I only find 1/100 women attractive

[ketostix]

But the same woman is a cold fish personality wise to one guy and totally different to another. The replies weren't way off. Some people are in denial about not being able to attract a given female and conclude it's so hard to meet the right one. The point is women are lumps on a log if you cant attract them.

 

[blue17]

Originally posted by ketostix
But the same woman is a cold fish personality wise to one guy and totally different to another.

Definitely. I'm sure we've all known girls who were b!tches to us but nice to a lot of other people. I bet a lot of us have also known girls that are b!tches to almost everyone but for some reason they happen treat you in a desireable way.

 

[DarkSideOfTheMind]

Yo wiggadude..

I can appreciate and understand your situation, I too am 25, and am leaving a six figure income that equires little work to go get my PhD so I can hopefully increase the chances. It seems that there is only very few that actually "give the spark" as you so aptly put it.

Basically it seems to be a problem for me in terms of my own standards for myself. I am intelligent, successful, attractive, etc....I want the same thing in a potential mate. The best suggestion I can give is to just have a good time while your waiting for those few that actually do turn your fancy, you never know who they might lead you to, like a girl at the bar you go to on a date or something....it doesn't matter the circumstances. It's rough. staright up.

 

[Boxer45]

Dude i feel you on that one, man dont lower your standards, thats one of the worst things u can do is lower them, before u know it you will be messing with fat girls. Obviously your attacted to a certain type of woman, so figure what that is and just go after that type. Try online dating, in that case u can type in exactly what type of woman, being white, black hispanic, ect.. and just go from there.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Yeah what kind of girls are you attracted to wiggadude? There has got to be a connection.

 

[AverageFC]

Question. Well 2

How does someone like myself who goes to a small college out of state with no car, actively involved in campus activities, meet more women when I've met most here?

Additionally, AFTER college, how do you meet women who are relationship-quality, considering women at the bar and the workplace are a bad idea?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by wiggadude
Out of curiosity, can you provide a summary of your relationship history throughout your life? Kinda like my summary at the beginning of this thread, just so everyone knows what you've tried, what worked, what didn't, etc. Thanks!

In college - I had my pickings of most women and many chased me - but I still didn't see many of them as attractive - I only pursued the 10 minuses or nothing at al!!

Once I started working in the corporate world my options sank to an abysmal low!!! Most chicks at work were old, or married or not attractive - pickings were so slim I started having illusions that ugly women were attractive - but reality would always win in the end and reason took over desperation! I find it difficult to be with a woman that I am not wholly physically attracted to!!

In the meantime I've been with some o.k. hos (if there is such a thing ) but lately the long term trend has been sustaining - women many years younger than me find in their favor but I have little patience for masculine hos and don't find many women attractive enough to initiate contact!!!

DEAR ABBY - PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

P.S. - all girls I approach have been less than 28 years old!!

 

[Consent]

Try going out more. Staying at home is not usually a good idea.

 

[JezDuffield]

I am exactly the same as you, I have only ever been sexually attracted to 4 ladies in my entire life and they have all been many years older than me.

Most of the guys that I know meet or see hanging around seem to be attracted to about 1 in every 6 girls or ladies of whom they see, but with me it is about 1 in 1000 and that is with ladies who are always alot older than me.

It isn't always to do with the woman's looks or physical appearance, but all 4 of these ladies have been about 7's and 8's as far as Hot Babes goes.

I am 18 and my girlfriend is an HB8 38 year old lady, I am never attracted to girls under 28 or over about 45, so I think it is stupid when I see an 18 year old guy with a HB10 14 or 15 year old girl, as they just don't appeal to me.

Even when it comes to the Hot Older Babes I am only ever attracted to the more refined classy elegant stylish and sophisticated woman who are highly educated and have great jobs.

Due to my extreme levels of fussyness I was still a virgin at the age of 17 but I refused to change anything until I was to eventually succeed by my obtaining of the 4th of these ladies whom I have now been with for one year.

Everyone seems to be against me for what I desire and fight to have but as long as I am happy then that is the main thing to me.

So many guys these days get into relationships with the first pretty girl that they meet as they are affraid that they will never find another girl who is as pretty as that to go out with them, it is far better to wait for your perfect dream woman to come along than to just take anyone, I had to pull my own penis and fu-ck an inflatable doll that my Grandma embarrassingly caught me doing it with in my bedroom one day in the years before my, Kendra, came along. :rock:

 

[blueguy]

My problem also. But there's a reason. I'm 5'6" and my personality type is compatible with like 1% as well. What does that put me at? Like 1/1000... and that's not even figuring whether I'm physically attracted to them or not.

 

[Krassus]

You're like me. You're only TRULY attracted to AMAZING women, because that's the quality of your spirit. Now, i had to rebuild my life from the ground up so that i would be amazing inside AND out. Now, i'm at a level where i DON'T get rejected by these women. Get cracking, brother This is the ONLY way. I don't know where you are in life, but if you're an average guy, you're NOT gonna get and KEEP amazing women by spitting a few clever lines from Mystery Method, because life is FAIR. If you want AMAZING things, you have two choices: 1) Put in an AMAZING amount of effort [into yourself] 2) Die unfulfilled. Choose.

 

[BBX]

I know someone like this to, pickiest motherf*cker on earth. Go after the ones that you finda sorta cute and the more you know them the more attracted you'll become.

 

[missmetal]

I'm an occasionally lurking female and have the same problem (with men). It's not really that you're picky. There are a lot of good women (and men, in my case) around, but most of them are in long-term relationships, and, when you find out someone's in one, you generally don't even consider them. Nor is it that you're less picky than most people on this board: it'll take someone special before most people here will "settle down". In the meantime, though, many of them will quite happily settle for "less". It's just that they enjoy "less" more than you do.

How does one get more out of "less"? Three ideas I've had:

1. Act quickly. I've met some men I've felt an instant mutual affinity with, but, if I bother to talk to them for a few hours, it usually goes away. Now I kiss them first (providing the context is suitable), chat second and bid them farewell if and when the magic wears off. It's not a solution, but it makes life slightly more fun.

2. Scenario: Someone you like, but have no particular chemistry with, asks you on a date. Do you agree?

Of course! Ok, it probably won't go anywhere, but it'll be a bit of a change and a bit of a challenge. No harm done and you never know what might come of it.

So, if you wouldn't say no to them, you should ask them out yourself. Yes?

3. Being more "peoply" and random seems to help. Until recently, I was only attracted to men with certain features and interests, but I started socialising outside my normal circles, going to different places and agreeing to weird suggestions, and all of them made me more attracted to men I wouldn't have previously considered.

As to grad school, it hasn't worked for me in that regard thus far, but it is good for meeting intelligent easy-to-talk-to people, and half the people in my department seem to be going out with each other so there might be something in it...

 

[realsmoothie]

Just throwing this in there, maybe a little late.

I've always been picky, too. But now I know that a lot of that pickyness is just me using it as an excuse not to approach more women.

Possibility? I really doubt that you only find ONE out of ONE HUNDRED women attractive.

You're telling me that you're standing on the street and 100 women go by. You only want to fuk ONE of them.

 

[Ian19]

I used to find 1 out of every 100 attractive...when I was younger. Now, in my older years, I find that about 98 out of 100 are attractive. After years of not getting exactly what I wanted, I'm pretty much attracted to all women provided they're not really ugly. My standards have been greatly reduced.

 

[DJ_in_making]

I only find 1/100 women attractive

huh?!?!?!

 

[jack knife]

Haven't read any of the other posts.

My input: meet more women.

 

[d9930380]

Yea I'm like that as well and yes I do fear rejection. But I'm also the guy who acts like a DJ around "other" girls because I honestly don't find them attractive, girls that my friends think are attractive even stunning - I like short girls. Even to the point where I have a hard time getting wood when I "pull" them - "pull" is me going, it's been a while, I may as well.

I think it's because TV has made my "standards" too high - I judge girls and compare them to girls I find hot on TV and movies. So this might happen to guys who watch too much TV. Some of my friends would shag anything, they don't watch TV.

The only advice I can offer is maybe cut out the TV/porn/lads magazines. Try to get more grounded in reality and start trying to fantasise about less hot girls, at the end of the day you have taught your brain to desire something. You can teach it to desire something else. Remember fat girls used to be ideal bodysize for a women a couple of hundred years ago.

 

[I hate Hyori Lee]

start trying to fantasise about less hot girls, at the end of the day you have taught your brain to desire something.

This is like the worst thing I've ever read here...No guys should ever be with a woman he doesn't truly want(likewise for women)...but trying to fantasize about something you're not attracted to is just madness.

Just go for what you want. If for whatever reasons you can't get it (because you're not good looking enough or whatever) then it's not the end of the world and at least you tried. Being with a girl you don't feel much for won't make you more happy.

You can teach it to desire something else. Remember fat girls used to be ideal bodysize for a women a couple of hundred years ago.

Myth perpetuated by some unattractive feminist.

(Fat) aristocrate - the only people that had access to professional painters = ideal bodysize hundred of years ago! omg

 

[vorbis]

d9930380 is right about that. In the Victorian era, a fuller figure (almost what we'd call fat) was considered the most attractive.