Reach, in the U.S. if you're arrested that arrest record is for life whether you were charged or not unless it gets expunged (even then there'll be a record of it at the court). In the U.S. if you have to post bail that means charges were pressed. Bail is to hold you over till they decide whether to endict. Your under charges if your under bail. Even if it is later dismissed and dropped, there'd still be a permenant record of the arrest and the dismissal. Maybe it works slightly differently where you're from.
I was accused of rape.
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A guy i went to school with was accused of raping a girl in a college dorm. They were both drunk and he banged her in the showers of a dorm.
Charges were eventually dropped, however before the charges were dropped he was expelled from school. He and his parents decided to sue the university for civil damages. This goes on for several years and eventually he wins a settlement of roughly $30,000 (a far cry from the millions he was asking). This story made national news google him if you want the full detailed story "Ben Mallory Ohio University."
The sad ending to this story is the fact that he commited suicide last year.
Charges were eventually dropped, however before the charges were dropped he was expelled from school. He and his parents decided to sue the university for civil damages. This goes on for several years and eventually he wins a settlement of roughly $30,000 (a far cry from the millions he was asking). This story made national news google him if you want the full detailed story "Ben Mallory Ohio University."
The sad ending to this story is the fact that he commited suicide last year.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Any lawyer with half a brain would point out that a REAL victim of rape doesn't go happily off on a vacation with family the day after being raped lol. Give me a break. I think this should be obvious.
As far as not letting this happen again.....there is a way to help avoid a situation like this again. It may seem a little on the extreme side, but carry a small tape recorder with you. When you got her on tape consenting then put it away somewhere and go at it. If another girl ever tries to pull this **** on you, you have a conversation as proof.
*edited: please don't quote the entire original first post... it takes 10 seconds to scroll down through it all
As far as not letting this happen again.....there is a way to help avoid a situation like this again. It may seem a little on the extreme side, but carry a small tape recorder with you. When you got her on tape consenting then put it away somewhere and go at it. If another girl ever tries to pull this **** on you, you have a conversation as proof.
*edited: please don't quote the entire original first post... it takes 10 seconds to scroll down through it all
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Hey Tristan. I'm from Columbus too. I thought you were talking about OSU till I got to the end of your post. That story sounds familar... and is really messed up, $30,000 for ruining your life. OU does have a lot of hot girls and partying though.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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Centaurion
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Damn bro, I'm sorry to hear that.
Chicks that falsy accuse guys of rape should be taken out to the woods and shot. A false rape charge goes a long way to permanetly destroy your life. A good friend of mine got accused of raping a chick, funny thing was that he was IN ANOTHER TOWN WITH ME when the so called 'rape' happened. It later turned out that the chick was a nutcase looking for attention/ making him jealous. Even though she admitted that she was lying, he still had to deal with the social stigma attached to a rape-accusation.
Chicks that falsy accuse guys of rape should be taken out to the woods and shot. A false rape charge goes a long way to permanetly destroy your life. A good friend of mine got accused of raping a chick, funny thing was that he was IN ANOTHER TOWN WITH ME when the so called 'rape' happened. It later turned out that the chick was a nutcase looking for attention/ making him jealous. Even though she admitted that she was lying, he still had to deal with the social stigma attached to a rape-accusation.
MacDiddy
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Reach.. I feel sorry for you... In future, you are probably going to be more risk adverse with women.... just the opposite of what this site preaches in order to be successful with hot looking women...
Just take note that Fat chicks tend to behave pschologically different than HBs. They are more conscious of themselves, more cautious with relationships, have lower self estemm and can't handle being labeled a $lut... on top of being FAT..
Just avoid fat chicks if you can... they are great as friends but you get no kudos for banging them...
Just take note that Fat chicks tend to behave pschologically different than HBs. They are more conscious of themselves, more cautious with relationships, have lower self estemm and can't handle being labeled a $lut... on top of being FAT..
Just avoid fat chicks if you can... they are great as friends but you get no kudos for banging them...
The sad truth is that in the U.S., women can basically get away with anything. Not only do you have to worry about false rape charges, but things like restraining orders, and false accusations of domestic abuse are rampant. Often times women even concoct these stories to gain an advantage in divorce hearings.
It's scary dealing with women at all these days. Most are evil bytches. I'm not grouping all women, but a lot of North American women are plain psychos. Even when you play by the rules, a scorned bytch can take you down. It's simply something women can do, and men can't.
There are all kinds of groups standing up for the rights of abused women, but hardly a peep about the rampant abuse of innocent men. The sad part is, that there are plenty of women who really are being abused by jerks, and the woman who falsely accuse, make a mockery of these women.
It's scary dealing with women at all these days. Most are evil bytches. I'm not grouping all women, but a lot of North American women are plain psychos. Even when you play by the rules, a scorned bytch can take you down. It's simply something women can do, and men can't.
There are all kinds of groups standing up for the rights of abused women, but hardly a peep about the rampant abuse of innocent men. The sad part is, that there are plenty of women who really are being abused by jerks, and the woman who falsely accuse, make a mockery of these women.
MacDiddy
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^^^
And this is why I've always advocated that you don't make long term plans with a drama queen..... So many chumps on this board will not let go of there ex or soon to be ex or current gf even tho they exhibit some drama deficit disorder...
Take control of your life and your biatch...
And this is why I've always advocated that you don't make long term plans with a drama queen..... So many chumps on this board will not let go of there ex or soon to be ex or current gf even tho they exhibit some drama deficit disorder...
Take control of your life and your biatch...
I'd like to thank a lot of you guys for setting my mind straight.
In this country just being arrested doesn't mean you're charged with an offence. Just being accused of rape means that you're arrested and put through DNA, Blood, swab and whatever else tests. Also my fingerprints were taken, my picture and my DNA for a national database. I felt a lot more raped than that girl could ever feel.
With bail it isn't like I had to give them money or something like that, they just bailed me on account of the fact they couldn't track down this girl to interview her and probably felt there was not much point keeping me in cause I was clearly innocent. I was told by my mum most times you're on bail you have to report in every week, but in my case I only have to return on the 10th of May with no conditions except for that.
I appreciate sharing stories, hopefully this will be resolved soon and it hasn't dented my ego too much. It's like a car accident, the sooner you get back in the car the more likely you are not to get a phobia.
In this country just being arrested doesn't mean you're charged with an offence. Just being accused of rape means that you're arrested and put through DNA, Blood, swab and whatever else tests. Also my fingerprints were taken, my picture and my DNA for a national database. I felt a lot more raped than that girl could ever feel.
With bail it isn't like I had to give them money or something like that, they just bailed me on account of the fact they couldn't track down this girl to interview her and probably felt there was not much point keeping me in cause I was clearly innocent. I was told by my mum most times you're on bail you have to report in every week, but in my case I only have to return on the 10th of May with no conditions except for that.
I appreciate sharing stories, hopefully this will be resolved soon and it hasn't dented my ego too much. It's like a car accident, the sooner you get back in the car the more likely you are not to get a phobia.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Hearing all the other stories I suppose I'm fortunate that I didn't get my ass kicked by anyone. I got a call from my solicitor just now and he said that my possesions would only be returned to me when they decided to go no further. That could be sooner rather than later, but he said he'd ring them up in the middle of April to find out what's going on if nothing happens before than. Ridiculous.
Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.
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if you had time to put on a condom, then it wasn't rape... point that out
That was 1 of SEVERAL quotes you dropped in there. Brother, friend, guy, this is the year 2005....there's 3,000,000,000 and men live until age 75 at LEAST...with viagra, porn, prostitutes, call girls, booze, and the emergence of campus sluts, it's not a requirement to fvck a girl you're disgusted by.
Moreover, stop thinking with your prick. It's not like you're the last man on earth and she's the last woman. Your genes aren't gonna die off.
The sad unfortunate, consequence of any dating site is that guys 'try' this stuff out, get into situations like this, and let either their emotions rule them, or want to write a field report about a situation they'd rather forget about.
Remember:
This ain't a union, and nobody cares about your success or failure here. Everybody has different goals, but banging a girl you don't like IS NOT ONE OF THEM.
I feel for your outcome, BUT, as I pointed out WAY before, you had the red flags and fire alarms going off...that should have been your hint. I've never been in that situation because as my golden rule of sex still stands...
"I never bang a girl that I can't trust even a little bit under the WORST possible circumstances."
My friends who go out and meet up with chicks uphold to the same rule in the event of such things. Diseases, pregnancy, fake rape cases, and so on, are NOT worth my future, my future kids future, or the disgrace of my family.
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englishman
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I'll drink to that......... gotta watchout for nut jobs..... I was working with a women a while ago, she told me that she was screwing a rich naive guy who bought her things but she couldnt stand him...when shed had enough she called him up and said (and i got this straight from her) "you ******* you got me pregnant......now I have to have an abortion and Im not having it in this town..I want money for travel, medical etc.....blah blah blah...naive guy pays up, girl and her friend go on a week long party and guy probably thinks he did the right thing to this day.....watch your back bro....its a nutty world at times.....
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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