Thought I'd give you guys an update on the situation.
You guys have been great here thank you again, and I'm sorry to tell you that I went there again.
You probably feel like I just totaly ignored you all and I guess thats true, I can't honestly tell you why after knowing all that I know would still go back there... I just sorta did.
Unfortantley (for me) I wasn't able to resist her for long and broke the no contact rule the first attempt she made at contacting me.
I agree'd to still see her on the friday as we had planned, she had previously asked me to book that day off so we could spend the day together, which I had already done.
So I pick her up on thursday from the train station after work, but I wasn't comftable with her,and I wasn't really saying much and I guess I was just a bit 'off' with her, She was constantly asking me what was wrong and if I was o.k and trying to get me to tell her whats bothering me, but I just kept replying with nothing I'm just tired. I wanted to get her back and try and discuss all the things that were bothering me, but for some reason never seemed to find the right time. Anyway a uncomftable evening passed and we both go to bed, we didn't have sex since she was on her period but to be honest the way I was feeling that night I doubt I could have even if she wasn't.
The next morning we wake up late for something she wanted to do, and straight away she starts having a go at me for not checking the time earlier on when I woke up and went back to sleep. I got up out of bed and went into the bathroom, when I got back she said work has just texted her asking her to go in that day, I was pissed off,I went into the kitchen in a huff, she then gets the total ass and starts having a go at me for being in a mood, I said "you asked me to take today off so we could spend the day together and now your going to go into work, and I'm not allowed to be pissed off! where's the logic in that" and walked out of the room again.
Anyway I took her to work at 12 and didn't hear from her again till later that night when she text me saying "I can't be with you anymore, you got really funny about me working and I need to work for kids, I will be in contact with you about my stuff so please dont ring me or text me anymore." by now (and I really mean this) I was DONE with her and replied "yeah fair enough thats how I feel too. Bye hername."
That was friday and Iv'e not heard from her since, I've not tried to contact her either.
Since then I've read LOADS on BPD and all the cluster bombs personalites, even read the book 'stop waling on eggshells', and everything I read was re-living encouters with this girl.
Anyway we were 'off' again now, I still feel like s**t but I do feel more informed and less confused than I have done previously... I guess I'm not looking for the closure that i was looking for the other times we've been 'off'.
Thanks again everyone, even though I didn't follow your advice, I never doubted it either.