I think I just got dumped

[Vlad the Impaler]

I've been seeing this girl for a month every weekend. She stayed over last Friday. Then on Sunday I texted her to hang out again. Then later she tried to call me because she did want to hang out again. I was sleeping when she tried to call me and I never called her back. I told her I was sleeping when she called.

So I called her yesterday and told her to come over tonight. She drove 45 minutes and came inside to tell me that she is "p!ssed" I ignored her call last week, and she "doesn't like to be ignored". I explained to her I didn't ignore her I was sleeping.

Then she said "you didn't even say sorry". Why should I say sorry?

Then she said "well if you are going to ignore me whats the point?" And she left. I basically just shrugged my shoulders and didn't try to stop her. Did I play this right?

 

[Mr Autobahn]

If you weren't being rude... then I would suggest you don't get drawn into her hysterics. Sometimes women do the strangest things that CANNOT be understood...

So don't even try.

And be calm... she will call you back and apologize for her behavior or she won't...

But if you call her back and become all wishy washy... guess what? She definitely WILL break up with you because you are no longer a man.

 

[AKA FLEX]

What did the barber say? "NEXT!"

High-maintenance chicks like that are a no-win situation. Either they stay pissed at you because you don't pay them enough attention, or you do pay them enough attention and they walk all over you.

Write this one off to experience. Women are like trolley cars - there's plenty of them in the sea.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I guess I played it correctly then, and just let her leave. I wasn't going to apologize because I did nothing wrong. And I wasn't going to try and convince her to stay.

The mistake I made was contacting her to hang out twice in the same weekend.

Now I am just debating whether or not to delete her from my phone.

 

[Bloke]

She left all huffy & puffy & didn't actually say she wanted to break up... she just hinted at it for attention so you'll come crawling back.

Break up with her right now.

She's a wanker.

 

[Bloke]

Or alternatively... You could live up to username.

You just might be wanted for a number of crimes.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Or alternatively... You could live up to username.

You just might be wanted for a number of crimes.

I did live up to my username because I impaled her on my stake many times.

 

[Bloke]

LOL.

That was soooooo coming.

 

[Black suit]

Ha ha. I like your style. Do nothing, and get a few more girls.

 

[[S]alvatore]

Then she said "well if you are going to ignore me whats the point?" And she left. I basically just shrugged my shoulders and didn't try to stop her. Did I play this right?

Yes you played it right. You gave her a valid explanation as to why you didn't answer the phone, she thought it was unacceptable. Headcase for sure, move on to the next girl.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Alright, so it's up in the air whether this was a "dump" or not. So should I bother contacting this girl ever again?

If you weren't being rude... then I would suggest you don't get drawn into her hysterics. Sometimes women do the strangest things that CANNOT be understood...

I was rude because I sent her a text to hang out last Sunday and then I fell asleep. And when she responded to the text to hang out I never replied or answered my phone. I sent her another message a few hours later and told her I fell asleep.

She was extremely p!ssed it seems.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I've been seeing this girl for a month every weekend. ...

She drove 45 minutes and came inside to tell me that she is "p!ssed" I ignored her call last week, and she "doesn't like to be ignored". ...

...
Then she said "well if you are going to ignore me whats the point?"

Just in case anyone cares about what led to the situation. Kinda silly just to shrug it off when it's a situation you created (or at least supported) in the first place.

 

[K2000kidd]

If you genunely feel you were wrong than decide what you need to do
She expected you to be EAGERLY WAITING by your phone to get her text but you fell asleep instead kind of proving that you werent on pins and needles waiting to hear from her so this sounds like it bruised her ego

just a thought...

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Just in case anyone cares about what led to the situation. Kinda silly just to shrug it off when it's a situation you created (or at least supported) in the first place.

Well I was just in shock and wasn't sure what the right move was. So I just let her leave. What was I supposed to do, apologize and try and make her stay?

 

[penkitten]

She left all huffy & puffy & didn't actually say she wanted to break up... she just hinted at it for attention so you'll come crawling back.

Break up with her right now.

She's a wanker.

i agree, she needs time to stew in it and then blow it off.
when a young gal is very interested, trying to figure out why you didn't call her back can consume her for a moment. when you don't give her the attention she seeks, it makes her feel like you have the upperhand, and she resorted to trying to "put her foot down" to demand the attention. when it still wasn't given, she had to remove herself from the situation and she just needs time to stew in it.

she will be back and she will apologize for the behavior because she wants to keep you interested.

(there comes a point in each person's life when we find out that we can not get our way with others by trying to demand it, throw a fit or "put our foot down". however, even when we learn this, it doesn't always stop us from trying.)

if i were you, i would take the whole thing as a compliment that she is interested enough to let the things you do get in her head. (which is a place most guys really want to be - in a chick's head.)

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

when a young gal is very interested, trying to figure out why you didn't call her back can consume her for a moment.

Thanks for the input penkitten, but why do you think she's young? She is 36.

 

[K2000kidd]

you did do right thing
a woman who expects you to coddle her when she is mad
needs to realize the earth doesn't revolve around her
and i think your actions showed her EXACTLY that
now she's pissed

LET HER DEAL

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Thanks for the input penkitten, but why do you think she's young? She is 36.

Perhaps because you reinforced her actions as if she was a spoiled kid that always gets her way. You created the situation by making a standing meeting of the two of you getting together every weekend, she expected it. Then you blow off something which she deemed important (and expected) by just saying you were asleep. In her eyes you created a situation and didn't live up to your end of the bargain (if it could even be considered as a bargain).

Should you have apologized? Don't know, I don't know what (if anything) you want from this woman. You need to ask yourself whether your pride and ego is more important than this particular woman and whether or not you are willing to live with your choice whatever it may be.

 

[penkitten]

Thanks for the input penkitten, but why do you think she's young? She is 36.

omigod 36!!! i was expecting you to tell me she was 23 or younger....
it is ok, it isn't like she started a big old bag of drama , but now my advice changes a tad...because i thought she was acting passive-aggressive about it.

most other women i know, once we all started turning 30, we stopped caring so much about what others thought of us and started speaking our minds more often. this can be both a good thing and a bad thing at times. so there are times when it is an assertive move on our part, and then there are times when it really is the passive - aggressiveness coming out of us.

so keep that in mind, and decide for yourself if she is acting assertive or passive-aggressive about it.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Perhaps because you reinforced her actions as if she was a spoiled kid that always gets her way. You created the situation by making a standing meeting of the two of you getting together every weekend, she expected it. Then you blow off something which she deemed important (and expected) by just saying you were asleep. In her eyes you created a situation and didn't live up to your end of the bargain (if it could even be considered as a bargain).

Should you have apologized? Don't know, I don't know what (if anything) you want from this woman. You need to ask yourself whether your pride and ego is more important than this particular woman and whether or not you are willing to live with your choice whatever it may be.

I hate to sound like a jerk, but the only thing I want from this woman is sex. I don't see it going anywhere at all. Plus she started to p!ss me off because every time we went out she never offered to pay. Not even for a movie rental. And she probably makes twice what I make, but doesn't know that ofcourse.