dalynxx said:OMG...ok here is a pic of me from behind on my twitter. I don't do face pix online I'm afraid....
http://twitter.com/ladylynxx
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dalynxx said:OMG...ok here is a pic of me from behind on my twitter. I don't do face pix online I'm afraid....
http://twitter.com/ladylynxx
You guys are thirsty....
Site says "We are taking a short break."dalynxx said:To those that are interested, I am actually a self-published author and I post on a number of other sites (writing blogs mostly) and I also started a website to showcase some of my work. It's in my profile. Anyway, I am happy to talk to those who don't think I'm a troll. Geesh....
This is a woman writing this. She's going straight through the female process of how a woman who's considering her future really feels about money...security for her offspring. The second sentence is how a woman "thinks" that's what she's supposed to "think" but there's a lot more to how she feels than "worth his salt". Asking her to expand on that is more productive to get to the heart of how she really feels inside about that and she'll understand herself more in the process:dalynxx said:To alot of women money just = security. I for one only care that the man of my dreams make a decent salary (i.e. can provide for me and our babies when I take maternity leave etc) and is willing to actually work! No one likes a lazy man, in fact I find it to be a turn off. I would also want to date someone that earns simliar wage or more than me, cos I think a man should be able to pay for dates etc, and of course I will offer to pay sometimes, but most men worth their salt won't accept of if they do it is rare
Yeah,I noticed that number 6 too.zekko said:See, I'm not so sure about this one. I haven't quite made up my mind about compliments yet. I know that girls ENJOY getting compliments, but the question is do they spark ATTRACTION?
dalynxx said:it really makes my day...
Melanie is very beautiful, every man desires her, the other day a man phoned her to reveal that she is the most beautiful girl he has ever seen, you better believe it, it didn't spark attraction, it exploded it like lava out of a volcano, woman want to be beautiful even if 99% of the men already think it.zekko said:See, I'm not so sure about this one. I haven't quite made up my mind about compliments yet. I know that girls ENJOY getting compliments, but the question is do they spark ATTRACTION? If I guy gives you a compliment, does it just make you feel good about yourself or does it make you want to go out with him? I'm not so sure about the latter.
Here here! I am all for chicks' opinions, but when every guy should know that you judge her actions, not what she says how does a Q and A session help?Energizer said:Igetit is spot on again, why listen to a bird's advice when you can listen to someone who knows women inside out? This bird should go back to Loveshack and stop posting nonsense that is designed to manipulate alpha males into being beta males or males with the word "loser" stamped on their forehead.
It helps quite a lot when you don't just take the surface answer and go with it. Women in general actually aren't quite sure at all why they feel about things they way they do. If you want to get enlightened, read up on eliciting values.hansol said:Here here! I am all for chicks' opinions, but when every guy should know that you judge her actions, not what she says how does a Q and A session help?
The only time this has been helpful with me has been when I am interrogating my sister. There is no attraction, so the dialogue can work. Any other times I have had conversations with chicks, you have to get the magnifying glass out and read between the lines. Mostly it is just a chance for them to feed their egos.
It's a tool, just like anything else, but it sure as hell isn't the holy grail. Igetit! voiced what many of us already know.
Convenient.dalynxx said:OMG...ok here is a pic of me from behind on my twitter. I don't do face pix online I'm afraid....
etcThatMysteriousGuy said:It helps quite a lot when you... blah blah blah ...actually get any really useful information.
That sounds like a good tip, I'm going to have to remember that. I'm still not necessarily convinced that your phrasing really makes all that much difference as far as results, but I have to admit it's an improvement and definitely worth a try. At least it gets you in there somewhere instead of making it all about her.My compliments are more like,"I LIKE the way you look in this ot that".
It's "I like", not "You're hot or You're beautiul".
That way it's more about what I'm pleased with,letting her know that she's met MY STANDARDS of attractiveness.
Hey Mysterious - thank you so much for your support and for being a gentleman. I applaud your openmindedness and you did really read my post in detail. I really appreciate your advice for me too and I will try to ignore all the naysayers in here. To answer your question:ThatMysteriousGuy said:Cripes, negative attitudes and automatically assuming someone is up to no good without any evidence at all.
As I mentioned in another post, I have a lot of real female friends where we always treat each other with mutual respect and enjoy each other's company. I like to do what I call an "information exchange" where I'll give her a completely honest answer, (even if it could be embarrassing!) to a girl question as long as she will do the same. They're aware that I do this a lot so if I get a wildly different answer I'll probe some more to see if she's just very different, embarrassed I'll think she's a weirdo, or trying to bullshait about something...even to herself.
Everything she's written goes right along with how a woman goes through her emotional reasoning when trying to describe it VS how men go mainly through a logical process.
Example:
This is a woman writing this. She's going straight through the female process of how a woman who's considering her future really feels about money...security for her offspring. The second sentence is how a woman "thinks" that's what she's supposed to "think" but there's a lot more to how she feels than "worth his salt". Asking her to expand on that is more productive to get to the heart of how she really feels inside about that and she'll understand herself more in the process:
Question for dalynxx:
Imagine a time when you've been feeling strong excitement about a man paying for a date or you knew he was going to, (he offered, whatever) and your feelings inside at those moments. Ok, now that you're having those feelings again: Describe the feelings you are experiencing.
dalynxx, If you could also do the same things but close your eyes and feel what you felt when you realized the man either expected to split the bill or, worse, expected for YOU to pay for the date. Try to visualize both of these situations as well as you can with your eyes closed. This second question is actually more important. The negative feelings you were having are much more important in learning why and what types of things impact women strongly in a bad way.
PS: I'd like to add that from what I've read so far, dalynxx is overall more in touch with her own motivations than the majority of females I know of and she'll be a great asset if she doesn't get harassed and sidetracked into wasting her post limit trying to prove something she can't and ends up on the defensive. Concentrating on what you want to do here would be very appreciated and will give a lot of insight to those who really want to learn how to improve their relationships with women.
Thanks in advance
Igetit! said:Yeah,I noticed that number 6 too.
I agreed with just about everything she said EXCEPT #6 AND 7.
This kissing of the hand seems more like HollyWood than in real life.
dalynxx says:Yes it does, but the point is to get the lady's attention. It also shows a confident man. Try it and see if the girl does not get all gooey eyed when you give eye contact. It makes a woman feel special and if you can make a woman feel special she can be attracted to you. Just make sure that you actually do have the confidence to back it up!
And as far as number 6,well what did we expect her to say?
Of course she's going to say yes to men complimenting women....BUT in answering the questions,she unknowingly revealed a flaw in her response,which will prove my point.
If you just sit back and let someone talk,they'll reveal their true selves.
Zekko,you asked if complimenting a woman creates attraction in her.
The answer it both yes and no.
The difference is HOW you compliment her,and I'll use our new member's answer to number six to show you the difference:
She said that people have told her that she looks like Naomi Campbell.
Well that's a nice compliment,right? But let's be honest here.
When we (men) compliment a woman,it's because we're attracted/interested in her. We'd like to date her.
We want her to be interested/attracted to us. So we'll give her a compliment.
We give the compliment as a way to make her ATTRACTED to us.
Well what did the OP say happens to her when she gets the compliment of looking like Naomi Campbell?
She said...
In other words,it boost her EGO. It makes her feel good....NOT attracted to the guy.
It makes her day. That's NOT OUR GOAL.
Our goal is to get the date. If you compliment her the wrong way,sure,she might get a "pep" in her step,and say "thank you" as she's walking away,but what's that to you?
Please do not refer to me as a "bird". It's just rude and in fact rather vulgar. There is no need to reduce yourself to common derogatory names when just trying to have stimulating conversation. A tip for you would be to actually refer to a lady as lady, woman, girl or simply female.Energizer said:Igetit is spot on again, why listen to a bird's advice when you can listen to someone who knows women inside out? This bird should go back to Loveshack and stop posting nonsense that is designed to manipulate alpha males into being beta males or males with the word "loser" stamped on their forehead.
You are 21. It figures so I don't need to respond to this really.Blood Angel said:Convenient.
When I was like 16, I pretended to be a girl on a couple of forums just to see what would happen. This person's either a guy or the biggest attention ***** ever.
Dear Zekko, at the underlined, it simply isn't true. A lot of men are intimidated by striking beauty and will not compliment a pretty lady becuase they think she hears it all the time! We don't! Seriously - why do you think you see these pretty women with less than attractive partners? Becuase he actually took the time to take an interest in her, compliment her and make her feel special. Women are all about emotions at the end of the day and if you can make a woman feel special and secure, you're in!zekko said:That sounds like a good tip, I'm going to have to remember that. I'm still not necessarily convinced that your phrasing really makes all that much difference as far as results, but I have to admit it's an improvement and definitely worth a try. At least it gets you in there somewhere instead of making it all about her.
I forgot to bring up before that compliments probably work better on less attractive women. Because they probably think "oh, here's a guy that likes me, my ship has finally come in". The more attractive women probably aren't phased by compliments because they feel they are entitled to them.
Do you have any thoughts on the idea that it is better to compliment a woman on something OTHER than her looks? It's kind of dumb when you think about it. As we know here, a woman's value is mostly affected by her looks. So if you compliment her looks, you're directly inferring she has high value. Yet some say women don't want to hear this, they want to hear something about their MIND or whatever, which doesn't really have a great effect on her value. It doesn't make a lot of sense really.
and to catch a thief, you need to think like a thief (or at least understand their thought process).SharinganUser said:You don't learn to hunt from a deer. You learn from other hunters.
We tend to think it's more that they had the guts to approach rather than that they give compliments. But I'll accept your answer for what it is.Dear Zekko, at the underlined, it simply isn't true. A lot of men are intimidated by striking beauty and will not compliment a pretty lady becuase they think she hears it all the time! We don't! Seriously - why do you think you see these pretty women with less than attractive partners? Becuase he actually took the time to take an interest in her, compliment her and make her feel special.
dalynxx said:and to catch a thief, you need to think like a thief (or at least understand their thought process).
I call this Touché to your point.
Right in what sense? Right, as in what a woman will usually say? Right as in what you think is correct? Or what?HaremMasterThomas said:I'm affraid you are the TROLL, the questions were definately answered by a female and the feedback was right. :nono: