I just cannot stop procrastinating going after the women I really want

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Maybe your genes are not meant to procreate. You got pornhub. Maybe that is all you aspire for in this life. Your biology doesn't know the difference even if you consciously are aware that you are not living up to your potential.

JPB offered his future authoring suite FREE. With respect to "inner game," its probably one of the best things anybody could have ever did. Even if it is not currently free atm, just buy the damn ****ing thing, and use it.

It basically sets a conceptual framework for your ideal future. Then, it hits you with the sort of future you do not want, and sets enough pain from said experience in order to take action. Think, gun to the ****ing head. Could you go get babes now? Be delusional about it. You got a ****ing gun to the head. You have a semi loaded pistol between your legs. A woman is hot. Go smash. If you need any more inspiration, you might be gay lol

 

[sosousage]

and I feel like my life is passing me by. It's so goddamn frustrating.

No matter how much I improve myself, I never feel like it's enough. To give you guys an example of what I'm talking about - I'm right now about 5'10 195 @ maybe 14% bodyfat. I'm in the process of getting to about 5'10 185 lbs @ 9% body fat (which is generally considered just about the perfect beach body with enough bulk to be masculine but still be lean and aesthetic like a model). I'm also about to get a hair transplant done in 2 months - I have 2 areas in the crown that's patchy and slight recession in the front temples (overall it's still very dense to where most people can't notice it) - I'm going to one of the best surgeons in the country to make my hair hopefully look totally perfect. I have black wavy hair.

I'm fighting myself to not wait until those 2 things are done before I start trying to get the women I want. This has been my life in a nutshell - I obsessively push myself harder and harder and harder and harder in my pursuit of perfection to hopefully feel like I'm good enough to get attractive/quality women and I never get there. I just want to keep procrastinating and procrastinating. It's some kind of extreme love anxiety. I feel like i have to be insanely, unbelievably, impossibly perfect for a quality woman to like me.

8 years ago, I thought I had to be good looking, super well dressed, awesome shape, have a gorgeous luxury car, a big house by myself, make 150K, have an amazing lifestyle, a great social circle in order to get girls. Well I got to everything on that list and it's still not enough. Now, I constantly put new barriers to my success with women (I feel like I have to accomplish new XYZ to be good enough). It's just never enough - I can't stop feeling like dating is
hopeless.

Somebody please smack some sense into me

well you are not even good looking from face, fyi. thank me later

 

[zekko]

my problem now is I feel like dating is completely hopeless and no very high quality woman will like me because their standards are so impossible

I've already demonstrated that women don't have impossible standards, far from it.

I have nothing but confidence in myself to do very well in a relationship

How can you have nothing but confidence in yourself, when you think women have impossible standards that you can't live up to? You're full of contradictions.

 

[guru1000]

You need to undertake conscious directives. This is the most powerful, yet rudimentary, concept one can take.

1) Grab a piece of paper;
2) Write down a specific action you will take each day;
3) You must commit to that action--else pay a punishment. My punishment is to donate $100 each day I fail to act on the conscious directive.

Take baby steps so you don't fail too often. For the first week, you might say "Hello," to one hot girl per day. The second week, you might say "Hello" to two hot girls per day. The third week, you might say "Hello," and start a convo with one hot girl. Etc.

This, again, is the single most powerful action one can take. In time and through repetition, the conscious directives become unconsciously woven into your persona, and consequently, you construct a new YOU.

 

[MrWood]

and you're able to attract very high quality attractive women with decent jobs and good personalities?


If you're having sex with single moms, overweight women, etc... I don't consider that a success

yes

neither do I

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I have none of this and am very happy in my life and my women
LMS is not what gets you success, in life or with women

THIS. Finally someone speaking sense.

If looks, money and status was everything, why do you regularly see poor but physically chiselled guys doing well with cute women? Why are there so many angry frustrated rich men (even on this board) who can't score with women but get enraged when they see "lower status" men doing well?

And why do some rich, ripped guys still f*ck up their relationships and get rejected all the time?

LMS is a useful facade, but at the end of the day still a facade. Financial or business success does not translate into success with women or even success as a person beyond doing well at a job. Yes, having a good work ethic is admirable, but that's all it is.

Amante also had a good post in his OLD dating thread describing how he attracts different types of women as his social status increases, but doesn't necessarily become more or less attractive objectively. Your LMS mostly dictates what "tier" you are on with regards to the kind of women you usually attract. If you're educated, for example, you're going to get on better with intelligent women with good careers, and so that tier is "unlocked" for you and more higher quality women will be interested ON AVERAGE.

But no matter your LMS, you still need game and personality to get those girls, the exact same talents you'd need if you were a burly mechanic trying to chat up a blue collar worker female visiting your car shop.

 

[elunium]

All you do is in search for an external answer. You want the answer to be in your gorgeously luxury car, your big house, your hair, this forum thread and the list goes on.

But, to me, the answer is clear. The answer is within yourself. How are you supposed to find it ? i have no ****ing idea, but once you mastered the external, like you did, its now time to master the internal.