I had a flirt session the other day. Ran into her again today. What to make of her behavior?

[Gamisch]

You are NOT as good-looking as you THINK you are . Trust me..

You remind me of my incel homie who also hides behind diagnoses and what's not. Sometimes I suspect you are him, no joke. I simply gave up on trying to "convert " him. He is too stubborn and scared to change.

You have no idea what's it like to sleep with a hot woman who YOU like and who simultaneously wants nobody but you. Its the best in the world and completely different from taking what you can get.

A (hot) woman wants the following cliches:
- a good-looking well groomed man with a decent to good body.

- a man who has some money

- a man who is social

just a simple meat -and - potato -type of summary. But..its equally important as the 1-2 jab in boxing. The BASICS is where it at bro.

Most men will die without ever being able to fix those three ( or even just one)and thus never experience what's it like to have great sex with a hot woman who wants to eat you alive. You as a man have the duty to CREATE this.

your next thread should be without any sob story and onky containing questions about how to progress.

My appearance is highly relevant.

With how good my looks are, I really shouldn't face as many problems as I do in getting a woman.

 

[SW15]

I'm gonna tell you one last time what you need to do, what EVERYBODY has told you you need to do:

1. Turn off your computer
2. Go to the gym (repeat 4-5x per week)
3. Approach women you're interested in - NOT catcalling and asking for sex to get rejected

Steps 1 & 2 will need to be combined with proper mental health care. That really hasn't happened yet.

Anything he does before Steps 1 & 2 listed above and proper mental health care are not going to work.

@BackInTheGame78 has said that fixing his mindset is the #1 priority and @BeExcellent has said that anything before mental health care and muscle building at the gym is putting the cart before the horse. Both of these posters are respected posters who have added a lot of value to this forum over time.

There's a general consensus among forum posters about the steps forward.

 

[GoodMan32]

You are NOT as good-looking as you THINK you are . Trust me..

You remind me of my incel homie who also hides behind diagnoses and what's not. Sometimes I suspect you are him, no joke. I simply gave up on trying to "convert " him. He is too stubborn and scared to change.

You have no idea what's it like to sleep with a hot woman who YOU like and who simultaneously wants nobody but you. Its the best in the world and completely different from taking what you can get.

A (hot) woman wants the following cliches:
- a good-looking well groomed man with a decent to good body.

- a man who has some money

- a man who is social

just a simple meat -and - potato -type of summary. But..its equally important as the 1-2 jab in boxing. The BASICS is where it at bro.

Most men will die without ever being able to fix those three ( or even just one)and thus never experience what's it like to have great sex with a hot woman who wants to eat you alive. You as a man have the duty to CREATE this.

your next thread should be without any sob story and onky containing questions about how to progress.

With my age preferences alone, I'm unlikely to get with a conventionally hot woman.

Incidentally though, I have 2 of the 3 things you mentioned.

-Good-looking, well-groomed, decent body (Yeah, I'm skinny...still better than fat. Plus, my profile picture shows impressive definition on my biceps for a man as skinny as me)

-Money (I mentioned on a past post that I have a decent amount in savings, despite my low income, because I have low overhead)

You know what though? Even a "take what I can get" scenario would be a major step up over what I have now (I haven't been on a date, other than speed dating events, in nearly a year and a half. I haven't had non-escort sex in almost 4 years)

 

[GoodMan32]

Steps 1 & 2 will need to be combined with proper mental health care. That really hasn't happened yet.

Anything he does before Steps 1 & 2 listed above and proper mental health care are not going to work.

@BackInTheGame78 has said that fixing his mindset is the #1 priority and @BeExcellent has said that anything before mental health care and muscle building at the gym is putting the cart before the horse. Both of these posters are respected posters who have added a lot of value to this forum over time.

There's a general consensus among forum posters about the steps forward.

Past experience is worth a lot (studying history can help shape the future)

If I got some degree of success in my early 20s while skinny and mentally ill, why can't I succeed in spite of those qualities now?

My early 20s prove I can succeed without going to the gym or addressing my mental health.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

With my age preferences alone, I'm unlikely to get with a conventionally hot woman.

Incidentally though, I have 2 of the 3 things you mentioned.

-Good-looking, well-groomed, decent body (Yeah, I'm skinny...still better than fat. Plus, my profile picture shows impressive definition on my biceps for a man as skinny as me)

-Money (I mentioned on a past post that I have a decent amount in savings, despite my low income, because I have low overhead)

You know what though? Even a "take what I can get" scenario would be a major step up over what I have now (I haven't been on a date, other than speed dating events, in nearly a year and a half. I haven't had non-escort sex in almost 4 years)

Snowbird grannies are in AZ this time of year, OP

 

[BPH]

My appearance is highly relevant.

With how good my looks are, I really shouldn't face as many problems as I do in getting a woman.

My guy...you are not good-looking.

You're only a few years older than me and shaped like a pear. Let's be real for a moment.

I'm not trying to be mean here but you are delusional beyond belief.

EDIT: Here, shut up and go do this for a few months: https://startingstrength.com/get-started/programs

 

[Clockwerk50]

Steps 1 & 2 will need to be combined with proper mental health care. That really hasn't happened yet.

Anything he does before Steps 1 & 2 listed above and proper mental health care are not going to work.

@BackInTheGame78 has said that fixing his mindset is the #1 priority and @BeExcellent has said that anything before mental health care and muscle building at the gym is putting the cart before the horse. Both of these posters are respected posters who have added a lot of value to this forum over time.

There's a general consensus among forum posters about the steps forward.

I believe the frustration with both the group members and @GoodMan32 stems from an assumption that @GoodMan32 has read literature on the "dating game" and doesn’t understand the instincts that drive behavior in both genders. However, he hasn’t read these materials, and as a result, he lacks the foundational knowledge required to understand what it takes for a woman to be interested in him. His dating perspective is primarily based on personal experience, which leads to frustration and defensiveness when it doesn’t align with the broader insights presented in these books.

In order to meet the standards of the 10% threshold and follow women’s hypergamy, as shown in the chart below, @gooman32 needs to focus on his physical appearance and fitness, since he is not yet there physically and doesn’t look like a reality tv dating star (also pictured below how he look like). I’ve recommended several resources, including the Red Pill Sidebar, The Book of Pook, and The Rational Male, which could provide valuable insights.

A bit of background on @GoodMan32, while maintaining confidentiality: he mentioned that he was banned from a well-known forum before joining this one. Since joining here, he claims to have made some progress. I’m unsure of the specific focus of that forum, but it seems that a lot of his challenges may be rooted in social integration and fitting in, possibly linked to autism. Hopefully, if he reads these books and commits to improving his physical fitness, he’ll see better results here in our “community”.

https://theredarchive.com/TheRedPill%20Sidebar%20-%20A5%20-%20Sans%20Serif.pdf

The Book of Pook

Website version of The Book of Pook, along with audio. Understand women and learn why they do what they do, why they are how they are. No, they aren't complicated. Inner game, red pill, truth.

bookofpook.com

The Rational Male Rollo Tomassi : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive

The Rational Male is a rational and pragmatic approach to intergender dynamics and the social and psychological underpinnings of intergender relations. The...

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