i want life, love and liberty...take your roles and shove them up your arses!

[iqqi]

when i get into many of the great debate posts here, there seems to be a prevalent idea of what a relationship is. it always seems to go along the lines of what role a man plays (i dunno, hero, protector, hunter, blah blah blah) and the role the woman plays (nurturer, mother, cooker, pvssy-provider, blah blah blahzy blah).

there seems to be a timeline for these relationships also. man chase woman. woman run. man catch woman hit her over the head with kino-club or c+f club, carry her back to cave. relationship stagnates, kids trap man and woman together in a cage called marriage or hell. man and woman live unhappily ever after. all chronicalled in sitcom called "married...with children".

often times i feel a range of emotions reading these posts. disagreement. frustration. anger. hopelessness.

i usually realize that this is how most are! most people have either settled for just that, or have given up on LTRs all together in the pursuit of pure sexual gratification only or bitterness, usually both. and it is easy to get caught up in this path everyone else is walking, hell it is the oldest tragedy in the book, getting lost in the crowd, the herd, so you just go with the flow.

well dammit, i do not want to walk that path! so i am here to tell you what i, iqqimus, envison for my life.

i feel like life is a journey. an adventure. take what you can, take what you will, give what you want and what you have.

i want to see the world, and become part of it. i want to immerse myself in life, losing myself in it and becoming one with it. that is immortality.

love fits into this idea i am presenting here in the form of a companion. i often feel so happy and excited with what i am seeing and discovering, and i want to share these secrets with someone. (as well as other things such as my body hee hee.) for the sake of discussion i will call him companion.

now i definately havetraits i look for in a companion, as does anyone. but they are more geared towards the journey or adventure i want for my life, instead of some stagnant pool of nothingness most relationships drown in. so forget the does he make enough to support my french nail manicure habit trait. i want to know if he can pick up and go at a moments notice! can he take a week off or a weekend, to just go out into the world?

and i don't want to get married and live in a house encaged in a white picket fence. i want to get married as a symbol of our unity, and have the world be our house!

i want a companion, an equal, to accompany me on this path. not a provider. i too provide! i too protect! i too hunt! i too want to be nurtured. i too want to be whatever the hell else a woman is supposed to do for the man.

i want worlds (see pooks post) to collide, and roles to merge.

dammit.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

Too many "I's" and "I want's" in this post. Too much emotion. Too much living in a fantasy world. Not enough about what you bring to the table.

oops, sorry. I forgot you're a chick.

In that case, absolutely I agree with you. You have every right to be a princess and live in a world with no consequences where fun and excitement is served up on a silver platter every minute of every day.

 

[Saine]

Face the reality bro. I think life is just a big joke, something I could never understand, that's why people always made fun of me. I couldn't understand it. Others looked like they could.

 

[Saine]

Whoa didn't see that it's iqqi... a female. -_- I take the word "bro" back.

 

[Titus]

So, you want adventure, sensations, bright lights, standing out, emotional turmoils and not being a zombie like all the other old croacks around you, who already turned in the key and are ratting out behind their white fences and big houses? You want to take the back road, the dirty one, the dangerous and exciting one... you want to shine and you want to live your life to the fullest, you don't want to be one of THEM... you want to be DIFFERENT!

...oh, boy...

...just consider it all this way... when you, as yourself, the shiny life expecting individual looks at the crowd, everyone else in the crowds looks back throu his own eyes the same way at you... and at everyone else too, for that matter...

You're one with the mob, Iqqi. The only difference you have with lots of them is that you think that you need something shiny, big and incredible to be happy... something MORE... while lots of them don't need it... they are content without it... 10 times more then we poor stupid and brainless bastards who think we are so much better then them, because we are not stagnated and we keep searching all the time and think that is the real life...

 

[iqqi]

ah, you are missing my point!

i never described my path or my desires! not as shiny!!! or dangerous and dirty and whatever else you must be projecting onto me!

my point is simply that you don't have to subscribe to that way of thinking. you don't have to fill any roles, or find someone to fill a role. stop focusing on some goal or destination.

focus on the journey itself. be here. not in the future or the past.

and love fits into this! stop searching for some diamond cane (woman) to use and have as a tool or accessory, and instead want someone equal and kindred to your spirit to accompany you!

 

[Pook]

I know EXACTLY what you are saying, Iqqi.

I imagine my concluding post on this website will have all the guys scratching their head, thinking I'm on mushrooms or something, but all the women will go, "EXACTLY!"

 

[princelydeeds]

Re: Re: Re: i want life, love and liberty...take your roles and shove them up your arses!

Originally posted by Saine
How the hell do you "NeXt" a girl on the internet when she, in no way affiliate or relate to you? Why don't you get offline you stupidass and do something meaningful rather than talk about flaming and banning? What's next?

Kill Allen because he own the site and forum? Go away, leave iqqi and Nick alone!

STFU "CAPTAIN SAVE A H0E."

Me Me Me, I I I, is that all women ever talk about? I have an idea for you, why don't you get in the kitchen and cook my dinner!!!!

 

[SamePendo]

Just be Yourself


I see that as the bible (no offense intended to any beliefs). I mean, ofcourse there wont be horses riding up in the sky, etc. There is a deeper meaning to what the bible says, a different one.

Same with just be yourself. If an ordinary dude gets that advice, he will sit down on his ugly ass and watch tv. Its just deeper than that.

Just be Yourself is the best advice, ever.





(post coming up on this in a year+)

 

[jakethasnake]

I think all the mysoginists in this thread are fvcking jokers. And yes, I wish to pre-emptively return any pathetic insults thrown at me in reprisal a thousand-fold. So fvck you.


Here is the bottom line - women have more things of value to say than most guys here realize, or care to admit in the haze created by their gigantic ego. Let's face it - Iqqi's post was pretty solid. It's not something to be tossed aside like a used condom, unless you're a complete fvcking idiot. I'm not afraid to fvcking say it because of the prevailing winds of pathetic mysogny that dominate this (admittedly sub-par) board.

 

[Krassus]

I hear you completely!

 

[MVPlaya]

No offense Iqqi,

but you wrote this post REALLY weird. I've read earlier posts by you and they made sense, but this one seems a little creative in its writing (to quote shakespeare: "Less art, more matter"). I don't exactly follow what you're saying not because I can't follow it but because the weird writing turned me off real quickly.

 

[Walden]

The iqqi song.

I too want life , love , fat chicks , liberty and fat chicks.

Good for you iqqi in celebration of our newfound bond I will now sing the Iqqi song.

(Sings)
"Ohhhh Iqqi , you make me feel sticky , if it is dryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I'll give it a licky..."

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by MVPlaya
No offense Iqqi,

but you wrote this post REALLY weird. I've read earlier posts by you and they made sense, but this one seems a little creative in its writing (to quote shakespeare: "Less art, more matter"). I don't exactly follow what you're saying not because I can't follow it but because the weird writing turned me off real quickly.

weird writing? silly manboy (JK, don't get offended) i am woman. that means i am moody. most times i put disclaimers in my signature, but this is really a major part of my personality. read some of my previous threads that i started and you will see.

i will say that i was feverishly and recklessly typing this. i never use uppercase letters and i didn't even reread the post before i threw it out there. i was feverish. i was moody, and excitable and i had some sh!t i needed to say RIGHT NOW.

my personality, BTW, is full of sweet paradoxes. enjoy.

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by iqqi
weird writing? silly manboy (JK, don't get offended) i am woman. that means i am moody. most times i put disclaimers in my signature, but this is really a major part of my personality. read some of my previous threads that i started and you will see.

i will say that i was feverishly and recklessly typing this. i never use uppercase letters and i didn't even reread the post before i threw it out there. i was feverish. i was moody, and excitable and i had some sh!t i needed to say RIGHT NOW.

my personality, BTW, is full of sweet paradoxes. enjoy.

OK, I've read it now. I agree with you iqqi that all women should not fall into dumb categories and that relationships are there to enrich people's lives, the world as our house sounds too much like that B-movie life as a house so I will pretend I did not read that. Anyway... I personally think that the most attractive women are the ones who can contribute to the relationship and not just sit around follow her "gender" roles. I like my intelligent independent women, however, any girl who starts talking that weird (not content - way you form your sentences) will have me turned off REAL quickly. Your personality is full of paradoxes? Elaborate...

 

[TesuqueRed]

Attaway, Jake...

I got tired trying to same the same thing awhile ago and largely gave up the effort...good to see someone else having said it..

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by MVPlaya
any girl who starts talking that weird (not content - way you form your sentences) will have me turned off REAL quickly.

hahahaha, people used to call me weird and strange back in my schooldaze.

i am a poet, and after i have been very introspective and moody and writing, i tend to speak and write and think...differently than what MOST are used to.

tesque, what were you referring to?

 

[iqqi]

cliff's notes

Originally posted by iqqi
when i get into many of the great debate posts here, there seems to be a prevalent idea of what a relationship is. it always seems to go along the lines of what role a man plays (i dunno, hero, protector, hunter, blah blah blah) and the role the woman plays (nurturer, mother, cooker, pvssy-provider, blah blah blahzy blah).

too many posts depict role for male and females.

there seems to be a timeline for these relationships also. man chase woman. woman run. man catch woman hit her over the head with kino-club or c+f club, carry her back to cave. relationship stagnates, kids trap man and woman together in a cage called marriage or hell. man and woman live unhappily ever after. all chronicalled in sitcom called "married...with children".

there is also a timeline for these relationships. man chase women...wait! dammit, i can't better say THAT than what i already did!

aw hell. they are all described as ending up purposeless and miserable. that is because the purpose in the beginning was sh!t!!! what did they expect!

often times i feel a range of emotions reading these posts. disagreement. frustration. anger. hopelessness.

i usually realize that this is how most are! most people have either settled for just that, or have given up on LTRs all together in the pursuit of pure sexual gratification only or bitterness, usually both. and it is easy to get caught up in this path everyone else is walking, hell it is the oldest tragedy in the book, getting lost in the crowd, the herd, so you just go with the flow.

this means that most people think that that is how it is! that there are roles, and a basic outline (ending in misery) for all relationships. they settle for this.

well dammit, i do not want to walk that path! so i am here to tell you what i, iqqimus, envison for my life.

i will not settle! and neither should you!

i feel like life is a journey. an adventure. take what you can, take what you will, give what you want and what you have.

i want to see the world, and become part of it. i want to immerse myself in life, losing myself in it and becoming one with it. that is immortality.

you get this i hope


now that i have ranted about what i don't want, this is what i want:

love fits into this idea i am presenting here in the form of a companion. i often feel so happy and excited with what i am seeing and discovering, and i want to share these secrets with someone. (as well as other things such as my body hee hee.) for the sake of discussion i will call him companion.

now i definately havetraits i look for in a companion, as does anyone. but they are more geared towards the journey or adventure i want for my life, instead of some stagnant pool of nothingness most relationships drown in. so forget the does he make enough to support my french nail manicure habit trait. i want to know if he can pick up and go at a moments notice! can he take a week off or a weekend, to just go out into the world?

and i don't want to get married and live in a house encaged in a white picket fence. i want to get married as a symbol of our unity, and have the world be our house!

i want a companion, an equal, to accompany me on this path. not a provider. i too provide! i too protect! i too hunt! i too want to be nurtured. i too want to be whatever the hell else a woman is supposed to do for the man.

i want worlds (see pooks post) to collide, and roles to merge.

dammit.

dammit.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Re: cliff's notes

Originally posted by iqqi
i will not settle!

It's easy to talk the talk.

 

[Rahul]

Originally posted by iqqi
i feel like life is a journey. an adventure. take what you can, take what you will, give what you want and what you have.

i want to see the world, and become part of it. i want to immerse myself in life, losing myself in it and becoming one with it. that is immortality.

love fits into this idea i am presenting here in the form of a companion. i often feel so happy and excited with what i am seeing and discovering, and i want to share these secrets with someone. (as well as other things such as my body hee hee.) for the sake of discussion i will call him companion.

...

i want a companion, an equal, to accompany me on this path. not a provider. i too provide! i too protect! i too hunt! i too want to be nurtured. i too want to be whatever the hell else a woman is supposed to do for the man.

i want worlds (see pooks post) to collide, and roles to merge.

dammit.

I just want to get my nut off.

But that's probably because I'm a guy.

Good luck finding someone that wants what you want. If any guy has a sappy @ssed perspective like yours, I can guarrantee you that he will be a p*ssy and you wont be attracted to him at all.

Your false expectations are the result of watching too many chick flicks and too many harlequin romance novels.