I want to tempt my girl to see if she would cheat.. longg story.. !!!

[jcdjgd]

Ok wow this is a long ass story. I just want to say what the point of this thread is. I want to tempt my girlfriend somehow (probably via AIM) to see if she would cheat on me. These are two interesting stories and I really need advice on this so please read.

I love my girlfriend very much, and she loves me back. When I'm with her and when I talk to her it seems like she loves me more then I love her. She really makes me feel special and she is really a great girlfriend.

We've been going out for 8 months.

Now, she always tells me how muchs he loves me and how much she don't even care about other guys and how she doesn't even talk to her guy friends any more. Not because I tell her to. Because she doesn't even want to she says. And she says she only texts a few people. Me, her mom, her best friend (girl) and maybe this one kid Tim.

We were walking home from work one day with 2 other people and I was talking to one of them for a while of the walk and I saw her texting someone. So I asked when I was done talknig who that was and she said it was her friend Tim. So I think nothing of it and let it go.

Now we are in her car a while later going to her house and while were in the car I ask to see her phone and I start looking in her messages and she sees me going into it so she starts to freak and starts askin gme for the phone. I put it in the opposite hand and hold it away form her and she was practically jumping accross me to get to it. So I was like wow forget it, if she wants ti that bad, I'll just give it to her. What she doesn't know is that I saw her inbox and outbox filled with texts from some kid Wil.

So for the rest of the ride there I'm pissed as hell so I just don't talk and when we get to her house she sees I'm pissed so we go in her basement and she asks what's wrong. So I tell her I saw the kids name Wil in there and I was mad because before she said she was texting Tim.

What she tells me is that she was talking to the kid for this girl Jaime and she didn't want to tell me she was talking to him because it wasn't that big of a deal. I still don't believe her and I just start to ignore her and she starts crying. REALLY BAD. So after a while I give her the benefit of hte doubt and forgive her.


***NOWW*** About 3 weeks later..

Before I start this story I want to say that she always bothers me for talking to girl friends that I have for a very long time. SHe gets very jealous and she always wants to know when I talk to them and stuff. And also, every week she goes to this teen night thing that I can't go to because I have work. I let her go because she has been going to it for a few years and she loves to dance. SHe says she never dances with guys and she always dances on stage with her girlfriends. She also always tells me how she hates going with out me and she sometimes doesn'te ven want to go. Keep all of this in mind.. Here's where it gets interesting..

Now one day, I'm at her house and we are going to go out to eat. She goes upstairs to shower and get ready and I'm waiting in her living room for her. After about a half hour her mom says that I can go ont he computer if I want to pass the time. I accept the offer and head ont he comp uter.

I surf around for a little bit, but then I get bored and run out of places to visit. Now, Every once in a while I go on her myspace to see if anyone says bad **** about her. So I wa slike ok what ever, I'll go and check that out. So I go on myspace and I since it's her computer, her user name and stuff is saved and logged in as soon as you go on myspace.

So I'm liek ok whatever. I read the comments and theres no bad ****. So I'm about to get off it and I see she has new incoming messages. Of course I'm going to read them. Wouldn't you lol? Everyone would be curious.

So I go into her inbox and see about 4 pages full of message sfrom some kid Andrew. So I start to read some of them and they are getting pretty flirty. And I'm like hold up let me see what she is sending this kid. So I go to her outbox and I see messages like "You should come to the next teen night.", "My hair looks so good for you, I can't wait to see you.", and then a few days later she says "I missed you the other night, I was dancing on stage looking for you all night and didn't see you. I was so mad."

After reading this, I get off the computer and am PISSED AS ALL HELL. I'm at he rhouse now and I'm trapped there pretty much. Trapped at her house, and trapped into going to dinner. I don't drive yet so I can't go home and say I don't feel good. So we go out to dinner and I'm just so pissed I can't even talk. So for most of the dinner it's SILENT. Now when I say silent, I mean I didn't say a word the entire time. So she keeps asking what's wrong and I don't want to tell her yet because that night I wouldn't have access to a computer. Or the next day. But the day after that I would. So I wanted to be able to haev access to the computer and see these messages more closely before I flip on her.

So by the next day, she is a mess and crying all day and just begging me to tell her. So what doy ou think I did? Yea, you guesse dit. I told her.

We talked ti otu and her escuse was he is just a friend she hasn't seen in so long and she didn't think she was flirting.

I didn't want to totally flip and break upw ith her right there because I wanted to see for sure that I have the right to flip. So I let it go and make ehr promise, at least 5 times that day that she wouldn't delete the messages.

I get home that next day and have access to the computer. So I go on to see the messages and they are GONE!

I ask her about it and she starts lieing her ass off and says her mom looked through her history and saw the messages and was mad she said those things so she deleted them. Now what kind of weak ass escuse is that?

Imediately I tell her she is full of **** and I put my away message on. I come back in a little and she will show me them. Now I go on the myspace and all the flirty messages are gone and all that's left is bull**** messages like "hello" and stuff.

So I start flippoing out again and she says that they delete after 14 days or something. My answer to that was, why isn't the other ones deleted? Her first message to him was stil there.

After it all she says that he was just a friend and she loves me and blah blah she didn't mean anything by it and that she deleted them for the good of us. She didn't want me "overreacting" over it again.

So now I have no proof or chance to re-read these messages to see if I was right. So after a few days of being pissed I forgive her, but I let her know that I trust her just as much as a bum on the street.

So with both these things happening, I want to tempt her myself and see if she will fall and start flirting back. How can I do this? What would I say if I AIMed her on a dummy screen name? HELP!! Thanks.

 

[everywomanshero]

I think this is really out of control. I'll admit I barely skimmed the post, but you seem to be conducting (or planning to) some kind of espionage. What's next, putting keyloggers on her PC, sticking a GPS tracking unit in her car, bugging her telephone, using RFID labeled condoms to see if they have been replaced, climbing under her house and using one of those listen through walls devices, hiding in parking lots with a parabolic dish aimed out of a van, noise activated recording devices planted in the home, face recognition cameras complete with lists of all family members faces to see if any guys come over, climbing on the nearest water tower with a telescope to check for line of sight?????? Where do you draw the line, all of those are options.

This cannot be healthy for you, man! The Internet tends to foster really extreme perceptions. I suggest not ever spying on anyone. I think it does more harm than good. If you are truly convinced a girl is cheating, I think it's better to start banging other chicks. If this were a serious LTR (like married or something), then maybe confrontation and some guys may wish to confront anyway. I don't know or really care which of those options you might partake of. However, I hope for your own sake, that you rule out any covert operations.

 

[donjuanjovi]

So this is your plan? Tempt her to flirt with you when you are posing as another guy, so you can go yell at her and get in a huge fight which will most likely lead to the end of the relationship. Good thinking you doorknob! Do me a favour and kick yourself in the nuts for being an idiot.

Grow up.

 

[Jariel]

How much more proof do you want? It sounds like she's keeping her options open, but wants to keep you in tow until one of these options works out.

You don't need to tempt her or trap her, you already have enough to know she's deceiving you. She's being evasive, she deleted the evidence (BIG FLASHING RED LIGHT!!!!) and everyone here will tell you, the crying and the "I love you" stuff are manipulation tactics.

If I had this much evidence and suspicion against my girlfriend, I'd start seeing other women. You clearly dont trust her to go to all these crazy lengths and as the other guys said, it's messing with your head. Time to move on dude before you send yourself insane!

 

[jcdjgd]

everymanshero, I didn't do any of that behind her back.

I took her phone when she was sitting next to me. I went on her myspace by accident.

donjuan - I just want to see if she is loyal. She can talk to ther guys, but I want her to be loyal. Who doesn't want their girl being that?

Jariel - I know and that's why I want to do this and see the proof for mys elf

I never read the texts from Wil because when I gave the phone back she deleted her whole in and outbox. And same with the myspace messages. So she is deleting her mistakesa nd saying it's not ab ig deal and she don't want me to overreact.

I know I can go find other girls, but I really lov eher and I want to see if she is loyal. If she can't be, then I'm going to have to fnish it. Soemthing I don'tw ant to do,b ut I need to find out if she will flirt back. I don't know..

 

[DasaniWater]

God damn, this is all messed up. it makes me feel paranoid about my gfs myspace cus shes so secretive about it to the max.... damn........ but seriously after reading the entire post, its all clear. girls do cry and say they love you as manipulation. or they dont know what love is...

 

[gherald]

break up with her....shes cheating you...

 

[mrRuckus]

If your girl is on myspace she IS flirting with guys behind your back. All girls. That's the whole point of myspace... for girls to sit back and get male attention without having to buy wh0re clothing and go to the bar.

 

[NewMan]

First off - your young and you should not be in a relationship - it's obvious that you nor her are mature enough to be in said relationship.

I'm going to lay this down on you.

If the energy you expend in a relationship outweighs the benefits, it's time to get out.

You are expending far to much time and effort - stress and worry. It's not worth it. No woman is worth it.

She's deleting messages on her cell and myspace account. Now, let me ask you - why do you think she would do that?


The answer is, to prevent you from reading them.

And my questions is - Why does she not want you to read them?

The answer is, because they are imcriminating.


She lies to you over and over "My mother read them" - "I was texting tim" etc. etc. etc.

the answer is easy, you need to be a man, be a DJ and break it off.

don't accept this.

 

[Ojete]

First, you shouldn't need to be investigating her private things. You just shouldn't care about that ****.

Second, if you feel insecure / unconfortable / hurt / unbalanced in your relationship with her, then drop her and meet other girls.

Third, be a man! If you keep busy in your own great business, meeting people, working, exercising, improving your great sex skills etc. then that cheating **** would be the last concern for you. Wear a rubber whenever you **** her and relax. Just know that controlling and spying her is just putting your life (ironically) in control of what she does. She's the one who should be concerned about you cheating on her lol, not otherwise.

Drop that ****ty attitude and if the girl is becoming a pain in your ass, drop her too and date other girls, there are loads of women out there. You are young.

 

[The_Reaper]

I was reading until the part where he grabs the phone off the GF and goes through her messages. You insecure ****. She should dump your jealous ass. Going through her phone like that? Man, you don't own her.

 

[DasaniWater]

Reaper you need to actually read the whole story before you post some sh1t u dont know.

 

[everywomanshero]

I think it's good for people of all ages to be in relationships, as long as they are not destructive ones. Being isolated is big problem, noone should ever be isolated whether in LTR or not.

Neither I nor anyone else can likely tell you what's going on. If you don't trust her to tell you the truth, then maybe being a snoop is only way. However, I wouldn't do it. I tend to assume the sale and focus on what *I'm* doing right, not what someone else could potentionally be doing wrong. It seems like this worry is to avoid losing, rather than a strategy for winning.

I would either confront her with how I felt or just concentrate on what *I* was doing. I think worrying without taking action just ruins your life and makes you feel like crap which really will cause her to want to avoid you.

 

[MetalFortress]

The facts are right there in front of you. If you think she ain't cheating, or has a chance of having been loyal all this time, YOU'RE STUPID. Reread your own post and then ask yourself how there can even be a chance she wasn't cheating.

 

[Sean O]

The fact that you actually checked her texts and myspace messages tells me that you're jealous and needy. This is probably what is driving her to cheat on you. Read this: Kill that desperation!

 

[jcdjgd]

All of you who are saying "I'm being too sneaky, and I have no right to take her phone blah blah." I just took it to see. I love her and she acts and tells me that she loves me too, but I don't want to be ****ed around. I would think you guys would understand this.

I'm not trying to catch her to prove her wrong and make her look stupid. I just want to see if she really loves me like she says.

The only reason why I really care htis much and want to find out somehow is because yea I'm only 16, but I never met a girl like her. Everything I like, she likes. We have pretty much the exact same personality. I love being with her and I couldn't put together a girl better then her. The only thing that makes met hink now is those twoo things. I really want to believe her, but everytime I think about it, liek you guys said, why would she try and hide them if there was nothing to hide?

And I can't bring them up again because everytime I used to, she would say, why are you bringing this up again blah blah. SHe just wants to forget about it. I relaly can't though. Every once in a while I think about it and it makes me mad, but I can't bring it up because she will get all sad and start to cry.

That is my reason for wanting to tempt her somehow. Any ideas?

I hope this clears some of the ideas you guys got out of that post. I know it seems liek I'm a eavesdropping prick, but I'm not. I just don't want to be jerked around. She acts liek she loves me so much aruond me and if I never saw those things, I wouldn't even begin to suspect anything because she calls me 24\7, always trying to make me happy, etc. It's not like it's a boring relationship that I'm just keeping alive because I'm obsessed with her. I just want to know the truth.

I just don't know how to start off a convo wit her on AIM or how else to tempt her somehow. I NEED to do this so I can find out what is really up.

P.S. - Sean O - That desperation thing describes her exactly. I don't do those things. She does them to me. She is the desperate one it seems. That's why I find this so surprising and I really can't believe it no matter how much the facts point against her. I just need to find out for my self and see the facts in front of me.

 

[Distant Light]

I don't think people are realzing what exactly is being learnt in this community. Countless times guys will have done, seen, or heard of another guy in the community pulling a girl who has a BF. The seduction crap can easily bypass the BF obstacle. Like right now my friends GF if I was a little bitvh I could take his gf easily because she was invested in me and her relationship so even if he is there or not she will give me a big hug and always happy to see me. (I guess i trigger past emotions we had together)

But anyway you have to realize you can lose you're girl to another guy at anytime. Every girl wants that validation and just because you go out with her doesn't mean she has to stop getting her validation. Another thing that should have made you realize that was a big lie was the girl saying she only dances with her friends. Its a party and so much crap is going on and the girls are getting so excited how can she resist herself from not dancing around and getting hot and heavy.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

All of you who are saying "I'm being too sneaky, and I have no right to take her phone blah blah." I just took it to see. I love her and she acts and tells me that she loves me too, but I don't want to be ****ed around. I would think you guys would understand this. ...

So why in the world would she want to cheat on a guy like you?

 

[Hitman10000]

Homeland INSecurity threat level: RED (for extreme paranoia and urine soaked insecurities)

 

[S1NN3R]

What's next, putting keyloggers on her PC, sticking a GPS tracking unit in her car, bugging her telephone, using RFID labeled condoms to see if they have been replaced, climbing under her house and using one of those listen through walls devices, hiding in parking lots with a parabolic dish aimed out of a van, noise activated recording devices planted in the home, face recognition cameras complete with lists of all family members faces to see if any guys come over, climbing on the nearest water tower with a telescope to check for line of sight??????

If anyone needs these types of goods or services, let me know.