Alright, this ex of mine is a special case. She's an old ex, my first "real" girlfriend from long ago. Long story short we broke up as I needed some time to live out my life and grow up a little bit. When I did grow up she lead me on to believe that we were getting back together, but screwed me over and left for another guy that she'd found comfort in while I was gone.
I was left heartbroken, angry, and unsure of what to do with myself. I hadn't been ever rejected quite like that. I didn't understand because this girl was obsessed with me and the time span I had "left" her was fairly short.
Now she's asking me to do this favor for her. It's really small to be honest. She wants me to go to these dance lessons for a ball that she might also want me to go to with her. I told her I didn't know if I could do that because this girl Mary I'm sorta with wouldn't like that idea. I told her that I didn't want to get ****ed over again doing a favor for someone who seriously doesn't deserve anything from me. She has stated that she wants me to go really bad because her boyfriend can't go and she needs somebody. This didn't sit well with me and I told her I wouldn't be second choice. She tried to explain that I was the one that she wanted to go with all along. Which is true to a point.. she did always ask me to go with her (this was planned out along time ago), but now I doubt that is true and feel slightly used.
We ended up really getting into talking about what happened. I confessed about how she'd screwed me over. I don't really mind if I came off as an AFC or wussy. She needed to know how badly she screwed me over and I could careless of what she thinks. I know that there is no way that her and I could be together again. I feel stupid for telling her those things, but it really doesn't matter like I said. Anyway, I told her that if she can give me a heartfelt apology and make me believe that she means it that I will promise to go with her to the dance lessons. The dance itself is a whole new story.
I'm just confused about how to play this whole thing off. This is the only girl I've ever had a soft spot for as she was really my first everything so long ago. A special bond exists that I haven't found since. I know I should just tell her no and next her. I can easily do that.. but what I'm really worried about is why haven't things come to a complete end with her as far as my feelings go? I still feel strongly about these issues and I don't understand why. The normal advice would be to next her, date other girls, and move on. Well I've done that. I've increased my game ten fold, improved myself drastically where I am nearing complete comfort and confidence in myself.. I'm truly a new man and improved. I AM the catch now and I totally believe that with all my heart. I'm getting some great girls as well. I'm happy with what I have. I just don't understand why I still feel depressed when I think about this girl? wtf?
I was left heartbroken, angry, and unsure of what to do with myself. I hadn't been ever rejected quite like that. I didn't understand because this girl was obsessed with me and the time span I had "left" her was fairly short.
Now she's asking me to do this favor for her. It's really small to be honest. She wants me to go to these dance lessons for a ball that she might also want me to go to with her. I told her I didn't know if I could do that because this girl Mary I'm sorta with wouldn't like that idea. I told her that I didn't want to get ****ed over again doing a favor for someone who seriously doesn't deserve anything from me. She has stated that she wants me to go really bad because her boyfriend can't go and she needs somebody. This didn't sit well with me and I told her I wouldn't be second choice. She tried to explain that I was the one that she wanted to go with all along. Which is true to a point.. she did always ask me to go with her (this was planned out along time ago), but now I doubt that is true and feel slightly used.
We ended up really getting into talking about what happened. I confessed about how she'd screwed me over. I don't really mind if I came off as an AFC or wussy. She needed to know how badly she screwed me over and I could careless of what she thinks. I know that there is no way that her and I could be together again. I feel stupid for telling her those things, but it really doesn't matter like I said. Anyway, I told her that if she can give me a heartfelt apology and make me believe that she means it that I will promise to go with her to the dance lessons. The dance itself is a whole new story.
I'm just confused about how to play this whole thing off. This is the only girl I've ever had a soft spot for as she was really my first everything so long ago. A special bond exists that I haven't found since. I know I should just tell her no and next her. I can easily do that.. but what I'm really worried about is why haven't things come to a complete end with her as far as my feelings go? I still feel strongly about these issues and I don't understand why. The normal advice would be to next her, date other girls, and move on. Well I've done that. I've increased my game ten fold, improved myself drastically where I am nearing complete comfort and confidence in myself.. I'm truly a new man and improved. I AM the catch now and I totally believe that with all my heart. I'm getting some great girls as well. I'm happy with what I have. I just don't understand why I still feel depressed when I think about this girl? wtf?
