I fear I'm maybe Gay

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LOL at this thread!!!


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Maybe it's not as black and white as being gay or straight. There are cases of a-sexuals as well where people have no sexual attraction whatsoever.
 

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Leuven said:
Hi,

I like some advise because I'm very confused. I'm actually several years very confused, but since a couple of months, I'm even doubting my sexual thoughts.

Some background info, I'm 25, still virgin, never have had a girlfriend.
When reading the bible, I did some approaches but always failed terrible.

But I did made some changes. Some years ago I disliked homo's and lesbians, but now I didn't care anymore. I like music popular within the gay public, I try to dress well and spend more and more time on my outside.

On the other hand, I've never intended to approach a guy for the same reasons as a girl, I never think of guys in a sexual way, but I find myself thinking, that guy is hot, he can get anyone he wants.
I went a couple of times to a gay-bar, but that is a while ago, and don't intent to do it again.

Can anyone give me some good advice? I'm very confused, maybe it is just a stupid thought because I saw some gay movies last time. I'm not feeling attracked to guys, but on the other hand I'm not dating any girls.
I want to date females, but maybe it's my confusing that is standing in my way, and that confusion make me somewhat scared.

Please help
If you aren't attracted to the same sex, you're not gay.

But it's questionable when you go to gay bars or watching gay movies.

I think you're overreacting. If the b*tches were all over you for a night, you'd be normal. I think you need to just work on gettin your game up and get rid of that virginity :yes: It's tearing you apart
 

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I think most dudes imagine having sex with a dude just like how girls imagine having sex with a girl too. Unfortunately 70% of dudes are strictly straight and 15% experimented but stayed straight and the rest are homos.

That number is the same for women, and by the way I pulled these figures outta my ass but I wouldn't doubt they'd be true because it follows a bell curve that the majority of people are strictly straight, some have homosexual tendencies, and some have strictly homosexualness. But the thing is most of the majority of strictly straight person does imagine homosexual sex, most never carry it out because "reality" checks in and says "Nah dude, I don't think I can do that."
 

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Thanks for all the respons, but I think I have to clear some things out.

When I was talking about gay movies, I didn't ment s*x movies, just some movies of gay and lesbian people who came out for their sexuality, no action!

I also don't think about guys in a sexual way, can't imagine having my d!ck in some guys ...
It's just the thought that maybe because I can't get woman that I'm might be gay.
I never kissed a guy and I'm not intend to try it out.
But just like a woman, I like to talk, also talk about feelings. I'm also very emotional ... You could say that I'm maybe 1/4 a woman in a guy's body ( No I'm not talking about changing s*x, I'm happy being a guy )

It's just so weird that I'm different from most guys
- I like to talk, also to strangers, no matter the age or s*x, but with beautifull woman I have too much difficulties.
- I'm emotional ( even crying with certain films )
- I think, or overthink everything too much. I never do anything without thinking and analyzing.
- None of my best friends have ever had a girlfriend.
- I can't let go any of the persons I know

When going out, I force myself to do some approaches, but I don't seem to get anywhere, no matter what effort I'm putting into it. ( I only approach woman )

So do I need to worry of possibly being gay.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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i don't think i'm gay. i so wish i was with my girlfriend at the moment as there would be some serious action going on between her right now if i was. :)
 

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If you find men attractive you are gay. You arent gay because of what music you listen to or how you dress. If you want to suck a man off you are gay.
 
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Leuven said:
Hi,

I like some advise because I'm very confused. I'm actually several years very confused, but since a couple of months, I'm even doubting my sexual thoughts.

Some background info, I'm 25, still virgin, never have had a girlfriend.
When reading the bible, I did some approaches but always failed terrible.

But I did made some changes. Some years ago I disliked homo's and lesbians, but now I didn't care anymore. I like music popular within the gay public, I try to dress well and spend more and more time on my outside.

On the other hand, I've never intended to approach a guy for the same reasons as a girl, I never think of guys in a sexual way, but I find myself thinking, that guy is hot, he can get anyone he wants.
I went a couple of times to a gay-bar, but that is a while ago, and don't intent to do it again.

Can anyone give me some good advice? I'm very confused, maybe it is just a stupid thought because I saw some gay movies last time. I'm not feeling attracked to guys, but on the other hand I'm not dating any girls.
I want to date females, but maybe it's my confusing that is standing in my way, and that confusion make me somewhat scared.

Please help
Simple if your dyck gets hard for a girl then your not gay,if your dyck doesnt get hard for a guy then your not gay.This how you gotta test your penis go wacth a porn movie with of a girl with big boobs and big booty(*gets horny,lol*) and if you start getting horny while wacthing the girls your on a good road.Then next wacth a gay porono if your not turned on then YOUR NOT gay its up to YOUR PENIS to decide if it gets horny over a guy or girl.
 

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Leuven said:
- I'm emotional ( even crying with certain films )
- I think, or overthink everything too much. I never do anything without thinking and analyzing.
- None of my best friends have ever had a girlfriend.
- I can't let go any of the persons I know
I think this has a lot to do with how you were raised. Nothing wrong with emotion, you are human after all.

Were you raised by only your mom?
 

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The replies to this thread must have made him gayer.

Just because you can't get a girl doesn't mean you're gay.

You're not gay.
 

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No,

I'm raised by both parents.
No, my d!ck isn't growing for a guy, only for girls.

The question just came to me when I was seeing this movie about a guy who is gay and tells his parents and then starts his life ( No action, from the moment I see a movie where there is some gay action, I turn it off )
Put the strange thing about that movie was that except for the being gay of that guy, it was just that I was looking at a movie about my personal life.
So that's the reason I thought, oh no, what if I'm also gay...

sincerely
 

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Leuven said:
No,

I'm raised by both parents.
No, my d!ck isn't growing for a guy, only for girls.

The question just came to me when I was seeing this movie about a guy who is gay and tells his parents and then starts his life ( No action, from the moment I see a movie where there is some gay action, I turn it off )
Put the strange thing about that movie was that except for the being gay of that guy, it was just that I was looking at a movie about my personal life.
So that's the reason I thought, oh no, what if I'm also gay...

sincerely
Hey man, from what you say I don't think you are gay. You are what we call a pvssy, that is, a man that has no balls.
 

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lauke said:
The replies to this thread must have made him gayer.
:crackup:

But seriously, being sensitive and ruminating a lot and being talkative - except with beautiful women - and being comfortable talking about feelings doesn't have ANYTHING to do with being gay. If that was the case, then all AFC's would really be closet homosexuals because that's what you're describing - classic AFC personality. Maybe you were a mama's boy, like me. My guess would be that female figures (if not necessarily your mother) played a much bigger role in your upbringing than male figures.

The only question now is, are you comfortable having the kind of personality that you described. It doesn't sound like you are. But for christ's sake being a big AFC doesn't make you gay, just an AFC.
 

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I dont think your gay man. You said that beautiful women make you nervous, dont you think thats a clue that your probably hetero? If you were gay, why would you be nervous around pretty girls?

Do you ever dream about sex? With women?

What kind of porn do you like?
 

Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.

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Try having sex with a guy, see if you like it. And then have sex with a chick. Ask yourself if which feels more right, and then you can decide which lifestyle is right. by the way, you could be bisexual as well
no dude that's just gay

i mean you said you look at a guy and say "damn he's hot he can get any chick" tell me any guy who didn't see another guy who looked real good and didn't admire them??? when i see a good looking dude i'm not like "he's hot" it's more like "damn i wanna look like that" or "Damn i bet he has atleast three girls" never on that gay ****.. it doesn't sound like your gay..but if i could see you walk and talk then i could probably tell....but what your saying doesn't sound like your gay...you just haven't gotten laid....
 

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ROFFL! If I heard a recording of your voice, I could tell you if you are gay or not.
 
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