I can't stop thinking about her (long post)
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SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
I would not try to analyze anything this nutty said.
She's bat sh1t crazy and a user.
Slam the door and get on with your life.
Go through the recovery phases like any breakup and he happy you never knocked her up (yikes!).
I've seen a couple nutties like this in my time (however not in my social circle), just get out.
No need to label her as BPD or anything, just a future of doom and gloom.
NC and start healing!
Consider yourself lucky.
SH
She's bat sh1t crazy and a user.
Slam the door and get on with your life.
Go through the recovery phases like any breakup and he happy you never knocked her up (yikes!).
I've seen a couple nutties like this in my time (however not in my social circle), just get out.
No need to label her as BPD or anything, just a future of doom and gloom.
NC and start healing!
Consider yourself lucky.
SH
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Man this is funny as hell. I'm sorry. Your lacking common sense in the game my boy. Now all I got to say is you should have dropped this girl after strike 3.
1. She is crazy. She met you on POF and days later she wants to be in a relationship with you.
2. She lied about having a child.
3. She lied about having 2 other children.
4. She lied about having your baby and a miscarriage.
5. She keeps breaking up with you and getting back with you.
6. She spends the night at another dudes house.
7. Girl is disrespecting you.
8. This girl lied saying she was going to nans crib.
9. This girl lied saying she got "raped" and she couldn't call the cops because cops would have put her in her place.
I hope this girl is Beyonce. This is the only way in HELL that I can see somebody going back and forth to this girl. Playa go ahead and read this:
http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/
Drop this girl now and delete her from everything. You don't need to even come in contact with this girl. For an advanced playa I'd tell them to keep this girl as a jumpoff but your not there yet. Just cut all contact NOW. This girl will and can ruin your life if you let her.
1. She is crazy. She met you on POF and days later she wants to be in a relationship with you.
2. She lied about having a child.
3. She lied about having 2 other children.
4. She lied about having your baby and a miscarriage.
5. She keeps breaking up with you and getting back with you.
6. She spends the night at another dudes house.
7. Girl is disrespecting you.
8. This girl lied saying she was going to nans crib.
9. This girl lied saying she got "raped" and she couldn't call the cops because cops would have put her in her place.
I hope this girl is Beyonce. This is the only way in HELL that I can see somebody going back and forth to this girl. Playa go ahead and read this:
http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/
Drop this girl now and delete her from everything. You don't need to even come in contact with this girl. For an advanced playa I'd tell them to keep this girl as a jumpoff but your not there yet. Just cut all contact NOW. This girl will and can ruin your life if you let her.
Shockwavedave
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What age is this woman?
She sounds either ridiculously childish, or a complete looper who clearly has a lot of mental issues.
Stay clear man. Might be hard for you to let go, but you need to do it. Going through that is just a waste of your time and effort.
She sounds either ridiculously childish, or a complete looper who clearly has a lot of mental issues.
Stay clear man. Might be hard for you to let go, but you need to do it. Going through that is just a waste of your time and effort.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Yeah its a joke, but unfortantly every word is true. Which brings me to wonder if it was such a good idea going into so much detail. I guess it just helped to mull it all over.
anyway im gonna take it down, like u said it can be seen from space and to be honest with you... for what ever crazy reason I wouldn't want her to somehow come across it.
anyway im gonna take it down, like u said it can be seen from space and to be honest with you... for what ever crazy reason I wouldn't want her to somehow come across it.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
Hahahahahaha, first good laugh in a while.st_99 said:
(not your story deep, but st_99's ingenuity)
Sh
Thanks for that.st_99 said:
Classic tale. Any chick who comes on that strong is nuts. The only way to keep that kind around -- if you're so inclined to, for whatever reason -- is disregard them and blow them off frequently.
Since it's been 'ressurected' I'd like to talk about it.
I didn't realise before but it turns out that she changed her profile picture from one of us both together to one of her by her self at 10pm the night she dissapeared.
That added to the random message I got that clearly wasn't intended for me, tells me she was obviously meeting another guy that night.
What I don't get is why I got all the theatricals early hours of the morning, She must KNOW that I know what's going on...... it obvious.
I feel sick to my stomach right now, I know I need to drop her and I know I need to take a long hard look at myself, but I can't bring myself to do it and thats the worse part of it all.
She has tons of stuff at my place aswell so even if I can muster up the backbone to drop her, It's not going to be a simple case of no contact.
I didn't realise before but it turns out that she changed her profile picture from one of us both together to one of her by her self at 10pm the night she dissapeared.
That added to the random message I got that clearly wasn't intended for me, tells me she was obviously meeting another guy that night.
What I don't get is why I got all the theatricals early hours of the morning, She must KNOW that I know what's going on...... it obvious.
I feel sick to my stomach right now, I know I need to drop her and I know I need to take a long hard look at myself, but I can't bring myself to do it and thats the worse part of it all.
She has tons of stuff at my place aswell so even if I can muster up the backbone to drop her, It's not going to be a simple case of no contact.
Oh man, just skimmed through the OP. She's a nutter man. BPD most likely. I had a 1.5 month long romp with one fresh out of my ex-marriage when I was still very naive in the ways of the womenfolk. Even in my pre-DJ days it only took me 1.5 months to realize this girl was a vampire, and so I cut it off completely. And yes then she pulled the pregnant, and then mis-carriage thing. I was shaking my head as I read that in your OP: it's like these succubuses have a play-book they all follow or something. Trust me man, excise this girl from your life like a tumor. The sooner the better.
Greasy Pig
Master Don Juan
OP, please listen because I can tell you're in a dark, dark place.
But everyone here has been in that place and guess what? We clawed our way out.
Be rid of this woman NOW. Pack up all her sh1t and leave it on the front doorstep and tell her to come get it.
Or pack it in your car, drive over there and leave it.
This woman will bring you down and sap your very life force. You can't let that happen!!
I don't give a fvck if you look like the elephant man, you'll be able to find 100 girls of better quality than this one.
Be rid of bad rubbish and walk away. There will be hurt for a while but each day away from this trashbag psycho is one day closer to happiness.
You really owe it to yourself and your reputation to move on. The amount of stress she is putting you through will send you to an early grave.
You don't that, you don't need her. You do need to grow some fvcking balls and step back in to the light.
No pvssy is worth losing your sanity over. NOT ONE.
Now you find your spine, hold your chin up, shoulders back and walk confidently away. Delete her number, delete her Facebook, block her on POF and do NOT answer the phone under any circumstances.
I don't give a fvck if she tells you she is on fire. You are now a ghost. You're a ninja throwing smoke like a muthafvcker.
Get out or she will hurt you more than you can ever imagine.
Seriously mate. Get out now. This is one of the saddest and most enraging threads I've read on here.
Good luck.
But everyone here has been in that place and guess what? We clawed our way out.
Be rid of this woman NOW. Pack up all her sh1t and leave it on the front doorstep and tell her to come get it.
Or pack it in your car, drive over there and leave it.
This woman will bring you down and sap your very life force. You can't let that happen!!
I don't give a fvck if you look like the elephant man, you'll be able to find 100 girls of better quality than this one.
Be rid of bad rubbish and walk away. There will be hurt for a while but each day away from this trashbag psycho is one day closer to happiness.
You really owe it to yourself and your reputation to move on. The amount of stress she is putting you through will send you to an early grave.
You don't that, you don't need her. You do need to grow some fvcking balls and step back in to the light.
No pvssy is worth losing your sanity over. NOT ONE.
Now you find your spine, hold your chin up, shoulders back and walk confidently away. Delete her number, delete her Facebook, block her on POF and do NOT answer the phone under any circumstances.
I don't give a fvck if she tells you she is on fire. You are now a ghost. You're a ninja throwing smoke like a muthafvcker.
Get out or she will hurt you more than you can ever imagine.
Seriously mate. Get out now. This is one of the saddest and most enraging threads I've read on here.
Good luck.
Hey again thanks again to all who took the time to read and reply, I do apprecieate it.
I am in a dark place, I cant concentrate on anything not even at work, I've started spending my evenings sitting in a chair going over and over everything that has happened obessively checking her facebook for clues and reading through all my messages trying to cross the Ts, I feel like this has consumed me.
O.K So I think I'm just about a point of no return within myself, she has 'played' me since the day she met me and I have been a f*****g idiot to myself and shown a serious lack of respect for my friends who have been telling me since day one things wernt right.
I don't know how to go forward from here yet though, Do I just delete all trace of her right now at work and run her stuff to her Nans tonight when she is working? guess that would be the less confrontational but it seems cold to not even explain why I'm doing it, but then I suppose she will already know why.
I am in a dark place, I cant concentrate on anything not even at work, I've started spending my evenings sitting in a chair going over and over everything that has happened obessively checking her facebook for clues and reading through all my messages trying to cross the Ts, I feel like this has consumed me.
O.K So I think I'm just about a point of no return within myself, she has 'played' me since the day she met me and I have been a f*****g idiot to myself and shown a serious lack of respect for my friends who have been telling me since day one things wernt right.
I don't know how to go forward from here yet though, Do I just delete all trace of her right now at work and run her stuff to her Nans tonight when she is working? guess that would be the less confrontational but it seems cold to not even explain why I'm doing it, but then I suppose she will already know why.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
My god yes, run her stuff to her nans.
Then lock her out of your life. Burn every contact, picture, link.
If you can block her phone number, do it.
Get the contact info off your phone, drop the FB links, everything.
You know you have no other choice.
Sometimes you have to face the cold hard facts - some people are just bad!
To help me put this in perspective - this obsession of yours, how long had it been before her since you got some?
Did you ever get some with such an attractive woman (if she was).
I sense part of this has to do with the way she made you feel about yourself.
Any truth to this, or not even in the ballpark.
Point is, understanding the "need" helps to see it for what it is and take steps to eliminate it.
SH
Then lock her out of your life. Burn every contact, picture, link.
If you can block her phone number, do it.
Get the contact info off your phone, drop the FB links, everything.
You know you have no other choice.
Sometimes you have to face the cold hard facts - some people are just bad!
To help me put this in perspective - this obsession of yours, how long had it been before her since you got some?
Did you ever get some with such an attractive woman (if she was).
I sense part of this has to do with the way she made you feel about yourself.
Any truth to this, or not even in the ballpark.
Point is, understanding the "need" helps to see it for what it is and take steps to eliminate it.
SH
I've dealt with a woman like this before, but unlike you there was no clean means of separation as she also happened to be a coworker. She made my personal and professional life a fresh batch of hell every morning.
Break off all communication with her and means of communication.
Erase any lingering and tangible connection with her, including any belongings.
Do not simply downgrade her to a friend/acquaintance...remove her from your life completely.
Do not attempt to reestablish contact with her at a later period, believing you can handle the situation better the second go-around.
In desperation, she will pretend to go along with your wishes and simply ask for a small favor...PERFORM NO FAVORS, regardless of its significance to you.
Most importantly, you need to refill the void this woman's absence will cause in your life and schedule. Keep yourself busy and committed to other matters. Hang out with friends more, indulge in new hobbies and activities, get lost in a tv show, book, or video game. The only habit worse than being with this woman is drugs, and even that is debatable.
Good luck brother
Break off all communication with her and means of communication.
Erase any lingering and tangible connection with her, including any belongings.
Do not simply downgrade her to a friend/acquaintance...remove her from your life completely.
Do not attempt to reestablish contact with her at a later period, believing you can handle the situation better the second go-around.
In desperation, she will pretend to go along with your wishes and simply ask for a small favor...PERFORM NO FAVORS, regardless of its significance to you.
Most importantly, you need to refill the void this woman's absence will cause in your life and schedule. Keep yourself busy and committed to other matters. Hang out with friends more, indulge in new hobbies and activities, get lost in a tv show, book, or video game. The only habit worse than being with this woman is drugs, and even that is debatable.
Good luck brother
She has text me saying "wow not evening a good morning today guessing were not alright then" I replied saying I was just bust today, but only because I don't want to give her the satisfaction of being the 'dumper' again, But she's on to me and has now gone no contact.
Well I came out of an LTR when I was 26, between then and 'her' I had 2 other relationships, one lasted a couple of months and the other a couple of weeks, They were both some time ago 3 years or more. She isn't that attractive to be honest, Well I've been with far better looking girls in the past inc my LTR.
Well I came out of an LTR when I was 26, between then and 'her' I had 2 other relationships, one lasted a couple of months and the other a couple of weeks, They were both some time ago 3 years or more. She isn't that attractive to be honest, Well I've been with far better looking girls in the past inc my LTR.
