Ok wow this is a long ass story. I just want to say what the point of this thread is. I want to tempt my girlfriend somehow (probably via AIM) to see if she would cheat on me. These are two interesting stories and I really need advice on this so please read.
This is a bad idea no matter what. If your suspicious thoughts are confirmed it will squeeze your emotions much harder than they're being pulled right now. If you find out that she denied the offer that still really doesn't prove that she won't cheat, and even if it does, the whole point is that you don't trust your gf. Without trust you have a Ferrari without an engine, a summer day without sun.
I love my girlfriend very much, and she loves me back. When I'm with her and when I talk to her it seems like she loves me more then I love her. She really makes me feel special and she is really a great girlfriend.
Teenage love is often infatuation and lust. True love at least in my opinion has a lot more to do with comfort, companionship. All these thoughts your having should never even enter your mind in a solid relationship.
We've been going out for 8 months.
This means nothing in the grand scheme of things.
Now, she always tells me how muchs he loves me and how much she don't even care about other guys and how she doesn't even talk to her guy friends any more. Not because I tell her to. Because she doesn't even want to she says. And she says she only texts a few people. Me, her mom, her best friend (girl) and maybe this one kid Tim.
Girls change their mind more than new born babies need a diaper change. However the fact that she has to tell you things like this sounds a lot more like massaging the seeds of manipulation into your mind, than true "love."
We were walking home from work one day with 2 other people and I was talking to one of them for a while of the walk and I saw her texting someone. So I asked when I was done talknig who that was and she said it was her friend Tim. So I think nothing of it and let it go.
Jealousy gets you no where with women. Girls will always test you and try to make you jealous at certain points. Whether its your gf, a potential gf or some random byatch you just met. Learn how to hit a home-run with tests like that so you don't look like the emotional girl.
Now we are in her car a while later going to her house and while were in the car I ask to see her phone and I start looking in her messages and she sees me going into it so she starts to freak and starts askin gme for the phone. I put it in the opposite hand and hold it away form her and she was practically jumping accross me to get to it. So I was like wow forget it, if she wants ti that bad, I'll just give it to her. What she doesn't know is that I saw her inbox and outbox filled with texts from some kid Wil.
Never grab your gf's phone outta her hand and look through her messages. That's childish, invading her privacy and most of all stupid. Like I said above, if you have to resort to doing things like that, your relationship was dead a long time before you even realized it was in trouble.
So for the rest of the ride there I'm pissed as hell so I just don't talk and when we get to her house she sees I'm pissed so we go in her basement and she asks what's wrong. So I tell her I saw the kids name Wil in there and I was mad because before she said she was texting Tim.
See the bit about jealousy above.
What she tells me is that she was talking to the kid for this girl Jaime and she didn't want to tell me she was talking to him because it wasn't that big of a deal. I still don't believe her and I just start to ignore her and she starts crying. REALLY BAD. So after a while I give her the benefit of hte doubt and forgive her.
I'm thousands of mile away and even I can smell the bullshyt in that response.
***NOWW*** About 3 weeks later..
Before I start this story I want to say that she always bothers me for talking to girl friends that I have for a very long time. SHe gets very jealous and she always wants to know when I talk to them and stuff. And also, every week she goes to this teen night thing that I can't go to because I have work. I let her go because she has been going to it for a few years and she loves to dance. SHe says she never dances with guys and she always dances on stage with her girlfriends. She also always tells me how she hates going with out me and she sometimes doesn'te ven want to go. Keep all of this in mind.. Here's where it gets interesting..
She definitely dances with other guys, I'd put the house on that one.
Now one day, I'm at her house and we are going to go out to eat. She goes upstairs to shower and get ready and I'm waiting in her living room for her. After about a half hour her mom says that I can go ont he computer if I want to pass the time. I accept the offer and head ont he comp uter.
I surf around for a little bit, but then I get bored and run out of places to visit. Now, Every once in a while I go on her myspace to see if anyone says bad **** about her. So I wa slike ok what ever, I'll go and check that out. So I go on myspace and I since it's her computer, her user name and stuff is saved and logged in as soon as you go on myspace.
Once again, your invading her privacy. Don't do that!!! If you don't trust your gf, break up with her, its that simple. When you resort to spying, screening calls, reading her myspace comments its already done!!
So I'm liek ok whatever. I read the comments and theres no bad ****. So I'm about to get off it and I see she has new incoming messages. Of course I'm going to read them. Wouldn't you lol? Everyone would be curious.
So I go into her inbox and see about 4 pages full of message sfrom some kid Andrew. So I start to read some of them and they are getting pretty flirty. And I'm like hold up let me see what she is sending this kid. So I go to her outbox and I see messages like "You should come to the next teen night.", "My hair looks so good for you, I can't wait to see you.", and then a few days later she says "I missed you the other night, I was dancing on stage looking for you all night and didn't see you. I was so mad."
This is your evidence right here!! Best thing you could've done was keep your mouth shut, fuvked her hard one last time, then called her a few days later and told her its not going to work out. No explainations, no yelling, just a simple its not going to work out. This would've drove her nuts.
After reading this, I get off the computer and am PISSED AS ALL HELL. I'm at he rhouse now and I'm trapped there pretty much. Trapped at her house, and trapped into going to dinner. I don't drive yet so I can't go home and say I don't feel good. So we go out to dinner and I'm just so pissed I can't even talk. So for most of the dinner it's SILENT. Now when I say silent, I mean I didn't say a word the entire time. So she keeps asking what's wrong and I don't want to tell her yet because that night I wouldn't have access to a computer. Or the next day. But the day after that I would. So I wanted to be able to haev access to the computer and see these messages more closely before I flip on her.
So by the next day, she is a mess and crying all day and just begging me to tell her. So what doy ou think I did? Yea, you guesse dit. I told her.
Crying! Helping girls get away with bull-**** since the beginning of time.
We talked ti otu and her escuse was he is just a friend she hasn't seen in so long and she didn't think she was flirting.
Liar!
I didn't want to totally flip and break upw ith her right there because I wanted to see for sure that I have the right to flip. So I let it go and make ehr promise, at least 5 times that day that she wouldn't delete the messages.
I get home that next day and have access to the computer. So I go on to see the messages and they are GONE!
I ask her about it and she starts lieing her ass off and says her mom looked through her history and saw the messages and was mad she said those things so she deleted them. Now what kind of weak ass escuse is that?
Umm..yah, L-I-A-R!
Imediately I tell her she is full of **** and I put my away message on. I come back in a little and she will show me them. Now I go on the myspace and all the flirty messages are gone and all that's left is bull**** messages like "hello" and stuff.
So I start flippoing out again and she says that they delete after 14 days or something. My answer to that was, why isn't the other ones deleted? Her first message to him was stil there.
After it all she says that he was just a friend and she loves me and blah blah she didn't mean anything by it and that she deleted them for the good of us. She didn't want me "overreacting" over it again.
Your her emotional sponge, she soaks up all her baggage on you, then lines up 10 other guys on the side.
So now I have no proof or chance to re-read these messages to see if I was right. So after a few days of being pissed I forgive her, but I let her know that I trust her just as much as a bum on the street.
Forgive a liar and you are basically telling her that lying is acceptable behavior.
So with both these things happening, I want to tempt her myself and see if she will fall and start flirting back. How can I do this? What would I say if I AIMed her on a dummy screen name? HELP!! Thanks.
Break up with her already!! Your getting fuvked like Lance Bass in the arse right now.
