I had my first date in ages. Here's the good and the bad.

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This past Saturday, I had my first date in ages.

Everything was going well. We chatted quite a bit on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday (She reached out to me first on all 3 of those days). On Monday, she even asked me about getting dinner again this coming weekend (I said yeah). Then on Tuesday, she mentioned the topic again (she was wondering where exactly I wanted to go for dinner).

Yesterday, everything changed. She acted more and more annoyed as the day I went on. So around 6:30 pm, I finally told her "Maybe getting to know each other was a bad idea. I say this because it feels like we're not getting along as well today."
Why is she asking you where you want to go for dinner ?

You should be TELLING her where you are both going

Also you never ever ever ever become emotional with a woman it buys into her frame and it causes bedlam

Learn and move to the next don't mope about
 

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Why is she asking you where you want to go for dinner ?

You should be TELLING her where you are both going

Also you never ever ever ever become emotional with a woman it buys into her frame and it causes bedlam

Learn and move to the next don't mope about
Why was she asking me where I wanted to go for dinner? Umm, I have no control over what a woman asks me.

Here's how it went down: She told me on Monday she wanted to grab dinner the coming weekend (the weekend we're in right now). I told her I'd be down. Then Tuesday, she asked me where. On Tuesday, I have no idea what type of food I'm going to be in the mood for on Saturday/Sunday. That's why I didn't tell her where we were going. I was planning on picking a venue the day of.

Supposedly my generation doesn't place as much importance on gender roles as past generations.
 

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Why was she asking me where I wanted to go for dinner? Umm, I have no control over what a woman asks me.

Here's how it went down: She told me on Monday she wanted to grab dinner the coming weekend (the weekend we're in right now). I told her I'd be down. Then Tuesday, she asked me where. On Tuesday, I have no idea what type of food I'm going to be in the mood for on Saturday/Sunday. That's why I didn't tell her where we were going. I was planning on picking a venue the day of.

Supposedly my generation doesn't place as much importance on gender roles as past generations.
That is in the past now. How is your paid option coming along?
 

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That is in the past now. How is your paid option coming along?
Yeah, I'm putting the woman I had the date with last weekend in the past (where she belongs). I was simply answering the guy's question about why I didn't act more assertive about dinner.

My paid option is planning on heading here later this afternoon (for the rescheduled appointment). We just had some back-and-forth to confirm. She knows about my fetish (and is ok with it). I'm excited.
 

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Yeah, I'm putting the woman I had the date with last weekend in the past (where she belongs). I was simply answering the guy's question about why I didn't act more assertive about dinner.

My paid option is planning on heading here later this afternoon (for the rescheduled appointment). We just had some back-and-forth to confirm. She knows about my fetish (and is ok with it). I'm excited.
Exactly! Why worry about anyone if you have lots of paid options?
 

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Well-said. An unpaid woman can only give you one thing an escort can't: The feeling of knowing she genuinely desires you.
True. There are different aspects of the mind, you have the logical part and the other part including subconcious and unconcious parts (something like that). It's only one logical part of the mind where that's going to matter (ie whether she genuinely desires you or not), the rest of the mind can't tell the difference. Also, you are still filling the basic sexual need in the pyramid of needs (ie better quality than fapping) and getting female touch and attention. So, I think there is allot of processing both mentally and biological that is not going to tell the difference or care about genuine desire, and only a fractional logical component would (in relation to everything else)

For example, when I dealt with the second escort in 2014, the issue at least that bothered me was I was dealing with an absolute stranger in a sketchy type of location and set-up. If I dealt with an ONS I feel it would be the same thing (ie you are dealing with a stranger, you get post-nut clarity and then realize she probably deals with allot of guys and you regret what you did (if you are not used to it)).
 

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True. There are different aspects of the mind, you have the logical part and the other part including subconcious and unconcious parts (something like that). It's only one logical part of the mind where that's going to matter (ie whether she genuinely desires you or not), the rest of the mind can't tell the difference. Also, you are still filling the basic sexual need in the pyramid of needs (ie better quality than fapping) and getting female touch and attention. So, I think there is allot of processing both mentally and biological that is not going to tell the difference or care about genuine desire, and only a fractional logical component would (in relation to everything else)

For example, when I dealt with the second escort in 2014, the issue at least that bothered me was I was dealing with an absolute stranger in a sketchy type of location and set-up. If I dealt with an ONS I feel it would be the same thing (ie you are dealing with a stranger, you get post-nut clarity and then realize she probably deals with allot of guys and you regret what you did (if you are not used to it)).
Yeah. An emotional connection isn't as important to a guy as it is to a woman. All we care about is getting our rocks off.
 
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