I feel ****in down.Girls criticize my looks.Please help

[NoMoreAFC]

some girls and some people just look at me like i'm a mentally retarded kid a mongoloid or something. i mean i dont think it's my body, maybe my face or the shape of my eyes, i just dont ****ing now how ugly iam. i'm going to post some photos here so you guys will tell what's my problem and gimme your opinions to change myself..., maybe its the structure of my face or somethi


i'm now thinking that my ex left me cuz the thinks im horrible or something


well here's a pic of my eyes and some body pics too, i have recent ones but i will post them tomorrow


http://www.neatvibe.com/image/2005/06/22/731d1cdf7104a62382327d48190.jpeg


http://www.neatvibe.com/image/2005/06/22/421d1cdf7104a62382327d2d465.jpeg


http://www.neatvibe.com/image/2005/06/22/737f58ef104a62c96c87dbb486.jpeg


i dont think i have nothing strange with my face or eyes but sometimes i notice people looking at me in a strange way


my self-esteem drops to 0

 

[Metalixia]

hey man! could you post a few pics of you're face, hair, torso, without shades?

 

[ezilonman]

Slow down...sounds like you have zero self esteem and you are becoming paranoid around people.

If you are the guy on the left in the last picture, I don't judge guys, but I have seen some ugly ugly dudes in my life and you are not one of them.

I bet you your negative perception of peoples thoughts of you is ALL in your head. It is a vicious cycle...hear me out.

1. You somehow developed a low self-esteem (I've been there...most of us have at some point)

2. You stop smiling and being charismatic around people you have never met because you have no confidence.

3. These people can sense your discomfort or poor attitude, trust me. Now, when they look at your face they see a stone cold person who's actions proly back this notion up.

4. Since they now have this notion in their head about you, why would they smile or try to speak to you.

5. You are unaware of what you are doing, you see them giving you these looks/ not being friendly and think they have the problem when it really started with you giving them the stone cold face/attitude. This only makes things worse.


How you approach people has EVERYTHING to do with how they receive you. I know this for a fact.

I am a professional greeter (sounds cheezy but I really am).

I am good looking, but when I don't smile or put meaning into my greetings people will not treat me to kindly.

When I smile and put a little of my charm behind my greetings I get VERY different results. People receive me in a very warm way because they figure based upon my facial expression and tone of voice that I am a very friendly person which makes them feel comfortable (males too)...and with the ladies I can get big ear to ear grins and double takes just by coming off as friendly.

It is all in your head. Once you change the way you feel about yourself you can start changing the way you come across to others which will solve your problem.

 

[Metalixia]

ezilonman's advice is so true.

if you wanna check his theory out yourself, take a look at all the girls around you? i bet you find that the one most ugly ones are the ones that never smile or act polite! yeah? me too!

if you're the guy on the left, you have a much warmer smile than me. use it!

 

[ARK]

Try week#1 of boot camp. Establish eye contact, smile and watch the results. That will boost your confidence up.

 

[ezilonman]

Originally posted by ARK
Try week#1 of boot camp. Establish eye contact, smile and watch the results. That will boost your confidence up.

Exactly...once you have confidence, you feel like the world is yours and then you make it yours.

 

[NoMoreAFC]

http://www.amiguinhos.com/fotografias/3466114099.jpg

i have also this one but its not very good , now my hair is really shorter, cuz it was receding.


hey man the only thing i know is that when i was lifting weights in the gym, (i did it for a year) people would respect me, girls too, i felt happy, and no one was sending those cheezy comments, like you are horrible and stuff


yesterday was the last drop, we have a party here in Oporto Portugal called Saint John, and its tradition for people to go to the streets with plastic hammers in the heads of other people, its kinda funny... there was this old fat **** that was serving cold beers, my friend bought one and she asked him if i wanted one too, i said no, i dont drink alcohol, and she came with this one " really, i understand with that face of a mentally retarded.... ", i was so shocked and filled with anger, but i couldnt say anything, cuz some people some time ago have said the same thing to me....

 

[italostud]

LMAO, man, what's with the paranoia about looking "mentally retarded" Shyt man, you make me laugh. Anyways, from the looks of it, NO, you DON'T have down syndrome. You actually look like a pretty normal guy, and I'm guess, like an above poster said, it's all about your self-esteem.

 

[Jariel]

Is this a wind up? There's nothing on those photos that indicates you have any problems whatsoever, you're a decent looking guy.

I have no idea where these comments are coming from, unless it's something related to your facial expression at certain moments.

hey man the only thing i know is that when i was lifting weights in the gym, (i did it for a year) people would respect me, girls too, i felt happy, and no one was sending those cheezy comments, like you are horrible and stuff

I've experienced the same thing. Hitting the gym can improve your body and your mental state and the respect people show is amazing. Maybe this is what you need to do to get out of this low self-esteem cycle. I think you will feel much better for it.

 

[NoMoreAFC]

jariel maybe you are right maybe its my facial expression at sometimes... but its really weird

well i have a problem with an expressive smiling cause i have a problem with my smile, my teeths are not crooked but when i try a expressive smile my upper teeth come a little to the front and that ****s the smile tactic, i wondered wearing braces to correct my teeth but they are expensive and i dont know if at 28 almost 29 i can use them anymore


besides Ronaldinho Gaucho FC Barcelona and also Ronaldo soccer stars have big teeth ( i cant make a comparison between me and them cuz its not the best example ) and they hits lots of girls. i dont believe its only the money, they seem confident also around girls

 

[TedJustAdmitIt]

Originally posted by NoMoreAFC
hey man the only thing i know is th...ere's your answer then.....hit the gym again.

 

[MindOverMatter]

I thought this was gonna be another thread about the pigeon man ( in case you missed it the first time: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59535 )

Dude relax. You look normal, there's nothing wrong with you except maybe a slight lack of spine. You should have insulted her back badly enough to have made her get implants and become bulemic.

If you really want to improve your appearance tho, here's some tips:

1.) You seem to be a bit on the skinny side (which is good man, it's better then being fat), but if you want to improve, I'd recommend going to the gym. Nothing builds confidence faster then having a girl go wet as soon as she sees you shirtless.

I'll give you an example:

Here's a pic of me from several years ago:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v632/Mind_Over_Matter/Pic1.jpg

Here's some photos of me now:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v632/Mind_Over_Matter/mindcollage.jpg

Note, I was 230 lbs at the time with a big gut (like 25-30% bodyfat) and virtually no muscle mass. Now I'm 214 and have 10% bodyfat. If I can accomplish this, so can you!

Even tho I had girlfriends back when I was out of shape, it was different. Before, those relationships were more or less equal, and while I got laid, most of the times the girls I dated didn't have high interest level in me.

Nowdays, every girl I date tends to have way higher interest in me then I do in her, to the point of being obsessed with me.

I've gone from chasing girls and asking for numbers to being approached by girls and being asked out. I've gone from being c0ckblocked by their female friends to having their female friends to c0ckblock them. I've gone from having girls flake out on me, to them calling me and trying to set up dates and me flaking out on them.

Etc etc.

If there's one advice that can improve your game, this is it.


2.) Try a different haircut

3.) Tan.

 

[manicmaximum]

watched a dateline NBC special where some kid got ****ed up at a party. I reached this conclusion.

think you're ugly...do you have a facial deformity?

do you have horrible scarring on your face that makes kids stop, stare and go, daddy whats wrong with that mans face?

have you needed massive reconstructive surgery so you can see out of both eyes?


no?

then shut the fvck up.

 

[alnite]

I notice you have mild dark eyes. You'd better get enough sleep. Other than that, I think your face looks fine, unless perhaps in Portugal people expect more.

 

[Galaxy51]

looks like you've been smokin some dank.

 

[Caldus]

You look fine. Stop caring how one girl thinks of how you look.

 

[DJnoob]

i think you would look better with shorter hair

 

[Eulogy]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
I thought this was gonna be another thread about the pigeon man ( in case you missed it the first time: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59535 )

This guy?

 

[MindOverMatter]

Originally posted by Eulogy
This guy?

lol yeah, that should be in the bible

 

[undesputable]

Originally posted by NoMoreAFC

i'm now thinking that my ex left me cuz the thinks im horrible or something

no she just left you bc you have self confidence issues.