Drmuscular
Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 17, 2024
- Messages
- 16
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- Age
- 20
Ok so basically i have this friend, basically my lifelong bro, probably the only dude i completely trust because he has never once failed me, he is short, skinny and imo a lil ugly, not very ugly but below average, i do think this makes it unproductive for him to use OLD, he does dress very well though and has "presence" or idk what to call it, but he looks like some mafia boss to me with his mannerism and body language, smartest dude i know too.
he is 20 and nearing 21 but he is still a virgin, he has told me about some heavy flirting with some coworkers of his (imo he has very good social skills, funniest dude i ever met and not a "nice guy" at all) but it never goes anywhere either because of his insecurities (he says he might have a problem having sex, refuses to say but says is medical) or because things outside of his control (they have a boyfriend etc).
Recently he has told me how he is felling really bad because he is still a virgin, a lot of his coworkers talk a lot about sex and he says he feels left out and practically doesn't talk to them nor go out with them often because he doesn't wanna lie when they ask him nor does he want them to notice by him talking about that and saying something stupid, and he also wants to know if he can even have sex normally (no idea what his medical problem is) he said he has considered 1. "using" one of her coworker friends who he doesn't find very attractive but she seems to be "easy" and a "pretty dumb and innocent chick" who is very affectionate with him. 2. to simply hire a prostitute and have sex with her. He wants to "get it over with" but i don't really trust him to not get addicted to pu$$y, and i think he might hurt himself long term.
He started saying these things to me after he fumbled a chick who seemed pretty easy, basically told him that she wanted easy sex and invited HIM out, but he wasn't capable of being a man and invite her out and show his interest and now feels regret because as of now he thinks its over with her.
I have told him that banging that other unattractive chick might be trouble because 1. if he doesn't like her why even bother, you don't game chicks you don't like 2. she is his coworker, if it ends badly it will give him a reputation 3. furthermore it will give him a reputation of banging ugly chicks if she is actually unattractive, and people WILL know. I told him that we should go out and party, and i will help him get some chicks in the process because if he just wants lays he should go for girls he doesn't know much and will probably never meet again, but he refuses because he finds it weird to party and go to clubs just with me, but he also wants to be someone with he can trust and im probably the only person he trusts like this (and it makes sense, gentlemen in my country chicks will drug you and rob you, and he also feels very ashamed), and at the same time since he is not very good looking idk how much will cold approach in clubs to dance work for him.
He has explicitly said to me that he is "out of options", i felt very bad seeing my dude like this, i told him that he looked desperate and that he had the wrong mentality and wanted to do things for the wrong reasons, i don't want him to lower his standards he has very good personality and has a good job and wealth and has many talents and hobbies, i know he can do better even if he is not the greatest looking, and his standards weren't unreasonable anyways I've seen some of the chicks he liked and they looked pretty average to me, he also refuses to work out like ever, though he has made his educational and financial life much better and he is doing pretty well by himself right now.
I've also told him to not pay too much mind to what the coworkers say, to lie/avoid and not touch the matter much, but he did called me out since i tried to stop him from damaging his reputation which is tbf true, and that he still feels like **** when they talk about it and he just doesn't know what to say when regularly he is pretty much the funny/extroverted guy.
Idk should i simply support him in his endeavors and even in getting a prostitute? i just want the best for him but i really don't know how to help him or what else to say to him, i guess i already spoke my mind to him so i will leave him alone for now but what advice would you guys give to him in my place?.
he is 20 and nearing 21 but he is still a virgin, he has told me about some heavy flirting with some coworkers of his (imo he has very good social skills, funniest dude i ever met and not a "nice guy" at all) but it never goes anywhere either because of his insecurities (he says he might have a problem having sex, refuses to say but says is medical) or because things outside of his control (they have a boyfriend etc).
Recently he has told me how he is felling really bad because he is still a virgin, a lot of his coworkers talk a lot about sex and he says he feels left out and practically doesn't talk to them nor go out with them often because he doesn't wanna lie when they ask him nor does he want them to notice by him talking about that and saying something stupid, and he also wants to know if he can even have sex normally (no idea what his medical problem is) he said he has considered 1. "using" one of her coworker friends who he doesn't find very attractive but she seems to be "easy" and a "pretty dumb and innocent chick" who is very affectionate with him. 2. to simply hire a prostitute and have sex with her. He wants to "get it over with" but i don't really trust him to not get addicted to pu$$y, and i think he might hurt himself long term.
He started saying these things to me after he fumbled a chick who seemed pretty easy, basically told him that she wanted easy sex and invited HIM out, but he wasn't capable of being a man and invite her out and show his interest and now feels regret because as of now he thinks its over with her.
I have told him that banging that other unattractive chick might be trouble because 1. if he doesn't like her why even bother, you don't game chicks you don't like 2. she is his coworker, if it ends badly it will give him a reputation 3. furthermore it will give him a reputation of banging ugly chicks if she is actually unattractive, and people WILL know. I told him that we should go out and party, and i will help him get some chicks in the process because if he just wants lays he should go for girls he doesn't know much and will probably never meet again, but he refuses because he finds it weird to party and go to clubs just with me, but he also wants to be someone with he can trust and im probably the only person he trusts like this (and it makes sense, gentlemen in my country chicks will drug you and rob you, and he also feels very ashamed), and at the same time since he is not very good looking idk how much will cold approach in clubs to dance work for him.
He has explicitly said to me that he is "out of options", i felt very bad seeing my dude like this, i told him that he looked desperate and that he had the wrong mentality and wanted to do things for the wrong reasons, i don't want him to lower his standards he has very good personality and has a good job and wealth and has many talents and hobbies, i know he can do better even if he is not the greatest looking, and his standards weren't unreasonable anyways I've seen some of the chicks he liked and they looked pretty average to me, he also refuses to work out like ever, though he has made his educational and financial life much better and he is doing pretty well by himself right now.
I've also told him to not pay too much mind to what the coworkers say, to lie/avoid and not touch the matter much, but he did called me out since i tried to stop him from damaging his reputation which is tbf true, and that he still feels like **** when they talk about it and he just doesn't know what to say when regularly he is pretty much the funny/extroverted guy.
Idk should i simply support him in his endeavors and even in getting a prostitute? i just want the best for him but i really don't know how to help him or what else to say to him, i guess i already spoke my mind to him so i will leave him alone for now but what advice would you guys give to him in my place?.