I called her and she didn't pick up the phone

[coin]

Quick and bp thanks for the prompt responses, yall are lifesavers -

Ok I can admit I am being a little too nice. I need to go back and read some more of the DJB.

btw, what is Kino? I have figured out what IL and LTR mean, but this one still confusing me.

 

[coin]

Ok. What should I say to the girl I don't like, then? I have no intention of stringing her along and I haven't done that, but nor have I come up with a diplomatic way of telling her I'm not interested.

 

[bp1974]

Quick and bp thanks for the prompt responses, yall are lifesavers

That's great, but it still didn't stop you feeling the need to call her. You really really need to work on that. How many girls do you think would receive a rejection from a guy, and then want to call him to wish him a fun time anyway? NONE!! And any that do, only confirm to the guy that he was right to turn that doormat down.

KINO=physical touching. A hand on her arm or on her hip, etc. Use your imagination.

bp1974

 

[Survivor]

Originally posted by coin
Actually there is a girl that is very interested in me, but I have zero interest in her. (I think she talks too much and I find her pretty annoying)

It is very obvious that this other girl likes me - she has even enlisted her office coworkers in her efforts, every time I see one of them they tell me how much I brighten her day when I come by. Just yesterday she came by to give me some raisins because she thought I was working too hard.

Any way I can spin this?

This is a case where social proof would not work.

The word "LOSER" is branded on your forehead everytime she sees you. The damage has been done. The pool has been p!ssed in. There nothing short of winning the lotto thats going to rekindle the interest that, quite frankly, was probably never there to begin with.

Coin, you could set up a BJ booth next to her desk, drop your pants and have every other woman at work immediately rush in line to service you... and she'd still consider you a loser.

Limit contact with this girl, find other things to do, then wait patiently for your mind to purge itself of the fantasies you've poisoned it with.

Doctor Survivor prescribes heavy dosages of TIME to cure you of your severe case of oneitis.

 

[coin]

What is oneitis? I have not seen this term explained in the DJB yet.

 

[Survivor]

Originally posted by coin
What is oneitis? I have not seen this term explained in the DJB yet.

Man, you are new!

Oneitis occurs when a guy lacks purpose and fulfillment in his own life, and unconciously tries to rectify this problem by projecting all of his hopes and dreams onto the body of an attractive woman. He then proceeds to inject his personality into her body. This leads him to believe that the woman is attracted to him simply because he is attracted to her.

What makes oneitis so crippling is that it is self-reinforcing. In almost every case presented to this forum, the woman has done nothing to cause the disease except look pretty.

Many women are tempted to take advatage of poor saps afflicted with oneitis, using them for compliments, social proof, dates, money, and other ego boosting treats. There are times when even the woman's rejection only serves to feed into the guy's fantasy. At this advanced state of oneitis, any interaction with the woman of his desires is viewed in his mind as positive.

Oneitis is best cured by cutting off the people and/or things (gifts, pictures) that help aggrivate the disease, then giving yourself lots of time to:

1) find other things to do and;

2) purge your mind of the fantasies you've poisoned it with.

You can find out more by typing "oneitis" in the search engine.

 

[coin]

Hmm, thanks for the info.

That sounds pretty severe. I don't think I lack fulfillment and purpose in my own life, but that part about "any contact being interpreted as positive" is close to home.

I don't generally behave like this and to be honest, I feel stupid more than anything else. I think I was infatuated but I think calling it oneitis is a bit extreme.

Then again, i'm not the expert.

 

[Bill]

I just read the title and the word NEXT came to my mind for no apparent reason. Weird...
Peace.

 

[Survivor]

Originally posted by coin
Hmm, thanks for the info.

That sounds pretty severe. I don't think I lack fulfillment and purpose in my own life, but that part about "any contact being interpreted as positive" is close to home.

I don't generally behave like this and to be honest, I feel stupid more than anything else. I think I was infatuated but I think calling it oneitis is a bit extreme.

Then again, i'm not the expert.

Oneitis is just a term thats bounced around on this forum. I was just having fun with it.

Don't take it too seriously.

Take Care.

 

[One on One]

In layman's terms, one-itis is when you are so blindly infatuated with one girl that you don't try to date others.

 

[coin]

Ok, then I do have oneitis. But I think it's down - I am still thinking about her too much but I think I will be fine by tomorrow.

I will keep an eye out for other prospects.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

dammit..had to change my screen name...back to 1 post..hahaha..oh well..who the hell is really counting anyway..

coin..hope you doin good bro. keep us posted

 

[coin]

I'm doing GREAT. Unbelieveably well - check my other post!