Lozboss
Master Don Juan
You did the right thing.
Delete her from your life and move on. Do not look back.
Delete her from your life and move on. Do not look back.
This is what has got me the most.. she invited me to join her and her daughters for a meal and drinks at this bar for her birthday.. and i accepted..Mate, the part about her and her friend conspiring to get rid of you on her birthday would have been enough for me to dump her - let alone all the other stuff. Make of that what you will.
Well she has texted 3 or 4 times, and called 4 times..If she would really want to fix it, she would go to talk with you, not just *******g calls and texts.
I think you did well. It is time to look for other chicks or take your time for other stuff (working out, your work, etc). On the other side, you look a strong-handsome guy (im not gay lol), so it should be easy for you moving on. Be stick with yourself. If you think there was something wrong with her, that is because there was something wrong with her, dont cheat yourself as I did!
I know you guys are trying to give me the right advice here.. you guys can can think with a clear head about my situation, where as i am somewhat emotionally involved, which makes it difficult..
Would you guys consider the following list as clear cut disrespectful offences? And do they warrent dumping?
01. She spoke to me in a rude agressive manner, because i suggested not staying out too late.. i was feeling tired.. she kept telling me how important her friend is to her and i needed to get over it.. i was happy to be going for this meal with her friend, i just did not want to be out drinking most of the night till the late hours
02. She instantly agreed to a girls holiday abroad with her friend, without even a discussion or mention with me about it.. even tho we was planning our holiday soon
03. Her friend patronised me and suggested i should not go to my GF birhday meal and drinks at this bar in Manchester, because it won't be my thing.. then my GF turned around and said this...
'I know this will sound disrespectful, but i will drive you back home tomorrow.. i don't think the bar is your kind of place..
She then stated she will still have an awesome time, even tho i won't be there.
04. She got very drunk.. and said my phone was crap in front of her friend.. then got agressive and rude with me, when i suggested that my phone is perfectly fine for my needs..
05. She hardly spoke to me on the way home, and she left me to sleep on my own, and went straight to bed in the spare room..
In the morning i packed my bags and left... while she was alseep.. later on i sent her a text and dumped her.
Was there any room for discussion here, calling her out on her behaviour, or straight dump?
Hows seriously should i have taken this...
She prefers to drink, get drunk and party. She enjoys it and wants that to be part of her life. You do not. You have been here expressing your discontent with her desire to drink for some time.
Mistake 1: You think/ask/suggest that she may change for you.
Mistake 2: You take it personally when she doesn't/can't.
Mistake 3: Making her actions or inactions about you.
Mistake 4. Thinking that getting back together will suddenly resolve your inherent incompatibility.
She is not going to change into the woman you want her to be. She is exactly who she has shown herself to be. Be proud you had the balls to stand up for yourself and leave. Quit looking back and get on with your life. Life is in front of you not in the rearview mirror. Next!
he's going back to her, don't waste your breath
arrogance/prideMy gut tells me that everything she said and did that night was just a rebellious act.. fuelled on by alcohol and her change of attitude with her friend..
Why? Because i told her i did not appreciate bieng talked to like that, when she was rude to me.. also because i did not want to be out all night, and because i told her i would prefer not to be out too late..
She interpreted that as me interfiering with her night with her friend...
This is why she put on this attitude of i can do what i like.. and do what i want... any thoughts on this??
NO.....Just walk away. Let the stupid ***** stew. She did it to herself.. She knows that. You dont have to explain.I have a question.. should i give her a clear reason why i have dumped her?
After last night, she should know why i did it.. should i tell her that she treated me like crap, or just leave things be and let her work it out for herself!!
Stay strong. You did the right thing.Dude i am trying, i can't help i have strong feelings for this girl.. these feelings will not just wash away over night..
Give me some credit for having the balls to dump her in the first place.. i,m trying my best to get my head around it all
Keep reminding yourself that you're going cold turkey on an addiction. She is an unfit women for you but she fulfilled a need and suddenly it's gone.Dude i am trying, i can't help i have strong feelings for this girl.. these feelings will not just wash away over night..
Give me some credit for having the balls to dump her in the first place.. i,m trying my best to get my head around it all
You get credit man, its difficult. If you don't have the ability to walk away you are never in a position to negotiate well in your favor. Even if you somehow cave (not advisable) and get some kind of relationship back with this women, you will have set the bar that you won't be disrespected in such a manner and that you don't need her. Let me break it down for you in bullet format:Dude i am trying, i can't help i have strong feelings for this girl.. these feelings will not just wash away over night..
Give me some credit for having the balls to dump her in the first place.. i,m trying my best to get my head around it all