I just cannot stop procrastinating going after the women I really want

[bigdave17]

and I feel like my life is passing me by. It's so goddamn frustrating.

No matter how much I improve myself, I never feel like it's enough. To give you guys an example of what I'm talking about - I'm right now about 5'10 195 @ maybe 14% bodyfat. I'm in the process of getting to about 5'10 185 lbs @ 9% body fat (which is generally considered just about the perfect beach body with enough bulk to be masculine but still be lean and aesthetic like a model). I'm also about to get a hair transplant done in 2 months - I have 2 areas in the crown that's patchy and slight recession in the front temples (overall it's still very dense to where most people can't notice it) - I'm going to one of the best surgeons in the country to make my hair hopefully look totally perfect. I have black wavy hair.

I'm fighting myself to not wait until those 2 things are done before I start trying to get the women I want. This has been my life in a nutshell - I obsessively push myself harder and harder and harder and harder in my pursuit of perfection to hopefully feel like I'm good enough to get attractive/quality women and I never get there. I just want to keep procrastinating and procrastinating. It's some kind of extreme love anxiety. I feel like i have to be insanely, unbelievably, impossibly perfect for a quality woman to like me.

8 years ago, I thought I had to be good looking, super well dressed, awesome shape, have a gorgeous luxury car, a big house by myself, make 150K, have an amazing lifestyle, a great social circle in order to get girls. Well I got to everything on that list and it's still not enough. Now, I constantly put new barriers to my success with women (I feel like I have to accomplish new XYZ to be good enough). It's just never enough - I can't stop feeling like dating is hopeless.

Somebody please smack some sense into me

 

[btownbuck2012]

What do you want people to say that hasn’t already been said?

 

[bigdave17]

What do you want people to say that hasn’t already been said?

I don't know

I'm just beyond insanely frustrated. I look at a hot girl at a gym or a store and all I see is huge barriers in the way

 

[Trump]

You really only have 2 choices:

1. Get used to approaching women, even if it's frustrating. Fail. Fvck up. Figure it out until you succeed, or....

2. Get used to being frustrated, lonely and writing threads on SS every week about how you can't approach women.

No matter what anyone says at this point moving forward, it's going to have to be one or the other. Pick your poison.

He's joking around trolling every time. You guys seriously don't see it? Maybe I'm the sucker.

 

[captain55]

Women don’t know where you live or really see what car you drive. A nice watch, stylish clothes, physique, cool friends, being popular, and game will go a lot further.....I am talking to multiple 8’s and 9’s right now and I live with my parents. I drive a 20k car nothing special. I give off the appeaeance if being wealthy by the way I talk and dress.

In most cases by the time a girl realizes I don’t have my life together and am full of **** I already banged her and she’s fallen for me. Women act on emotions...if you **** her right shes yours.

 

[bigdave17]

Women don’t know where you live or really see what car you drive. A nice watch, stylish clothes, physique, cool friends, being popular, and game will go a lot further.....I am talking to multiple 8’s and 9’s right now and I live with my parents. I drive a 20k car nothing special. I give off the appeaeance if being wealthy by the way I talk and dress.

In most cases by the time a girl realizes I don’t have my life together and am full of **** I already banged her and she’s fallen for me. Women act on emotions...if you **** her right shes yours.

bro I have everything

I have a nice watch, stylish clothes, physique, etc... AND 70K car AND big house... but I still feel it's not enough. I feel that women will not like me unless I improve myself to a level of perfection that's not even humanly impossible.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

bro I have everything

I have a nice watch, stylish clothes, physique, etc... AND 70K car AND big house... but I still feel it's not enough. I feel that women will not like me unless I improve myself to a level of perfection that's not even humanly impossible.

If I'm making twice as much as you in 3 years...

I will still remember all the time I spent homeless sleeping behind dumpsters, I will still remember the time I broke my neck and back and spent a good portion of the 17th and 18th year of my life recovering from a spinal cord injury (that I will never be fully recovered from), and I'll still remember getting through those 4 miserable years of incarceration like it was nothing. And I will be more proud of all of that than of flipping some stupid houses.

Or maybe 50/50.

Unless I start flipping hotels, then that will be cool.

 

[zekko]

No matter how much I improve myself, I never feel like it's enough.

Far be it from me to criticize your procrastinating, since I am guilty of that myself.

But this idea that you have to improve yourself to insane levels to attract women, you've got to drop that. I mean, have you seen some of the worthless dirtbags some women date? I know a guy who has no job, he's bald and fat, and leeches off this woman (who isn't bad looking) - she pays all the bills and often talks about kicking him out of the house, but won't do it because she "loves him". I know another woman (who isn't bad looking), has a good professional job, and has had a series of husbands who did not work, were alcoholics, and drug addicts. She's the type of woman they call a "caretaker" - some women have a thing for damaged men.

These guys have huge flaws, but the women stick with them because they have built up an emotional attachment to them.
Besides, you cannot make yourself so perfect that you will never experience rejection. As Pook said, "Perfection is boring".

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Far be it from me to criticize your procrastinating, since I am guilty of that myself.

But this idea that you have to improve yourself to insane levels to attract women, you've got to drop that. I mean, have you seen some of the worthless dirtbags some women date? I know a guy who has no job, he's bald and fat, and leeches off this woman (who isn't bad looking) - she pays all the bills and often talks about kicking him out of the house, but won't do it because she "loves him". I know another woman (who isn't bad looking), has a good professional job, and has had a series of husbands who did not work, were alcoholics, and drug addicts. She's the type of woman they call a "caretaker" - some women have a thing for damaged men.

These guys have huge flaws, but the women stick with them because they have built up an emotional attachment to them.
Besides, you cannot make yourself so perfect that you will never experience rejection. As Pook said, "Perfection is boring".

I'll bet those "worthless dirtbags" know how to fight.

 

[zekko]

I'll bet those "worthless dirtbags" know how to fight.

Nope.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Nope.

Well Idk then.

Can't wait to buy my Lambo. I have an appraiser coming for the HELOC in about 8 hours.

Now I can get drunk at Hooters and leave my Lambo in the parking lot as I Uber home. Vandalism is covered under my insurance.

 

[bigdave17]

Far be it from me to criticize your procrastinating, since I am guilty of that myself.

But this idea that you have to improve yourself to insane levels to attract women, you've got to drop that. I mean, have you seen some of the worthless dirtbags some women date? I know a guy who has no job, he's bald and fat, and leeches off this woman (who isn't bad looking) - she pays all the bills and often talks about kicking him out of the house, but won't do it because she "loves him". I know another woman (who isn't bad looking), has a good professional job, and has had a series of husbands who did not work, were alcoholics, and drug addicts. She's the type of woman they call a "caretaker" - some women have a thing for damaged men.

These guys have huge flaws, but the women stick with them because they have built up an emotional attachment to them.
Besides, you cannot make yourself so perfect that you will never experience rejection. As Pook said, "Perfection is boring".

but I already am improved to insane levels. Any woman living with me for example will have zero bills - I pay for absolutely everything


why can't I appreciate how far I've gone and feel very confident that any woman I see will like me?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

but I already am improved to insane levels. Any woman living with me for example will have zero bills - I pay for absolutely everything


why can't I appreciate how far I've gone and feel very confident that any woman I see will like me?

I don't think any of us can know you personally enough to answer that. We could take guesses based on the brief time you've been on here, but only you can answer that. Which I know is a frustrating thing to hear.

 

[zekko]

but I already am improved to insane levels. Any woman living with me for example will have zero bills - I pay for absolutely everything

why can't I appreciate how far I've gone and feel very confident that any woman I see will like me?

There's part of your problem right there. I don't care who you are, there isn't a man who exists who can attract every woman they see.
Women's tastes are too individualized - like the women I talked about who want damaged men. That's why some PUA gurus talk about losing your ego. It doesn't matter how "improved to insane levels" you are. As a male, you still have to go through the process of putting yourself out there and risking rejection. You're not a special snowflake who can avoid the process. You can't guarantee you're going to succeed with every woman you want, you just can't. So you have to take your chances and jump on opportunities, or better yet make your own opportunities. That's why they call it a numbers game.

That said, nothing I say is going to make any difference. You've built up this mental block in your head, and you're the only one who can get it out.

 

[MrWood]

I thought I had to be good looking, super well dressed, awesome shape, have a gorgeous luxury car, a big house by myself, make 150K, have an amazing lifestyle, a great social circle in order to get girls. Well I got to everything on that list and it's still not enough.

I have none of this and am very happy in my life and my women
LMS is not what gets you success, in life or with women

 

[bigdave17]

There's part of your problem right there. I don't care who you are, there isn't a man who exists who can attract every woman they see.
Women's tastes are too individualized - like the women I talked about who want damaged men. That's why some PUA gurus talk about losing your ego. It doesn't matter how "improved to insane levels" you are. As a male, you still have to go through the process of putting yourself out there and risking rejection. You're not a special snowflake who can avoid the process. You can't guarantee you're going to succeed with every woman you want, you just can't. So you have to take your chances and jump on opportunities, or better yet make your own opportunities. That's why they call it a numbers game.

That said, nothing I say is going to make any difference. You've built up this mental block in your head, and you're the only one who can get it out.

I don't need to be able to attract every single woman I see. I'm ok with the idea that some girls will like me and some will not

my problem now is I feel like dating is completely hopeless and no very high quality woman will like me because their standards are so impossible

 

[bigdave17]

I have none of this and am very happy in my life and my women
LMS is not what gets you success, in life or with women

and you're able to attract very high quality attractive women with decent jobs and good personalities?


If you're having sex with single moms, overweight women, etc... I don't consider that a success

 

[derby1]

If you're having sex with single moms, overweight women, etc... I don't consider that a success

your not having sex/meeting with anyone though, this is why ive told you a million times troll or no troll,
When you meet this woman of your dreams Corey wayne states comes every 4 years( I agree) with that belief btw

you will ROYALY FCK IT UP

 

[bigdave17]

your not having sex/meeting with anyone though, this is why ive told you a million times troll or no troll,
When you meet this woman of your dreams Corey wayne states comes every 4 years( I agree) with that belief btw

you will ROYALY FCK IT UP

complete nonsense

I have nothing but confidence in myself to do very well in a relationship

 

[derby1]

I have nothing but confidence in myself to do very well in a relationship

PMSL , your the one talking complete nonsense! Your the most insecure fragile ego'd , male on the forum,

You fcking scavange for constant validation FROM MEN!

WTF do you think is gonna happen when some decent woman comes along, your gonna melt she is gonna rock your core, to see if your really the clint eastwood youve sold
yourself as

know better dont ya