual. You simply need to find a better way to re-channel it. Exercise is the best way, but there are many others. When you beat off you expel all of that very useful energy potential while self-satiating; so not only are you spent, you're not motivated, nor do you have the energy, to pursue ambitions that would lead to more satisfying experiences (sex, work, passions, etc.)

The greatest works of Men were inspired by, and result from, sexual tension and a need for a suitable release. In an age of easy and convenient release (i.e. porn on tap) you see far less greatness.

 

[Colossus]

All energy is sexual. You simply need to find a better way to re-channel it. Exercise is the best way, but there are many others. When you beat off you expel all of that very useful energy potential while self-satiating; so not only are you spent, you're not motivated, nor do you have the energy, to pursue ambitions that would lead to more satisfying experiences (sex, work, passions, etc.)

The greatest works of Men were inspired by, and result from, sexual tension and a need for a suitable release. In an age of easy and convenient release (i.e. porn on tap) you see far less greatness.

Sounds pretty esoteric. All energy is sexual? What does that even mean?? Can you see auras too??

Just breaking balls here, but I think you're painting with a pretty broad brush suggesting all acts of greatness stem from sexual "energy".

I see what you and others are saying about utilizing that sexual 'tension' in more productive endeavors. With this I totally agree, especially in terms of jacking off. However, we cant equate sexuality with a physiological need like eating or sleeping. No one's essential bodily functions are going to suffer because of lack of sexual release. It's more of a secondary human need.

My take is that it's the ACT of watching porn/mb that is an addiction. This is never a need. It's the chemical excitement cascade we become addicted to, in part because porn is so damn accessible. There would be a lot less guys with porn addictions if they had to go to a skeezy video store every time they wanted to see some. Case in point: I had a really attractive gf over the past year, and the sex with her was excellent. I truly was sexually satisfied with her--I had no need to jerk off. Yet, I still watched porn/mb, albeit not as much as when I was single. Why? Because it was there. I'd be sitting at my comp on a sat morning, and feel a twinge of horniness. I'd think "hey, I wonder if there is any new nudie pics up on site x." Before I knew it, I was full-on watching porn and doing my thing.

THAT is an addiction, I will admit. I think in some ways you grow out of it, or at least I have. It's not that it isnt arousing, but I realize this isnt a true need and should be moderated.

I dont think porn itself is necessarily bad (unless it's of the f*cked up repugnant variety), it's just when it becomes a compulsion. It's better to hold off on impulses until you can actually use them for sex, or at least moderate mb for when you really need a release.

 

[EA Gold]

heres some help

settingcaptivesfree.com
porn-free.org

 

[gösta berling]

I tried. I hadn't jerked it for a week almost. I just did it not too long ago. Maybe,I need to ween myself off of it moreso.

Try to replace your bad habits with good ones.
Ever thought about signing up for an aerobics class?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ZFGmzPzekc

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

All energy is sexual. You simply need to find a better way to re-channel it. Exercise is the best way, but there are many others. When you beat off you expel all of that very useful energy potential while self-satiating; so not only are you spent, you're not motivated, nor do you have the energy, to pursue ambitions that would lead to more satisfying experiences (sex, work, passions, etc.)

The greatest works of Men were inspired by, and result from, sexual tension and a need for a suitable release. In an age of easy and convenient release (i.e. porn on tap) you see far less greatness.

Rollo is referencing Napoleon Hill's "Power of Sexual Transmutation" in the pursuit of success. Hill wrote that our sexual energy is by far our greatest source of power, noting that men become extraordinarily bold, fearless, strong, and quick-witted when in pursuit of sex. He theorized that if you can transfer your hard-wired desire for sex into the desire for whatever your other goals are at will, then you will avail yourself of a hidden power only consciously discovered by few men in human history.

Can it be coincidence that so many giants of civilization have possessed highly developed sexual natures?

I say that intemperant MBing and porn do dissipate your energies and make you depressed.

 

[thefonz]

I found a site that talks about porn addiction:

http://www.reuniting.info/science/three_myths_about_porn

Here are some of the excerpts I like:

1) In short, men are especially vulnerable to porn images because these images have the power to hijack a male brain’s command center in a way they generally cannot a female’s. The hypothalamus is also the center that determines hunger and satiation – in both sexes. Would you regard it as a character defect if someone’s stomach growled because he smelled food on a grill?

2) Rats showed an addiction and withdrawal response to a substance as harmless, and indeed vital to existence, as sugar. (Sugars are present even in fruits, vegetables and grains.) It is the excess, not the substance, that sets up the potential for addiction.

Sex is as natural as sugar, but when we use it in a binge pattern, as many porn users do, then it has the potential for addiction. In one afternoon at the computer a man can view a cornucopia of erotica - more visual erotica than a hunter-gatherer ancestor would have seen in a lifetime. In short, a single afternoon of porn constitutes a binge from the primitive part of the brain’s perspective.