i challenge everyone to do approaches..cold or lukewarm..wtf

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plain and simple....forget ur "current" plate and just start approaching what fancies you....and post approaches...good or bad...post them...approach approach approach....post post post...especially self described "newbies"...i challenge the older dudes to just do cold approaches until the new year and post each one. if cold approaching isnt ur "thing"...then accept the challenge....
 

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Isn't C.A. truly the only way to get your game up?
 

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I believe so... I just would like to hear some real world encounters so it becomes like a normal deal...
 

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Yea...I was at the train station and said excuse me to some hb8 and she turned around and I complimented her outfit....which was cute for a business style outfit. She gave me a huge smile and said thank you....so two days later when we wait for the train she says hi and we chat for a bit...seems receptive don't u all think? I'm gonna ask her out but can't decide on bowling or drinks
 

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I've done a lot of cold approaches over the last 8 months.

I had just read the game so had approaching in mind.

I went to town one night walking down the highstreet & approached a few
girls who were sitting on a seat. Greeted them told a funny story & then used
funny story then jealous gf technique...they were just giggling & seemed a bit weirded out.


I then met my friends in the bar & as we were walking to the next bar I approached a HB 6.5 having a tab outside a bar..came in under her radar
& used same methods as 1st approach & got her number..she was more chilled out.

On to the next bar..walked in & approached a group of ladies straight away.
Haha...there was one woman in this group who knew exactly what I was doing =) she had me sussed...I think she knew I was making this shi* up.
She was friendly though & interested. It was as though nobody had ever tried or done this to her.

Walking down street again on same night & approached a woman walking down the street...same routine...she just shook her head & walked off. I was on a mission this night though so nothing like that bothered me.

Flirted with some women I knew also that night.

Daytime game:-

Approached a women in market..i made a mistake here though by saying "could I get you're opinion on something" she said "no thank you, sorry" Approached a HB6.7..came in under her radar.


Me: Hi. Alright. I need your opinion on something.
Her: Go on then (looking a bit surprised that I was doing this lol)
Me: Actually it's more of female perspective.

She took this as her chance to getaway

Her: (whilst getting up & walking away) Actually. It I've gotta go whilst nervously laughing.

On another daygame approached HB7 in carpark using funnystory & jealous gf method...she was laughing saying she was actually going in into mall right
now to meet her bf.

Me: well whens the wedding?
Her: I would never marry him! lol
Me: Well how about if I asked you to marry me right now?
Her: Lol. No seriously I do have a bf. I'd better go..she started walking
away.
Me: Ok. Thanks for your opinion. Bye.
She was responsive & pleasant..it just goes to show that some women are & some are not comfortable with this. Also depends on your skill level.

Night out in town. A HB8 & another girl quite good looking were in in same
area of bar as me & my friends.

Me: You are absloutley beautiful. Whats your number?
HB8: What!? Just like that?
Me: Yep =) just like that.
HB8: Gave me her number.

Made a lot of drunken approaches also which went ok ha

Approached a group of about 8 girls on several occasions using funnystory/
jealous gf technique which was difficult to get the whole group listening to me whilst music going on & stuff. One HB7.5 who was part of the group was
really interested though & this was in my early stages of CA's she was trying hard to get the other woman listening, but they were'nt interested.

Daygame:-

Walking along river in town..spotted two HB6.7's one went across street on her bike. I swooped in in using funnystory/jealous gf.
She said she had bf..i used "whens the wedding crack" same outcome as previous woman who had bf.
 

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Rainman4707 said:
I've done a lot of cold approaches over the last 8 months.

I had just read the game so had approaching in mind.

I went to town one night walking down the highstreet & approached a few
girls who were sitting on a seat. Greeted them told a funny story & then used
funny story then jealous gf technique...they were just giggling & seemed a bit weirded out.


I then met my friends in the bar & as we were walking to the next bar I approached a HB 6.5 having a tab outside a bar..came in under her radar
& used same methods as 1st approach & got her number..she was more chilled out.

On to the next bar..walked in & approached a group of ladies straight away.
Haha...there was one woman in this group who knew exactly what I was doing =) she had me sussed...I think she knew I was making this shi* up.
She was friendly though & interested. It was as though nobody had ever tried or done this to her.

Walking down street again on same night & approached a woman walking down the street...same routine...she just shook her head & walked off. I was on a mission this night though so nothing like that bothered me.

Flirted with some women I knew also that night.

Daytime game:-

Approached a women in market..i made a mistake here though by saying "could I get you're opinion on something" she said "no thank you, sorry" Approached a HB6.7..came in under her radar.


Me: Hi. Alright. I need your opinion on something.
Her: Go on then (looking a bit surprised that I was doing this lol)
Me: Actually it's more of female perspective.

She took this as her chance to getaway

Her: (whilst getting up & walking away) Actually. It I've gotta go whilst nervously laughing.

On another daygame approached HB7 in carpark using funnystory & jealous gf method...she was laughing saying she was actually going in into mall right
now to meet her bf.

Me: well whens the wedding?
Her: I would never marry him! lol
Me: Well how about if I asked you to marry me right now?
Her: Lol. No seriously I do have a bf. I'd better go..she started walking
away.
Me: Ok. Thanks for your opinion. Bye.
She was responsive & pleasant..it just goes to show that some women are & some are not comfortable with this. Also depends on your skill level.

Night out in town. A HB8 & another girl quite good looking were in in same
area of bar as me & my friends.

Me: You are absloutley beautiful. Whats your number?
HB8: What!? Just like that?
Me: Yep =) just like that.
HB8: Gave me her number.

Made a lot of drunken approaches also which went ok ha

Approached a group of about 8 girls on several occasions using funnystory/
jealous gf technique which was difficult to get the whole group listening to me whilst music going on & stuff. One HB7.5 who was part of the group was
really interested though & this was in my early stages of CA's she was trying hard to get the other woman listening, but they were'nt interested.

Daygame:-

Walking along river in town..spotted two HB6.7's one went across street on her bike. I swooped in in using funnystory/jealous gf.
She said she had bf..i used "whens the wedding crack" same outcome as previous woman who had bf.
This gives me hope haha

totally going up to a lass this week and gonna do what you did bro
 

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countwoofoolah said:
This gives me hope haha

totally going up to a lass this week and gonna do what you did bro

It's not easy. You have to "feel the fear & do it anyway" that mentality has helped me out a lot with approaches, first phonecalls etc. The fear seems to creep up & try to disable you at the most crucial of times. IGNORE IT.

Maybe you could also read "the game" by Neil strauss..best book I have ever read.

The best way to approach if possible is to observe & comment on something that's happening around you or your target. That way you don't come off so creepy/desperate. That's the way am gonna try it soon.

There is loads of information on here about approaches so read up on it & get out there.

There are a lot of times where I've not approached in busy highstreets thinking "this woman is not gonna be happy at all if I stop her ha" but
I set myself goals like I have to approach at least two in an hour.

Practice my friend.
 

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Cold approach all depends on the situation.

I have no nervousness approaching an HB 5.

If I approached an HB 9, I would get all nervous and stuff. I think most guys make the mistake of only approaching these girls, getting jaded, and quitting.

I think that a newbie should approach ugly women and get his confidence up. This will translate to banging hotter chicks once they know you're a desired male.
 

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The Desolation of Solomon

The Desloation Of Solomon

Definition of Desolation: State of complete emptiness or destruction

LETS GET IT!!

This will be a quick one guys because I frankly forgot a lot of shyt. I went to this event promotional event at a local store. They sell skater/hipster type clothes. They were giving a free booze like champagne and blue ribbon beer :crazy:

Anyway I do some approaches nothing crazy. I see a 2 set of hot girls but every time they see me approach another chick they give me a "berstare" I talk to both men and women and also get a couple pics in with the DJ(swanky!) now the drinks are coming and your boy is popping them like Pdiddy with the managers at the spot (Yes sir!):cheer:

I then see a 3-Set outside and I pretend I'm the bouncer and tell them

"Hey I'm gonna need to see some ID"

The girls are like

"What? :confused: "

"Sike" so they roll their eyes at me and keep it moving. well I just "marked" myself out with one of them

So the place is getting more girls now instead of just skaters, I'm talking to random people about fluff and all that. Those girls walk by and I open them it's a 3-set. Conversations where I'm from (chicago which I'm not) blah blah blah

Of course I'm bSing and one of the chicks who is the brunette (the one who marked me out) was the mother hen, she could tell I'm lying cause I wasn't keeping my stories straight :crackup: I thought it was the hot blond but nope it was the brunette. She was from an island near south Africa and just gorgeous light light caramel complexion and she was shyt testing me left and right and I was failing like a frigging idiot :nervous:

I don't even remember the dialogue just that she called me about being a fake bouncer and not being from Chicago. And me lying even more trying to keep the mystery afloat. So the chicks and I are talking and somehow I was able to isolate my chick I wanted with the thick ass and nice tits..not fat, she played soccer and I can see she has tight hips with a$$ HNNNNG.similar to this her face was meh any-who we talked and I was able to be a bit "real" with her since all I was dong was stupid flashgame once again I was too tipsy to game so I needed to slow my roll. We both had common type jobs in similar industries so that helped.

We come back more shyt testing from her gorgeous brunette friend and more of me flopping like Lebron :cuss:

The girls where bored at the party and I suggested another bar but before we left we ran into a chick I know who is just as gorgeous as them or even better. The social proof musta helped me out cause now the girls where open and willing to pay attention to me

So I was able to Instadate 3 chicks to another venue like a boss to the venue where they know your boy :rockon:

Problem was that my dumba$$ was stuck I had 3 chicks no wing just I. I broke a cardinal rule bought a drink for all them broads and the chicks went to the bathroom. No doubt discussing me and If i was cool enough or if they ditched me :nervous:

I felt like a idiot but it is what it is....the chicks though come back more fluff we go upstairs my soccer chick buys me a drink. She seems kind of standoffish oh well. We played "fucc, marry, Kill" which got her open a bit more and I could tell she enjoyed it cause she knew the game. I try talking to brunette and have her qualify her friend of course the brunette is shyt testing me once again. The blond is talking to some guys and just lamping up the attention I go to the rest room cause I gotta empty out my bladder.

I come back and see soccer chick talking to a manlet. So now I coulda bud in but that woulda looked needy so I just stand by myself at the bar like a chode. I see a buddy talk to him tell him whats going on. "go get your chick" he tells me so I was like "naw I'm good" I wasn't thirsty.

So I go back talk to them some more and call it a night. Sober up at mcadeeze and head home.

I did some things well like isolating my target and instatdating 3 cute chicks but I also failed terribly with the shyt test and being able to build a deeper connection with my target. I have to work on my dialogue as well

Oh well live and learn

Tonight I have a bar crawl it's gonna be more chicks and crazy drunk people

Goal for tonight:

Less Booze
Better connection/dialogue

hope you guys have better luck then me

LETS GET IT!!!

:woo:
 

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mehh

Not much to report guys, went out and got druuuuunk

Met this petite lil brunette but she was upset because she was fightning with her friends, at first she was super touchy feely but when I reached for her hand she pulled away :confused:

My main focus was just to make eye contact and be genuine. I've been b.sing too much and "Over-gaming" when I should let the interaction just be natural and I was able to do this I thought very well last night

Logistically speaking she wanted to go home and "sleep" :crackup: but her friend had her key and once I met them it was tense vibe. Ever notice when women are pretentious with each other? I don't care for it

My only regret was buying the chick a drink....she didn't ask but I was drunk, luckily the waitress knows me from previous visits and hooked me up with a drink free but it wasn't necessary...no need to get Mr Tits like in the field being drunk and ranting like a lunatic :crackup:

Pic of me and chick

Ended up meeting this guy later on who wanted to wing for me, I was like sure why not. The guy was 6'4 had a physique similar too Michael Phelps we went ham and opened up a few sets

Don't mind the ugly sweater it was a contest or some shyt*bad pic*

Will be going out of town next weekend to a bigger city with hotter chicks and more women I can't wait.....

:woo:
 

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Cold approaches over the last few days :-

I used jealous girlfriend opener, but changed it a bit so basically I would tell these chicks I needed a quick female perspective on something.

Opener :-
Hi, I've been seeing a woman last few months, but when I would go out in groups to bars & she was there..she would get jealous if I talked to other girls. What do you think about this?

Wednesday night I was in town drinking with my friend. I turned round & opened a two set. They gave me their opinions & were open & friendly. (It was a sausage fest in there because Newcastle has just played Spurs, yet I didn't see anybody try & chat up these two women both 8's)

The problem I had when opening two sets over these few days was that i didn't ask for number because the other girl might feel a little awkward (probably a mistake i know) Anyway i approached another two set in next bar..both 8's..these girls were very open & friendly too...maybe even seemed glad that somebody had the balls to walk over in front of everyone & strike up a convo with them.
I opened another two set in same bar. HB7 & HB8. HB7 was really interested & HB8 not interested. HB8 motioned for HB7 to come over & dance..HB7 stayed with me..then HB7's boyfriend came over & put his arm around her ha she seemed a little uncomfortable in situation now as you can understand. I greeted boyfriend & asked his opinion then talked a little with both of them before going back to my friend who couldn't stop staring at HB8's bootay. He told me that all four girls kept looking over at me all night.
Important note :- when i first started talking to these women i was using Mysterys techniques of standing as if i was about to leave & i would say "quick opinion as my i don't want to leave my friend by himself too long"

Next day i went back into town for daygame. Spotted HB8 women about 38 yrs old. Opened her. she was friendly & offered her advice. I asked her if she had ever been in situation where she really, really liked someone, but they crossed the line so she had to end it. She said she found a "good one" & that she is married so no that hasn't happened to her. I thanked her for perspective & left.
Next one HB7. She gave her opinion the said she had to get to lecture. Next one..cute HB7. When i was talking to her we held eye-contact most of interaction & we had good vibe going, but apparently she had boyfriend..i asked her when is wedding..she just laughed blah blah..no wedding so i said that leaves me with a chance ha she said she'd better go as meeting bf now.

Nightime back on drink with my brother & friend. Approached a two set..both HB7's they were friendly enough...one was shy..in they end they lost interest a little.

Couple of friends say it's a crap opener, but i tried it...did'nt seem to go to bad actually
 

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Rainman4707 said:
Me: You are absloutley beautiful. Whats your number?
HB8: What!? Just like that?
Me: Yep =) just like that.
HB8: Gave me her number.
LOL...I love it. I'm going to try this.
 

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These are some approaches from Thursday.

Me: have we met before?(she works at chic fil a and I go there often)
Her: Idk, you do look familiar
Me: oh, I'm Shane and you're Katherine, nice to meet you(points to her name tag causing her to chuckle)
Me: so, ill have a number 3. You got me?
Her: "nooooo sorry, I don't get paid till Friday"
Me: Aw Damn it, well I think I'll take you up on that offer anyway. What's your number Katherine?
Her: 000-000-0000
Me: ok, cool. And my name is.....
Her: Shane
Me: good, I'll see you tomorrow then.

I forgot it was Valentine's day and spent the day with another girl, so I didn't even text this her.

Earlier that day:

Me: Hey what's your name?
Her: Amy(She seemed kind of surprised at my approach)
Me: That is a really nice color on you Amy(it was peach and peach is a badass color on anyone)
Her: Thank you!
Me: So what's your story? And why haven't I seen you before?
Her: (nervous chuckle)umm, well, I'm from here, born and raised. You?
Me: I was born in cali blah blah blah
Her: that's so cool, I really want to go to cali.
Me: trust me, you do. So Amy, I'd like to know more about you. What type food do you prefer, Italian or Japanese?
Her: Italian.
Me: let's get Italian then, let me see your phone for a second. (hands me her phone, and I use it to call mine, so I get her number). Oh a missed call I wonder who that's from!(corny, I know but idgaf because she laughed).
Her: Gee Idk, you should probably call them back!
Me: trust me a will be(winking and walking away)

Haven't called her yet either. Cold approaches aren't very hard anymore.
 

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More cold approaches:-

Walking down highstreet, spotted a target..
Rainman:- Alright there, I need a quick female perspective on something....
girl just keeps walking.

Same happened with the next chick...oh well.

I'm now walking down a quiet street & a woman is walking up towards me
Rainman:- Hi. You look like a woman who knows a lot about love & romance..
she kind of stopped giggled said "nooo not really" then kept walking up street...oh well.

Walking back to my car & see two fit birds outside uni..
I came in from behind... again I stood in a position that made me look as though I was about to leave..told them I needed a quick female perspective, but I have to get going as I have left my car up the there & it's quite rough..they giggled.....okay I then used Styles "in love vs love opener" they stated there opinions....they were both cute one HB7,one HB8.4....they were friendly....
I then small talked a little & asked for HB 8.4's number to which she said "no" lol

Couple of days later I'm back in town:-

Again two separate women ignored me & kept walking when I tried getting there attention by saying "hi, I need a quick female perspective.

I was walking back to my car & spotted a 6.5 leaning against wall having a smoke....I used same routine....she gave her opinion...we small talked although she wasn't that in to it, then went back inside to work.

My thoughts....Well it seems I'm having more success when I come in under womens radar....I'm going to read up a little more about approaches =)
 

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I posted this back in the AA Thread but i'll repost in here.

So this was my club game this weekend.
Made myself some new friends, got on the good pages with the bouncers at the most popular club in my city and got myself a few numbers.

Ill break down the numbers ( at the club ).

Had my eye on a HB8 from the start of the night and I knew I wasn't going to leave the club without her number. She was dancing with her friends near the bar my friend decided to approach her so I just chilled out sipping my beer. I saw he came back fairly quick and got shut down. I normally hate approaching girls when they are dancing but I decided to do it anyways. I just went up to her and literally told her I wasn't going to leave the club tonight without talking to her, then grabbed her hand ( Which I like to do always, if they grab back I know they are interested).

She grabbed my hand back and I took her away to the bar where we talked a bit and had a few drinks. She told me she was from outta town so I said if I can guess where shes from she has to give me her number ( she was hesitant about giving her number away at the club). Surprisingly I got it right LOL ( LUCKY ME) and she gave me her number, got a quick kiss in before I let her get dragged away by her whale of a friend.

The second number I got was from a HB7 cute face, nice slim body. Just saw her at the bar and give her the good ol " I THINK YOUR REALLY CUTE" deal.. and it worked and we started talking about her and I just made her laugh a bit to feel more comfortable.

I grabbed her hand ( as usual) and she grabbed mine back. Unfortunately this girl also had a group of friends that were eager to pull her away from me after I took her to the bar. So she said if you find me later I'll let you get me a drink.. So I'm like how about if I find you later I get your number. Then I'm just like fvck it how about you give me your number now LOL and she did.

The other number I Got was from a HB7 who gave mega IOI's from the start when I was chilling at the bar. As she was headin to the dance floor she just grabbed my hand and I went. Was an easy number close from there.

Was a successful night on the town boys.

LESSONS LEARNT:
Get the friends of the girls I'm going for comfortable around me so they approve of me and do NOT c0ckblock me
 

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Hello fellas, I had been rejected most of the time with different kind of approaches until i came up with this one:

Act like you kinda know her or something...

Me: Hey Wendy (just guess any name)
Her: Hey, my names not Wendy.
Me: What's your name then?
Her: Mary
Me: O hi Mary

then go for the kill.

Here's a funny experience i had doing cold approach, as i approach a chick and she saw me approaching her, as i was about to say my piece...

Her: "Back...off."
Me: "Sheesh, just want to say you had a black centipede crawling on your shoulders." then i turn back and walk away with a big grin on my face. lol
 

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Went out Saturday night with my friends & had oppurtunities to approach women, but didn't so bad night.

In the last bar I was sat down & turned round to HB9 & said "if someone walked in here & saw us two, do you think that they would think we were married? She thought for a few seconds then said "no"
About a minute later my friend asked me what I said..when I told him he laughed that hard that he nearly had a heart attack so at least I amused him.
I also spoke to a few of her friends & had some fun with them. Im quite certain HB9 had a boyfriend/husband in the bar. I caught her looking at me a couple of times after my earlier interaction with her.
 

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Walking around town yesterday during daytime:-

Walking past a HB8..

Rainman : I need your opinion on something.

HB8: What is it?

Rainman: Well, it's about jealousy. My friends girlfriend gets jealous when he talks to other women. She's great & he really likes her, but when they are out in a group & he's social with other women she can't handle it.

HB8 : Sounds like she's insecure.

Rainman : Yeah, I'm actually looking for a new girl, maybe that could be you.

HB8 : Hmm, I'm engaged (shows me her ring)

Rainman : Ok, thanks for your opinion. Toodles.



Walking past a HB7 asked for her opinion on something, she walked past laughing said "no"

Automatically I approached a couple of birds who were sitting chatting. I wa s friendly & chatted to them for 5. I was'nt that keen on approaching birds who are sitting down, but will do it from now on.
 
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